Whenever I feel depressed. But we need to know how to look forward and wait for you to tide over the difficulties. In retrospect, I know there are many things I shouldn't do after breaking up. So I have three suggestions. No matter how painful it is to break up, we must do these three things well to alleviate the pain.
1, don't calm yourself down
People who have loved should know that even if they don't break up, they will miss each other crazily when they are not together and always want to keep each other around. Different from the state after breaking up, although I miss it when I didn't break up, I know I will meet again; But after breaking up, I will miss you forever, which is pain in itself. Really loving someone will become a habit. Once she's not in your life, it's hard to think about it without pain. Therefore, we should do the opposite, knowing that we will miss it, and then force ourselves not to think about it. The best way is to keep yourself busy and never let yourself calm down. Until now, I still remember the state when I just broke up, sitting alone on the sofa in a daze, with terrible pain. It's really not necessary. We have reason to be kind to ourselves, but there is no reason to torture ourselves. It doesn't matter if you can't figure it out. Just get busy first.
2. Don't think about your past
Once loving someone becomes a habit, breaking up is the most unbearable ending. No matter what the breakup is, it seems that two people make a clean break, but in fact they are separated mentally. The more you love her, the more you can't help thinking about her. It is not a good state to laugh and cry about the past between you. So, don't let yourself calm down and think, let alone think when you are busy. You should put the breakup aside and digest it later.
3. Don't rummage through her circle of friends.
After breaking up, many people feel that it is too painful to calm down, so they think of the past, and then they can't help looking through her photos, her circle of friends and everything about her, as if this would make them feel better. This seemingly temporary relief is actually deepening your pain. After searching her circle of friends, you realize that you can never be together again, especially when you think that she may fall into the arms of others in the future, you will be very painful. Therefore, don't turn over her circle of friends after breaking up, and be sure to restrain yourself.
Man is a perceptual animal. After losing something you love, you can't help thinking of it. But love, after breaking up, all the memories are painful. In this state, the most important thing is to let nature take its course and don't fantasize that you can get better gradually through daily suffering. You must do something, especially force yourself to do something, such as the above three points. When we just broke up, many people couldn't figure it out, couldn't let it go, couldn't forget it, and couldn't bear it, but was it useful? That kind of pain, you should put it aside first, try to be yourself, and then slowly digest it after a month or so, so that your pain will be relieved a lot. As time goes by, everything is no longer important. You will feel that you are living well alone now, maybe he doesn't belong to you. There are more suitable people waiting for you, so you don't have to be sad. Look forward to everything. Future happiness is beckoning to you. You should work harder to be yourself and make yourself more confident, so that you can find your true happiness. Let's go