First, make sure that the other person is the one you want.
Many people are in the fog, and even the lovers who will accompany them all their lives are chosen by others for him. But now couples, why there are many unpleasant things, or want to divorce for no reason? Because I chose the wrong person from the beginning. I have a friend, Xiao Zhao, who met her ex-husband on a blind date. In fact, at that time, she was old and her parents were anxious, but she didn't particularly want to get married. But being accused and suspected by my mother, I think it would be a good thing to get married early and get rid of this family relationship.
After falling in love and getting married, I found that people who treat marriage as a joke can only be reduced to ridicule and become prisoners locked in the wall of marriage life, which is not happy at all. Therefore, it is important to make sure that the other person is the person you want, not the person others expect you to choose. Because the other party only sees superficial things, but after falling in love and getting married, only they can really understand.
Second, above all else.
There is a classic line in Ode to Joy: Empty talk is the most important thing to be a man. Whether you make a boyfriend or a general friend, you will look at your character first, and then you will be a person. Therefore, the communication between men and women actually takes a long time to observe each other's performance, and whether there is any horizontal treatment when encountering problems, including whether there is spiritual beauty. Even if a man loves himself more, but he is poor, don't have a marriage relationship with him casually. Because after * * *, you will find that his gentleness is useless and can't support your minimum living guarantee at all.
If a woman has a bad personality, she will live a very snobbish life, pointing at others all the time and being tolerant of her lover, even if it is possible at first, but after a long time, her nature will be exposed and her temper will become bigger and bigger. Kazuo inamori, a famous entrepreneur, once said: When choosing a successor, it is more important to pay attention to being a man than to the level of contribution, which is also the key to selecting talents. In fact, this also applies to what men and women should care about when choosing close lovers.
Third, personal hobbies are consistent with the three views.
Chen Da wrote in "Essays": The situation is different and will not be evaluated; Different cognition, no argument; There is no need to be strong because the three views are different. What couples or lovers are most afraid of is that their personal hobbies are different from the three views.
She said that I like romantic movies and boys like war movies. They agreed to rest at home and watch movies together, and finally got angry because of the different themes of their favorite movies. The man said I would go fishing, but the woman didn't want to wait. She asked the man to go shopping with the woman. In the end, both of them have been suffering. When watching news events, women reprimanded the defendant, but boys said the defendant was right to do that. Things like this will push each other further and further. Life is so stressful now, we want to find a lover who can be said to be cured, instead of making trouble for ourselves.
Therefore, before establishing intimate relationship, it is also important to distinguish whether he and you are co-stars. Mei Jie's emotional conclusion: before heterosexual intercourse and marriage, these three things must be done: determine whether the other person is the person you want; Above all else; And whether personal hobbies conform to the three views. Just like you need to do warm-up exercise before fitness exercise, if the preparation is not comprehensive, you will easily get hurt in the end. The same is true of emotions. If you don't choose someone who understands you attentively, then love and marriage should not be a good thing.