If you are going to college soon, we want to help you save your heartache for four years. Suppose you can't make mistakes at seven o'clock. Now the precepts will become part of your "compulsory course".

1. Don't check his class schedule, and don't follow him around the whole campus. I hope he will finally notice you. This is a good exercise, but don't bother. Either he will notice you or he will never notice you.

Don't wander around the restaurant, hoping to catch a glimpse of him, but in the end you gained a lot of weight for no reason. You really just want to spend your college life in the canteen and wonder, "When will someone walk in?" ? ")

Don't let your best female friend ask him how his best friend feels about you. Maybe he doesn't know who you are at all. And don't be good friends with his best friend or building friend. Don't waste time, no one can make him love you, even his college classmates. )

4. Don't find out his favorite record or CD, keep playing it, and don't wear his favorite rock band T-shirt. Strangely, women think that men like women to dress like them-sportswear or slightly sloppy clothes, but in fact, girls wearing cute jeans and fashionable shirts can really win men's hearts. According to the precepts, your clothes are not to imitate men, but to attract men.

Don't be a cheerleader or a sports fan just because he is on the football team. So is smoking or drinking. Don't follow him just because he did that. Many women we know drink mineral water when dating their boyfriends, but boyfriends smoke and drink. They are married now. If it is a matter of habit, it is better to stick to your own principles.

6. Don't help him with his homework and expect him to date you, and don't help him write Shakespeare's literary report, especially when he is not good at it. He may or may not want to date you. Don't force it.

7. Don't be stupid enough to make dating safe. Recently, date rape often occurs in schools. Be careful. You would rather study hard in the public auditorium or library than study alone with him in the dormitory or off-campus apartment. Tell your friends where you are before you go out, and they will find you again. Girls who obey the precepts will not take risks. Don't ignore the seriousness of date rape!

Now that I know what I can't do, what should I do to attract men on campus?

1. Study hard. After all, this is your purpose in going to college. Smart is sexy!

2. A reasonable diet. Don't be tempted even if a friend invites you to a buffet or orders pizza to be delivered to the dormitory in the middle of the night. We suggest that you eat fruit as a snack. When eating pizza at the party, tell yourself that jeans will still fit tomorrow. Remember, being overweight is against the precepts.

3. Make up. Read Combodan and other popular magazines.

4. Take part in some extracurricular activities, preferably clubs you are interested in, where you can naturally meet men.

Don't stay alone in your room and watch Saudi Arabia on Friday and Saturday nights. Saturday night is a good time to socialize, so leave Saudi Arabia until Monday.

6. Professional departments should be proficient and have professional goals. Although you are likely to meet your future husband on campus, the purpose of college is not just to get a "madam" degree, so you still have to use your head, not only for yourself, but also for him. Don't be silly.

Commandment 29 Next Step and Deal with Rejected Commandments

Life is not always fair. Fortunately, precepts can ensure that you are not hurt by men. When you get along with men by precepts: you are independent and busy, not aggressive, pestering people from time to time, and will not put yourself in a weak position.

However, we can't make some men like us, and we can't stop a man from dumping us when he knows who he likes better. Besides, we can't stop his ex-girlfriend from winning him back. So, what if you get dumped?

Perhaps our natural reaction is to stay still and live alone, wishing we were dead, not washing our hair and putting on makeup, crying, burying our heads in sleep, listening to sad love songs, and vowing that we will never meet such a perfect man again in this life. Maybe we can take comfort from what is in the refrigerator, or talk about it with our friends all the time. Obviously, it is ridiculous to allow yourself to do this for two days and then get up and start over.

The secret of dealing with the commandment of rejection is to put on new clothes and beautiful makeup. Then go to another party, or a bachelor party Tell your friends that you can now go on blind dates or date men you have never met. I hope you will always observe the precepts before breaking up, so that the calendar will naturally be full of other appointments.

Never, unless you have the ring, or you are his unique girlfriend-unique means that it is only a matter of time before he seriously says he wants to marry you, instead of riding a donkey to find a horse and waiting for another better girl to appear-you should always date someone else. Nothing in the world can alleviate the blow of being dumped more than the affection envied by other men.

Whatever you do, keep calm and have confidence in others. I believe there are many good men. Tell yourself that he is by no means the last man on earth. There must be someone suitable for you among so many men. Talk to the woman who met the "other half" after being dumped.

They will tell you how happy they are now because someone broke up with them. Although they didn't understand it at the time, they are very happy to break up now. Comfort yourself with encouraging slogans: "When one door closes, another window will open for me." You can also comfort yourself with the motivation theory or philosophy you want.

Remember, law-abiding girls will not pester men who refuse them, but will only say, "This is his loss!" " "or" the next man will be better! "Then go ahead. They won't regret it. They also don't write to tell men to change themselves or try to improve their relationship. No phone calls, no news from friends. They accept the fact that their relationship has ended, and at the same time continue to associate with others, without wasting their youth at all.

Commandment 30 Don't break the commandment.

"If I break the precepts, will he still marry me?"

Women always ask us this question. They observe the precepts for a month or two, and then stop. He hasn't even said, "I love you." Not to mention getting married, these women began to ask men out. When it comes to getting married, some people will take care of or help decorate their apartment. They don't understand that discipline is not a hobby, but a belief, and we must follow it until the ring is worn on our fingers.

The girl who broke the commandment-Katie

Take our friend Katie for example! We told her about the precepts, and she admitted that she had pursued men in the past, but she never proposed to her. Finally, she is willing to do everything we suggest and observe the precepts in the first month of dating a good man named Bailey. It turned out well. Two months later, Bailey took Katie to Jamaica for a week. At that time, Katie had a relapse and refused to listen to our advice. She doesn't think it's necessary to observe the precepts any more.

During the holiday, Katie asked him to explain the future of both sides, and left love poems on the pillow, asking for sex on her own initiative, showing more enthusiasm than him. After returning to new york, the two sides continued dating, and Katie proposed to be together not only on weekends, but also from Monday to Friday. Whenever he kissed Katie goodbye, Katie suggested going to bed, renting videos or doing other things to prolong the time together.

He finally told Katie, "I love you, but I don't think I'm in love with you. Strange to say, at first, some aspects of you attracted me and made me want to know you better, but now it has changed. " Of course, this is all caused by love poems and initiative. Bailey told Katie frankly that he didn't love her anymore, and he didn't want Katie to want to end the relationship because of his indifference soon after marrying her again. Men can't lie at all. If they say they don't love, they really don't love. They say so.

Suggesting that you should leave and find someone else, most women will ignore it. Usually, women will not stop there, and often continue to waste time, hoping that men will change their minds.

Have you ever experienced the same situation? Aren't you tired of such pain? After Katie and Bailey finally broke up, she never broke any commandments again. We are happy to say that Katie obeyed the precepts and got married recently, which should bring hope to all women-because many women have violated the precepts before, but they finally acted according to them!

Command girls will not wander where you are not needed, nor will they want to bring back bad love. If you have broken the precepts to some extent and convinced him that he no longer loves you, you don't need to linger and hope for another chance. Remember, sometimes the barrier between time and space will let a person know that he has made the biggest mistake in his life.

Since he has your phone number, he can call you at any time! What you have to do is to move forward, and it is best to obey the precepts perfectly in the next relationship, instead of continuing to entangle and endure the present loveless feelings. So, "if I break the commandment, will he still marry me?" I'm sorry, the answer is: "Maybe, but most of them won't." So, why take the risk?

That's why we strongly advocate never breaking the precepts. Of course, mistakes are inevitable in practice. If you have pursued men before, but now you don't write love letters, you can only make an occasional phone call, which can be called progress. However, we believe you can do it perfectly. As long as you obey the precepts completely, you don't have to worry about his empathy. When you break the precepts, you deprive men of the pleasure of pursuing you, and they will eventually blame you. Then he will treat you badly and make you wonder if you said something you shouldn't have said or did something you shouldn't have done, which led to these problems. The answer is simple. You violated the precepts.

You should be mentally prepared. After dating for a few months, you usually want to break the precepts, and you may feel that the relationship between the two tends to slow down or stagnate. He began to call less, but he still didn't mention it.

Your same-sex friend has been planning the wedding since you got married, but you haven't even met his parents.

Naturally, you want things to come to an early conclusion, so you can't help picking an ambiguous card from the card shop or writing a love letter to tell him how much you care about him and bring us closer. You want to throw away his old leather jacket and buy him a new one without his permission. You act like his wife, and you think you have the right to do so. After all, he meets you every weekend and sends you flowers twice. You even want to mend the bad relationship between him and his father, because they haven't spoken for a while. Face it, you are out of control!

If you want to ruin his chance to propose, you can do so. When things are getting slower and slower, when the precepts guide your actions: Reread how to behave in the first few dates (refer to Commandment 9, 10). As long as you keep doing it, keep faith in the precepts, be patient, don't nag, and don't deliberately try to push anything. If you still feel deeply depressed after a few weeks, you don't have to wait for him to mention his holiday plan. You might as well take action by yourself: go to the summer with your female friends, or sign up for tennis lessons. In short, don't stick to the man you are dating, or he will feel suffocated instead of being loved. It's better to have a rest and get busy, which makes people unpredictable. He may or may not miss you. It is better to find out the situation now than later.

The girl who broke the precepts-Nicole

It's easy to break the precepts in the early stages of a relationship. Here's another example:

After dating Kane for a month, Nicole decided to abandon the precepts and do what she felt. Although she faithfully observed the precepts in the first four dates. Later, she thought, if Kane is her husband and the father of her children in the future, why not show him who she really is? (Do you have?

Do you think the same as Nicole? Therefore, she plans to hold a surprise party to celebrate Kane's birthday, and on the other hand, she hopes to get to know his family and friends.

Only after the weekend, Nicole is ready to move. Once, they passed the children's playground, and she suggested taking a seesaw to swing, hoping to remind him of children. Kane noticed that her behavior was too obvious and boring, and their relationship went from bad to worse. Nicole suggested that both parties should receive treatment together, but Kane decided to break up with her and find someone else to date.

The lesson of this story is simple: don't break the precepts.

Don't give him a birthday party or buy him expensive gifts; Don't mention children, don't be a peacemaker between him and his family, and don't ask him out; Try not to call him.

Basically, stay out of his life, or you won't be his wife.

When a woman pursues a man, the challenge is over, his feelings become dull, romantic love suddenly turns to dirt, and the original cuteness begins to become boring. You are no longer the girl in his dream. It's like paying his bill or opening the door. You took his job and hurt him.

So, if you think the precept of not calling him is too reckless and harmful, remember that you are actually helping him and making him want you more. Commandments are actually only good for him, so don't act according to your feelings, act according to your feelings.

Fortunately, once a man falls in love with you, he doesn't care about being a fool. He calls you five times a day and tells you some trivial stupid things. He can call you five times a day, but you can't, or he will think you are crazy! You don't need to call him five times a day, because as long as you obey the precepts, you can sit back and relax.

There is no need to call for the guarantee of their relationship, and there is no need to stay up until two in the morning to find some excuse to explain why he hasn't called for two weeks. In fact, as long as you obey the precepts, he will call you every week, even every day!

Commanding girls will not be upset, they will act according to orders, and men will come back with a feeling of safety, comfort and love; Invite the woman out early every week; Or, more actively, make an appointment for the next time long before the date ends.

Although we also know some women who broke the precepts, we finally got married, and one of them was making out with her husband. The husband says he loves her verbally, but he never pinches her ass in the kitchen. In the evening, he would rather sit alone on the sofa and watch the evening news than lie in bed with his wife in his arms.

So, if you have violated the precepts, when he says that he no longer loves you, it means that your relationship is over. You should at least summon up the courage to end it, which will save a lot of time. If you feel that the other person has gradually alienated, let him go, which is a spiritual theorem; You don't need to find out why he doesn't love you, or how you can improve. That's begging. To tell the truth, law-abiding girls should be dismissive of this. Everything must be firm in the end, and then there is always a chance to cry in front of my sisters.

Even if you regret it and think you should be able to master it better, don't blame yourself Take care of yourself and do better next time. Don't call him, talk to his friends about it, and don't look back. You think it's good to be old friends. It's over when it's over. Looking forward to the next man. There will always be a better man for you. At the same time, listing a long list of dates and dates is the best way at present, and it is also the best way to retaliate.

Discipline 3 1 Keep the discipline and live happily ever after.

What can you get if you follow the instructions completely? The answer is: the complete love of the dream lover. Otherwise, who will keep the commandments?

Nevertheless, we also know that some requirements in this book are quite difficult. Don't call him, don't develop intimate relationships too quickly, don't mention marriage or children, and end the date first. This requires strong self-control, endurance and perseverance. Sometimes when I think about controlling my sexual desire or food, I can only swallow saliva. It's killing me! Isn't it painful not to call him? Some days, we just need to hear his voice.

Twenty incredible returns

What's the reason that keeps us going? What motivates us to keep the commandments? Here are 20 incredible returns. Whenever you feel that you are resisting a certain commandment (maybe you don't want to hang up after talking on the phone for 50 minutes), look at these rewards and take courage. Remember, if you keep the commandments, people will be more eager for you; If you don't obey the precepts, he will soon lose interest in you.

1. The biggest reward: he wants to marry you! After dating a man for weeks or months, most women will talk about marriage or the future and wonder what will happen in their relationship. This situation usually doesn't end well, because men don't believe in change and are forced to propose. If you are a girl who abides by the precepts, you already know not to mention marriage and children. As long as you talk about reading, work, politics, football and anger, as long as you obey the precepts, he will eventually propose.

When eating in a restaurant, if you sit in a private room, he will move over and sit next to you.

After you have sex, he will send you roses.

He will write you some small notes and love poems and stick them on the refrigerator door.

He will think that some of your characteristics are harmless and will not make him unhappy. Don't worry that if you don't get rid of some bad habits, he will leave you. Although he doesn't like your bad habits, he won't leave you for this reason.

He will call to ask about the result of your visit.

7. At every appropriate time, he will send you a small gift, jewelry or flowers.

If you don't pay attention to him, he will get angry. He hopes that you will always pay attention to him and accompany him, and he will not ignore you. Wherever you go, he will follow you. You can't be a football widow. In order to get along with you for a long time, he will take you to a football match (even if you don't like sports, you know nothing about sports). He likes being with you in everything he does.

9. After quarreling, he is always ready to make up.

10. He interferes in all aspects of your life, and you won't make him feel bored.

1 1. If you call him in the office, he always wants to talk to you more, even if he is busy. He will often call you at work, too.

12. He doesn't like to work overtime because he wants to see more of you and spend more time with you.

13. He still wants to be with you when you have a cold or are sick.

14. He always asks for the phone number of the place where you go, so that he can contact you.

He takes care of you.

16. He doesn't like you to attend bachelor parties.

17. When you talk to him, he will listen carefully.

18. When you walk indoors in small clothes, he will whistle at you as if you were a beautiful woman on the beach.

19. His desk and wallet are full of your photos. He's always wanted to see your face.

20. He loves you and naturally loves your children.