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Have dinner with my cousins and uncles passing through Guangzhou on weekends. My uncle used a common opening sentence for old people.

"You see how good it is to study like you. You can sit in the office and not be tired at all. Whose handsome boy is that? Didn't he also go to college? It seems that he is in Xi 'an, a good university. What's the result now, selling a house in town? He is also a student, not as good as us children who have not finished junior high school ... "My cousin and uncle went to a provincial capital city from the countryside more than ten years ago. After ten years of hard work, the three children in the family have got married, have children, have their own house, car and so on. In the city. The two old people also have their own pensions. So the two old people are very proud, and I am happy for them.

It's just that this topic is awkward. I tried to explain that there seems to be nothing wrong with being able to support myself, my wife and children without stealing or robbing my hands. After two explanations failed, they gave up decisively, because the simple old man simply listed a simple contempt chain:

According to the above contempt chain, parents' children are all in the third place in the chain, and naturally they will despise all the children who are behind (it must be declared and confirmed that cousins and uncles are kind and good people) and think that they should be respected, while other children who are further behind the contempt chain, especially the penultimate child, can't stay in the big city after finishing college, so they can only go back to their hometown to find them, even if this child works hard on his own. I said, I know this kid. He works hard and has no desire for old age. Aunt and uncle exchanged a meaningful look.

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The "contempt chain" originated from the special topic of Southern Metropolis Daily, Shenzhen magazine and City Weekly on April 7, 20 12. It refers to a phenomenon that people feel good about themselves and look down on others. It is very common on the internet and in real life. You may be at the top of this chain of contempt or at the end of another chain of contempt. In your eyes, he may despise the end of the chain, in his eyes, you may be the one at the end. The chain of contempt has developed into the normal state, and even many chains have become the default state.

School contempt chain:

* * TV series despise chain:

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* * social class contempt chain:

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* * Family happiness index contempt chain:

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Female contempt chain:

17? 18-year-old girl, green age, green face, said to be full of vitality, lovely and beautiful; A girl of twenty-four or five years old, beautiful, capable and full of vigor. Everyone says that she has temperament, youth and beauty, but she has begun to hint that she is not young. A 30-year-old girl, very beautiful and lovely. Everyone said don't pick, be careful not to get married, and don't set your sights too high. If a 35-year-old girl dares to call herself a girl, she will often be ridiculed: she is still young and beautiful, well paid, unmarried, and others say she can't get married. If she is 40 years old and still looks young and beautiful, has a rich life, can play the piano and draw pictures, but regrets not getting married or chooses not to get married, then she must be an eccentric old woman.

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I have been despised, and I should have despised others. Only now have we begun to learn to be tolerant and normal. I want to say, why are single young women over 40 included in the chain of female contempt? I'm sorry, many people in China think that the generation after 40 is the generation after 50. For women, it is just a day of waiting for retirement silently. I don't know that many people have just started their lives after 50:

Have you ever seen an uncle who didn't start fitness until he was 50?

Have you ever seen an entrepreneur who started his business at the age of 60?

Have you ever seen an old man who didn't learn pole dancing until he was eighty?

Why does the chain of contempt exist? Because everyone has a self-righteous mentality, feels that he is the best one, and creates a vivid and inevitable contempt chain. These self-righteous mentality gradually form an inherent circle and establish a sense of belonging in the circle. The final performance is that I am better than you, so I despise you:

I am smarter: I have a higher education than you, and I deserve to be looked up to and live a better life. I despise your low academic qualifications;

I have more money: so I can order around and occupy resources, and I despise your ordinary or poverty;

I have better taste: so I read Time magazine instead of Companion, and watch art movies instead of violent pornography. I despise your vulgarity.

My class is higher: so I despise the lower class and long for the upper class.

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But as a person, he was born in this world. He doesn't steal, rob, cheat or break the law. He worked hard, chose to make progress, chose not to struggle, chose not to get married, chose to have children or dink, wanted to donate, wanted to study or not, wanted to get up early or stay up late, wanted to drink or eat hooves, wanted to be fat or thin. Is it because of this that you become a person with low morality, an unreasonable person, a vulgar person, and a person who should be despised or spurned?

You have the freedom to work hard, and please respect my feeling of enjoying ease; Your dream of having children, please respect our love. You have fresh rights, please respect my desire for humanity; You want to feel the idea of getting married, please respect me and enjoy being single; You have a sense of social responsibility to donate, please respect the requirements of improving the quality of life ... * * I respect your rights, just as I defend my rights.

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The world is like a rainbow, which needs red, orange, yellow, green, cyan, blue and purple to complete. The chain of contempt itself is a paradox. We despise others because we are ignorant, and we despise ourselves because we are not confident enough. No matter which part of the chain you despise, you are you, different fireworks!