Family is the root of children's psychological growth. The following is a family puzzle behind the assassination of an overseas student's mother, which I carefully arranged for you. Welcome to reading.
Wang, a 24-year-old Japanese student, stabbed his 52-year-old mother to death at Shanghai Pudong Airport in full view. This time, the international students stabbed their mother? The case and some time ago? Yao Jiaxin was killed? Together, once again set off a reflection on China's family education: Why did such tragedies happen one after another? Who on earth made the children lift that sharp knife?
Undeniably, no matter? Mother was stabbed? Or? Yao Jiaxin was killed? , are extreme cases. However, behind the frequent cases, there are also worrying personality health conditions of Chinese teenagers. Many experts and institutions interviewed by China Newsweek said that the lack of family education in the social transition period has accelerated the development of adolescent mental illness in China in recent ten years. In this case, Wang's status as an international student should arouse social concern about the mental health of international students.
Family education is the most basic link of a family, a society, a country and a nation. In the past few decades, our contempt for it is bearing fruit, which is hidden in concrete and vivid individual personality and gradually affects the whole society. There is no winner in failed family education. Children and parents are victims. Especially the incident of foreign students stabbing their mothers.
Although the public security organs have started the psychiatric appraisal procedure for Wang at the application of the Wangs, China still obtained the fragments of Wang's life, restored his growth experience and family life, and explored the deep-seated causes of this human tragedy.
Family confusion behind mother's assassination
Behind the tragic scene, there is a tragic family: a grumpy father, a docile mother, and a son with a shiny appearance and holes in his heart.
Juvenile wreckage
Wang Junjun is the only son of Wang Jia's youngest son, Wang Jianxin. Born in 1987, he is inevitably regarded as the apple of his eye by the whole family.
The army knows this street very well. From the age of 10, he often went to his grandparents' home and threw himself into their arms. At that time, the army, who was still in primary school, would fold their clothes neatly and put them on the bedside before going to bed. He is a good boy.
In 2000, Grandpa registered a hardware store in front of his home with a registered capital of 50,000 yuan, and he became a legal person himself.
I had hoped that this store would bring a turn for the whole family. However, contrary to expectations, the hardware store has not become the source of motivation for the whole family, but has become the constant demand of the family? Pandora's box? .
The children quarreled with their father for many years for the right to operate the shop. Neighbors often see fingerprints and even cracks on Wang Jiacheng's face, and they are secretly worried about this family.
The daughter-in-law downstairs once saw Grandpa Wang quarreling with the children and was pushed down the steps under the kitchen stove of her house. Fortunately, everything is fine. Neighbors know that the Wangs are grumpy, but she is still afraid: I don't know what will happen if Grandpa Wang is hit by a kettle on her stove.
The army grew up in this noisy environment.
The last time he appeared here was when he returned to Shanghai from Japan to visit relatives during the Spring Festival this year. By then, he had grown from a well-behaved child to a 24-year-old adult.
? Explosive barrel? father
In the eyes of neighbors, Wang Jianxin is well known? Explosive barrel? , is the most unstable factor in the Wangs. He is neither tall nor thin, and looks very capable. Eyes are big, usually with fine features, but when you lose your temper, your eyes will pop out. Once there is a contradiction, even in the face of family, from father to brother and sister, he will not be soft; Outside, he often solves problems with his fists.
Neighbors described that Gu's mother was in front of her, just like? Chicken? Just as obedient. She also thought about divorce, but somehow, the marriage continued in constant conflict.
Patriarchal shadow
In front of the army, this demanding and irritable man is a father who can never disobey.
Wang Jianxin often tells the army: You must be better than others, so that you won't be bullied. ?
In order to make the army stronger, he made a complete fitness plan for the army: running, lifting dumbbells and practicing horizontal bar. As long as he is free to study, he will do such training because he believes that he will be bullied when he is young.
In order to satisfy his father, Wang Junjun has been working hard in all aspects. Probably inherited his father's style, the army demanded a lot of everything and was strong and stubborn. It is said that when he meets something he can't do well, he also hits his head against the wall.
In 2002, the Army entered a famous vocational school in Shanghai and chose the business English major that Wang Jianxin expected.
However, the failure of the senior high school entrance examination has always been a knot in Wang Jianxin's mind. He is also dissatisfied with this middle school and insists that he can't get ahead after graduating from such a school. He summed up his son's way out with his own life experience: studying business, going abroad and making money.
At the strong request of Wang Jianxin, in 2006, the Army dropped out of junior college and went to Japan. Wang Jianxin himself was introduced by a friend. At the end of 2009, he went to the United States to work alone and earned the first bucket of gold in his life.
Studying abroad alone
The independence of the army really began in Tokyo.
Although studying abroad was designed for him by his father, it does not seem to prevent the army from enjoying the free air away from patriarchy.
The army first stayed at the elder sister-in-law's house. Soon, he decided to live alone. His rent is about 12000 yuan per month. According to people familiar with the Japanese situation, it is much higher than that of ordinary China students and equivalent to the rent level of ordinary white-collar workers in Tokyo.
After careful dressing, this army is more and more like an upgraded version of Wang Jianxin. He is very particular about brands and has more and more clothes. With fashionable clothes and handsome appearance, Wang Junjun began to attract girls' attention.
The most obvious change probably happened in this year's Spring Festival.
Wang Junjun, who used to be talkative, became a little silent. She once said to her little aunt, There seems to be a machine in my ear, and there is always noise. ?
Last time I went home, my uncle chatted with him. He burst out laughing, and then stopped abruptly. The topic was not funny at all. Jun Jun also told grandma? I don't know what happened. I can't help it ?
Everyone thought it was a little strange, but nobody cared. Unexpectedly, two months later, a crazy scene happened at Pudong Airport.
A family of three used to be scattered in Shanghai, America and Japan. Today, the two of them finally gather in the same city. However, one is in a detention center and the other is in a hospital.
The one who stabbed his parents? Knife?
A bright fruit knife stabbed Gu's mother's body in succession, one knife, two knives and one * * * nine knives. In public, mother fell in a pool of blood. Afterwards, the heartbroken mother was lying in the hospital and told the media that she saw her son take something from the bag. Unexpectedly, he took out a knife and stabbed me. ?
This knife not only stabbed a mother's body, but also stung the criticized family education in China.
The confusion of 30 million teenagers is accelerating.
? I have been paying attention to this problem for at least ten years, and now there is an accelerating trend. ? Yang Xiong, director of the Institute of Teenagers of Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences, told China Newsweek that compared with ten years ago, the psychological problems of teenagers are more prominent now, such as anxiety, poor sleep, heavy study pressure and interpersonal withdrawal. According to the report "Survival and Development of Children in China: Data and Analysis" published by China Children's Center in 2006, at least 30 million children under the age of 0/7 in China suffer from various emotional disorders and behavioral problems.
Another worrying problem is that these problems have no obvious symptoms in middle school, and they only appear in college, and some of them have developed into serious personality problems.
The lack of personality education in the transitional period
Efficient economic development requires highly competitive people to invest in it, and adults trapped by this trend will inevitably pass on this competitive pressure to their children. Under this competitive logic, academic performance has become the most important symbol to measure the success of education, and so-called specialties such as piano have also become chips to improve competitiveness.
Wang Fang, a personality teacher at Beijing Normal University, believes that what has this kind of education taught children from primary school? Paying attention to external standards and goals, such as grades, such as what you have, also leads children to build their life value on these things? . She said that society is in a complex transition period. No one thinks that the social environment and education system can be reversed or broken overnight, but parents can weaken the influence of the environment in family education. More emphasis on inner care and growth? .
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