Matters needing attention in online dating: With the development of the Internet, online dating has become a new way of love communication. In order to further develop the relationship, many people will choose online dating, but there will always be a certain gap between reality and virtuality, so how to correctly online dating? I summed up the precautions of online dating, let's take a look!
Notes on online dating: 1 How to avoid silence in online dating?
If you think that embarrassment will lead to silence, then you must try to talk about something happy and find something familiar to you. Boys should not talk nonsense about games, and girls should not talk nonsense about beauty. Don't be too cold when two people meet for the first time. You should remember that the other person is the person you like and be enthusiastic. So that ta will have a good impression on you.
If the person you meet is not your type, then you must remember, don't be indifferent, get along with him like a friend, and don't turn around and leave. This is a disrespect for ta. As long as you master these methods, you won't be afraid or embarrassed when online dating runs away. Feel free to chat with ta!
How to avoid embarrassment in online dating
1, break the strangeness and show more intrinsic value.
Since girls agree to meet online, it shows that your external value is up to standard. In order to avoid the embarrassment when you meet for the first time, you need to take the initiative to break the strangeness and show your intrinsic value, such as asking girls how they got here, whether they had a good rest on the road, applying the care in online chat to real life and maintaining consistency.
2. Take preventive measures in advance.
Since we know the power of beauty camera and PS technology, we should implant disappointment expectations for ourselves in advance, lower the girl's photo face value by a few points, and then lower the other party's expectations, but we should pay attention to the process of slowly lowering psychological expectations, and don't deviate too much from the girl's views on you.
Step 3 break the embarrassment with your own nickname
Strangeness and embarrassment will inevitably appear in the process of online dating. Generally, we will give each other exclusive nicknames in online chat, and inadvertently hand over each other's nicknames in chat, which can close our intimacy and break the strange and embarrassing situation.
How to find a topic in online dating?
1, "Are you hungry?"
Don't think this sentence is not credible. In fact, it is because this sentence is considered as a polite remark that it is more suitable for that scene, because whenever we meet and the other party arrives, we will find that any time is suitable for dinner. If you leave early, can you ask if you have breakfast? If you leave late, can you ask if you are hungry, and then suggest going to lunch. So, if you find out, this is a panacea.
2. "I know a good place Do you want to see it? "
If you decide not to eat or have finished eating after consultation, you can tell the other person that you know a great place and ask them if they want to go. In fact, the other party will generally agree, even if you refuse, it will ease the embarrassment a little, so this sentence is a reward for high emotional intelligence.
3. "Is there any interesting place in your home?"
Two people always have a chance to chat. What should I do if I suddenly get stuck in the chat? Asking this sentence can perfectly resolve the embarrassment of thinking being stuck and avoid the silence. But be sure to pay attention to the expression and way of asking questions, show interest, and don't let the other person think that you are just perfunctory.
Online Dating and Chatting Skills
1, simple greeting+cutting into your own information = breaking the ice quickly
In the process of online dating, the sooner you get girls out of the strangeness, the faster you can warm up this relationship. At this time, you need to simply express your concern for girls and show your value to win girls' favor, such as:
"Are you tired on the way here? We're getting stuck here. Dare not drive at work. I'd better ride an electric car quickly. "
2, seize the keyword+expand the topic = chat.
Meeting girls online is different from chatting online. We don't have much time to find a topic. If you can't find a suitable topic to talk about, you can constantly capture keywords from girls' words and then expand them, such as:
Girl: "The scenery here is not bad."
Boy: "yes, this area is very lively." I come back here when I have time. There is a gymnasium nearby. I come here to exercise on weekends. What do you usually do on weekends? "
There are actually many keywords in the chat. At this time, grab the girl's words and keep expanding, so that there will be no topic to talk about, but you must leave room for the other party to talk in your reply and ask the girl while answering questions.
3. Facing embarrassment+actively looking for words = perfectly coping with embarrassment.
No matter how well prepared we are, there will inevitably be awkward moments of silence. At this time, we will face up to the embarrassment, take the initiative to admit the embarrassment, and lead the topic out, such as:
"I had a good chat online. Why are you so nervous about meeting? I can't even talk. It's embarrassing. I remember when I was a child, my teacher called me up to answer questions. What about you? "
Notes on online dating II. Be cautious about upgrading the online dating relationship.
Any relationship has every stage, which is the initial stage of love. From the beginning of meeting, it is the beginning of chatting with each other, and then confirm that the relationship is very warm. Then we will reveal some very private information. At this time, you will feel that you have invaded the space for further consolidation, but at the same time, you should be extra careful. Do you really know your feelings with him? Do you know anything about his family and study? Where do more girls than you can think of come from for their birthdays? Who is his best friend? The best and fastest way to know a person is to know the people around him, evaluate him and deepen the degree of online love step by step, so you must be very careful when you get to the back and know him well enough. Ask yourself if you know him, so that you can know if he is lying to you.
Online dating should correctly understand the gap between the two sides.
In the process of online dating, we are usually deceived by photos, his looks, economic relations and money, which is what we often say. Before you get together, think about what you have in common with him. Why are you two together? Why can you talk well? Is she always talking to you, or are you always in a passive position, or are both working together? Is there an economic gap between him and you? What makes this gap coordinate? Then, improve feelings, don't be confused by each other's appearance and voice, and keep a rational state. When you know the difference between the two of you, sometimes you can feel the abnormal reasons. That kind of love between beauty and beast, prince and ugly duckling is hard to appear in online dating. If you are not good enough, then others can rarely learn about your other advantages through your mobile phone screen.
Stay rational and communicate more when online dating.
Many times, we all need rationality. Sometimes, this reason may be considered by others as no feelings and no understanding of feelings, but in any relationship, we need to keep this state, especially online dating. Speaking of cash flow, this important decision still needs to be made. Think first, then communicate with friends. Don't make this decision alone, consult a friend or tell someone you think is reliable. Can we not have cash flow or something? You can give an example, let him analyze it for you, give another person an idea, and seriously think about his pioneer, because you may be in love. We have all heard that women in love have zero IQ, which makes us lose our minds.
Usually online dating is beautiful.
Most people choose online dating because of the beauty of the online world, and we can show things that have never been shown in life. Some disgusting words can't be said in reality, but it's easy to type and send them online. We can talk about a relationship without taking responsibility, and we can easily say goodbye when we are bored. We are overwhelmed by the pressure of life, but we also want to have a sweet love. Online dating can satisfy these fantasies and create more opportunities for most singles to meet friends of the opposite sex.
Reality is always full of pressure.
Some people say that falling in love is a test of money. Some people say that it takes enough time to fall in love. In reality, falling in love always goes through various tests. Life is hard. Why do you want to find pressure for yourself? Falling in love costs money, yes. It is very troublesome to think of each other when doing anything in love. But our life is based on reality and cannot be separated from reality. The pressure of reality is inevitable. Being born in reality means returning to reality.