I looked puzzled when I saw this hot search. Who is this?
Some people say that we have met more stay-at-home moms, and only after seeing nurse Xiao Qiang did we know that the life of stay-at-home dad was like this.
Yes, Dad Xiao Qiang is a full-time father.
He also has his own job and his wife is the general manager of a company. There is no help from the elderly at home, and there must always be someone to take care of the children at home.
In this way, Xiao Qiang decided to quit his job and concentrate on taking care of the baby at home.
The days of stay-at-home dad Xiao Qiang also began in the evening:
11:20,12: 00, 2: 00 ... He was awakened by the baby's "alarm clock" and got up in a hurry to make the baby sleep with milk powder.
It's 5 o'clock in the morning after a night of tossing.
So you can rest? Of course not!
Go out to buy food-1 hour;
Washing clothes, mopping the floor and cleaning the house-2 hours;
Cooking -2 hours;
Make milk powder, feed the baby and put the baby to sleep-10 times, 40 minutes each time;
Take the baby out for outdoor sports -2 hours ...
Compared with physical fatigue, Xiao Qiang was not relaxed.
Neighbors asked, "Why don't you have to go to work? Take care of the baby every day? 」
At first, he could earnestly say, "Men can also take care of their children at home. Your concept of parenting needs to be upgraded. 」
Later, he stopped explaining.
He took the baby to his wife's company and saw that the assistant was a handsome boy. He was a little sick, but he didn't say anything.
On May 20 19, he started his first day as a full-time nanny.
In August 2020, the divorce was officially announced.
When asked about the reasons for the divorce, Xiao Qiang only said one thing:
"The trivial private life of daily necessities is constantly eroding life, and feelings have been constantly impacting for so many years, leaving a chicken feather on the ground. 」
"Do you regret it? 」
"Do you want to hear the truth? 」
This is a conversation between a netizen and his father Xiao Qiang. When he experienced the trivial torture of life, he couldn't hide his fatigue and embarrassment of life.
We don't know what happened.
Xiao Qiang said that he has changed a lot since he took full-time care of the baby at home for more than a year. From a spirit guy to a tired uncle; Having experienced "postpartum depression", I also feel out of touch with society. ...
There is a sentence in the comment that comes from the heart:
The only man with children in the whole network, Bao Da, is divorced. I don't know how so many Ma Bao with children in China got to Du Jie.
Anyone who has experienced the hardships and tiredness of raising a baby alone knows it.
I have a friend who graduated from a famous university and was an executive of a startup company. Her husband has a successful career and bought the best school district for his children.
To outsiders, she is a winner in life.
Until one day, her mother-in-law gave her a blow-"When a mother just wants to make money, doesn't her child need education?" 」
It turns out that due to frequent business trips, she usually has little time to take care of her children, and most of them are given to her mother-in-law after birth.
After children go to kindergarten, teachers often complain that they can't sit still in class and their concentration is too poor.
In the face of the coming baby, other people's children have started all kinds of preparations, and her children can't even write a few words. ...
She asked herself, if she missed this stage of children's education, would she regret it in the future?
When there was a "yes" voice in her heart, she forced herself to let go and decided to be a full-time mother.
After all, a husband who is too busy to turn around is even more hopeless.
From then on, she began to send her children to various training courses and accompany them to participate in various activities. Every little thing in life should be done by yourself.
Tired, she often can't be gentle or even collapse occasionally when facing children.
However, I have to go through the road of "choice" on my knees.
Some mothers are completely passive when they return home.
There is no one at home to help look after the baby. Babies at home need to be fed when they are young. A little older, you need to pick up and drop off at school. It's not safe to hire a nanny, and it's expensive.
What shall we do? I can only quit my job and go home to take care of the baby full-time.
There is a video that once exploded the circle of friends, called "My wife has no job".
This wife, like most stay-at-home mothers, has several jobs and is available 24 hours a day.
However, in the eyes of her family, everything she did was taken for granted.
Not only do you have no confidence in spending money, but you are no longer hard-pressed to let your husband do housework.
Some time ago, a young mother wore pajamas and sat barefoot in the window of the corridor on the 0 th floor of the community 165438+ trying to jump.
When the police arrived at the scene, she was emotional and cried-
"My child is now 16 months old and will only call his father instead of his mother. He said I didn't get a good education! 」
"Children are born prematurely and learn to speak slowly. He blames me all! 」
"I am busy with children every day. He said I know how to play mobile phones! 」
After giving birth to the baby, she resigned and became a full-time mother. Taking care of children and doing housework is very busy every day.
The husband turned a blind eye to this, but instead scolded her for doing nothing all day and not even educating a child.
It's not physical fatigue that crushes stay-at-home mothers, but the pain in their hearts. When a person's efforts are ignored again and again, that kind of sadness is enough to eat a person's heart.
Sometimes, stay-at-home mothers have to put up with misunderstandings from their families.
A netizen complained that since she became a stay-at-home mother, she seldom bought clothes for herself.
Only once, she took advantage of the discount in the mall and bought herself a coat that she usually didn't want to buy.
After I bought it back, my mother-in-law began to get weird-
"Don't go to work again, dressed so decently? 」
"You should be more considerate of your husband, he is too hard. You must be able to live! 」
Mother-in-law's words cut her heart like a knife, and the knife cut blood.
Sometimes, stay-at-home mothers are a group of people who are excluded from "independent women".
Sometimes, even irrelevant outsiders will look at stay-at-home mothers with a condescending eye, thinking that they are "enjoying happiness", but they can't see what they have to pay.
It is even harder for stay-at-home mothers to return to the workplace.
In the variety show "I am an Actor", Xi Lan, the actor of Shen Meizhuang in "The Queen of the Palace", once said with emotion:
"I used to think that it didn't matter much if I gave birth to a child and stopped for a year or two. Because I have found a lot of plays before, I may be a little confident, but it is true that reality will hit me in the face. 」
Stars who stay at home full-time for a year or two after giving birth will be "abandoned" by the market, not to mention ordinary people.
Every stay-at-home mom is in Du Jie.
There is a suspense short film "A Pill", which once poked the tears of many stay-at-home mothers.
Miko in the short film resigned from home after giving birth to a baby, and focused her life on the child.
As a novice mother, crying children often make her physically and mentally exhausted.
Sometimes, she can't help being angry with the children.
The husband around him not only did not appease him, but also did not help with the children. Instead, he reprimanded her and asked her to
She tempered her temper.
After suffering again and again, she began to look trance-if there were no children, wouldn't I have to work so hard?
When going downhill, she tried to release the stroller in her hand.
At the moment when the child slipped away, she suddenly woke up and quickly held the child in her arms.
Later, when she came to the hospital, the doctor saw that she was in a bad mental state and prescribed a magic pill: as long as she took this pill, she could understand what the child was saying.
The doctor cried at the top of his voice in the middle of the night and there was no way to coax her. She quickly took a pill.
Miracle appeared, she actually understood the child's language, patted the child on the shoulder, patiently comforted.
Slowly, the child not only stopped crying, but also smiled.
Later, Miko got used to relying on pills. As soon as the child cried, she quickly took a pill.
With the help of the magic pill, the witch who can appease the child smoothly showed a long-lost smile on her face.
Side effects gradually appear:
Because of her long-term dependence on pills, she began to become more and more abnormal, like a child.
Once, she not only lost her child, but also ran to the road to play with cars like a child, scaring her husband who came home from work into a cold sweat.
After discovering his wife's secret magic pill, the husband grabbed the medicine bottle and threw the pill into the trash can.
Why did she become like a child?
This is actually a kind of "behavioral retrogression"-an age retrogression behavior caused by insecurity.
Everything she does is to be seen.
For an isolated stay-at-home mother, her husband's heartfelt support and understanding is her antidote.
The full-time wife option is not for one woman, but for the whole family.
Some people say that upgrading from husband and wife to parents is a moral exchange.
Fathers must understand the fact that a woman is a full-time mother out of the need to take care of her family, which is worthy of her family's gratitude because she is taking risks.
As full-time mothers, we should also learn to reconcile with ourselves.
Be kind to yourself and be "cruel" to yourself. I have the courage to be a full-time mother and the confidence to come back at any time without fear of difficulties.
Moreover, no one is easier than a stay-at-home mother or a working mother!
I only hope that every mom and dad can be treated gently by the years.