From the beginning of exploring love, we learned about gender differences, explored family background, learned four attachment forms and four killers, learned six tools, and gained so many "militarized weapons". Do we feel that we are already "theoretical giants"? But if you don't learn the twelfth lesson and put love into action, you will easily become a "dwarf in action", and the effect of "talking on paper" will be greatly reduced. So how do we put love into action?

Before class, let's do an ice-breaking exercise: make a short deposit for the group members in the form of one person and one thing.

Thank you for being true, kind and beautiful during your study. All of us have never realized that we can show each other's strengths. We are all very loving people. So what are the actions of love?

First, please watch the video "Grace Ceremony" (9 minutes). Through video, kindness ceremony is the secret of keeping love fresh, which can protect our intimate relationship and prevent external pressure from infiltrating into marriage. Goodwill ceremony has three characteristics: predictability, mutual cooperation and emotional significance. As we all know, how big is South Africa? Five "five big beasts", Dr. Huang gave us the seventh grade (seven gifts for daily charity, page 143- 144 in the student handbook). For example, a smile and hug when you get up in the morning; Greet each other when going out; Greet, encourage and bless each other during the day and express love; A hug when I go home, share a climax and a low tide in my life today, and share my feelings about these things; Ask each other's needs; Make a simple "deposit" to express appreciation or gratitude for one thing; Give each other a hug before going to bed and wish each other a good dream.

The "goodwill ceremony" is actually an act or a small thing that helps us build goodwill. It is very concrete, visible and tangible. It consists of a few words and practical, heartfelt, spontaneous and habitual actions. It represents deep love and true intimacy. You don't need will or effort to stick to it-they are the true expression of "I love you".

Next, please watch the video "Pearl Moment" (4 minutes) (page 144 of the student handbook). Through video, pearl moment, as the name implies, is that every warm moment is like a pearl. We should learn to find pearls, create pearls, and cherish pearls, which will string together into our beautiful life. Pearl moment can be not only in memory, but also in longing. Dr. Huang also gave us good advice. We should use our inner camera to photograph the beautiful pearl moments in intimate relationship and keep them in the museum of memory, or prepare a love drawer or love treasure chest, which can store photos, letters, cards or gifts of warm moments in life and record them, which is very warm and more loving. Of course, to create or accumulate pearl moments, all you need is a cherished heart and cherish yourself and others.

? The difference between the two: the kindness ceremony is ceremonial and relatively fixed, which can be adhered to all the time or adjusted and planned according to the situation. The pearl moment is random, and it is not fixed.

Next, do exercises and discussions: Action and plan of love (page 145- 147 in the student handbook), 1. Discuss your kindness ceremony and pearl moment; 2. How to use intimate travel tools to increase and enter intimate relationships?

? You can plan what you can do every day, every week, every month and every year, which can better promote intimacy. Some good rituals in our family: for example, going out for outdoor sports, walking the dog and riding a bike every day; Every Sunday is freedom day, with theme activities; Have a family meeting once a month, look back at the pearl moment and discuss big plans; A family trip and a set of parent-child photos every year. There are many pearl moments at home, such as sometimes reading stories before going to bed and sometimes playing story solitaire; Fitness together; Movie night; Take a bath together; The whole family celebrates different festivals and so on.

Finally, please watch the video "Summary and Blessing" (5 minutes). I wish you all live in love. Please share the gains and experiences of learning lesson 12.

Thank you!