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My family has a daughter.
I haven't written about my daughter for a long time. Recently, I feel that my daughter seems to have grown up again, and she speaks in an adult tone. I am very happy. Today, I am writing an article about my personal education, and I would like to discuss with you how to better educate children and make them grow up happily.

First, promote language development in different ways.

? My daughter has been listening to music since birth. It may be the stimulation of music, and the child speaks earlier. For more than six months, I cried and shouted "Mom and Dad". After 8 to 9 months, I began to express what I wanted to do in words: "Take, eat and drink, grandparents". /kloc-Start telling stories in half a week, starting with simple cards (fruits, people, transportation, vegetables, animals). I have learned the book of cognitive things for almost three times. I pointed to the picture and asked the children to answer what it was. She can basically know everything in every book. Later, I talked about picture books and added interaction in the process of speaking. For example: "Where is the big bad wolf? Not very bad, we hit it. " Then he said, "Do you think this is a rabbit? Is the rabbit eating? What does it like to eat? Carrots and cabbage. " Sometimes children's songs are added: "Open the door, little white rabbit. If it doesn't open, it won't open. Mom hasn't come back yet. " Because the child can't understand simply telling stories, just let her know what these are and what she is doing. When I was about 2 years old, I would tell her stories, imitate different tones, and make it more interesting, instead of following the script. Because children's understanding ability is limited, we can't tell stories in written language, but only in children's language.

? When the child's understanding is a little more mature, I will start telling stories about the ugly duckling, three little pigs, Sima Guang's broken jar, the iron pestle grinding into needles, little red riding hood, the little match girl and so on. If I say it again, the child will remember the content. For example, she would say: the ugly duckling became a swan.

? At the age of 2, my daughter had a strong thirst for knowledge and was full of curiosity about the world. She stays up every night and insists that I talk to her. Later, I taught her ancient poetry, and she was very willing to follow. Probably, she has been taught ancient poetry three times, and she can recite a little impression. Cumulative number of studying ancient poetry in 2 years and 7 months 10. (Of course, some of them are not completely independent, and she needs an adult to remind her of the first few words before she can recite them independently. )

These 65,438+00 ancient poems are: Ode to Goose, Grass, Jiang Xue, Xiao Chun, Lodging at the Heron, Compassionate for Farmers, Giving Wang Lun, Thinking of Quiet Night, Compassionate for Farmers and Looking at Lushan Waterfall. Now I have learned three ancient poems: Morning Delivery from Baidicheng, Chanting Willow and Tomb-Sweeping Day.

At the age of 2, in addition to ancient poetry, my daughter became interested in a second language. I will simply add some English to my daily play with her. For example, take her out and see a big tree, and she will say, this is a tree, and its English name is Tree. Look, this grass is not cute. Its name is grass. Let's say hello to her. Say you use: hello. The baby looked up at the sky. There is a bright moon in Tianshan Mountain. What is the name of the moon? The moon. Wow, there are many stars. The name of this star is Star. Review a few words every time she goes out, just like playing games with children, and she will naturally remember them.

? I bought an English book and looked at the words on it that taught human parts. I would play games with her. For example: "Baby, do you think this is her face? Her face is called face, so please touch her face. " . The nose is the nose. Touch the baby's nose. Where is it? Eyes are called eyes. Where are your eyes? "Similar and so on.

? When studying fruits and vegetables, I will let her know the types of vegetables first, and I will take her to the vegetable market. When I see an egg, I will tell her that it is an egg. When you see a carrot, tell her: it's a carrot. Do you want to touch it? Sometimes I even buy a pumpkin as a toy. When the child really touches this object with her hand, she will know what you are talking about.

? So for fruits and vegetables, I let her feel and know for herself first, and then I will play games with the fruits and vegetables toys I bought to supplement my English. For example, "Baby, let's play a game. I am going to the restaurant to order now. Please show me the menu. Well, I want to order tomatoes. Do you have any tomatoes? Then she would say, we have tomatoes. " That little bit of rice, rice, noodles. I also want to eat some fish. Don't you have any fish? "Let her answer in English, we have fish." Let's have some drinks and some juice: juice, coffee, coffee and water. " Then she was very happy and played a game with props: "wait a minute, knock, knock, I'm cooking." "

? Once, she and her grandmother went to the supermarket to buy fruit and told the clerk that they wanted to eat oranges.

When my daughter was 2 years old and 7 months old, I counted about 54 words she learned.

1. Title: uncle, sister, brother, grandfather, grandmother, policeman, girl, boy.

2. phrase: hello, good morning, thank you, goodbye.

Animals: tigers, monkeys, dogs, cats, pigs, frogs, elephants, fish and zebras.

4. Human body: face, nose, eyes, hair and legs.

5. Others: moon, stars, trees, stones and grass.

6. Drinks: coffee, tea, milk, water and juice.

7. Fruits: apples, bananas, peaches, oranges and lemons.

8. Vegetables: tomatoes, Petato, carrots.

9. Cars, bicycles, bike and pillow.

10, food: rice, noodles, eggs.

1 1, color: yellow, pink, blue.

? I found that her favorite study is between two and two and a half years old. Later, when I was 3 years old, I liked to play with my friends, and my desire to learn declined. Not much was instilled. Now I am 3 years old and more than 5 months old, and I have learned several new words: red and green.

? Learning new words usually starts with things around children, such as pillow pillo. You can let her touch the pillow, the bed and point to the bed to tell her. But my daughter will also test me and ask me something: milk powder, crib, towel, air conditioning. When I can't, I will tell her that you have embarrassed my mother, and she will use a translator to translate in the future.

? I sent my baby to the nursery when she was 3 years old and more than 2 months old, because she was a little busy at home and couldn't take care of it. There are foreign teachers in the kindergarten. They teach them English with children's songs.

? Now there are some changes in the way of learning, such as taking her to watch an episode of Boying Early Education English Vegetable Children's Songs, which will include broccoli and pumpkin. Many animal words will be added: teddy bear, elephant, monkey and so on. I will watch it with her and learn the words. I read an article before, and the method of rote memorization will be very inefficient. If you work hard for a long time, you will not make progress. To improve your memory, you can learn through music. I think it will be more effective for children. Every child is very clever. 2-3 years old is the explosive period of memory and language. If you use the opposite method, you will receive many unexpected surprises.

? Second, how to face children hitting people

Daughter is naughty at home, of course, no one will always keep a good temper. Many times, she just can't help spanking her with twigs. She didn't dare to hit me, so she said, "Whoever hits me is a puppy." I am angry and funny when I hear this sentence. I asked her, "Who taught you that?" . She thought for a moment and said that the teacher taught her. I said, "Then I'll go to school tomorrow and ask which teacher taught me, okay?" . "Mom, don't go to school. The teacher didn't teach you. I said it myself. "

My daughter was very disobedient at home for a while and liked to hit people. She hit her grandmother, and her grandmother hit her. In the evening, she told me that her grandmother beat her, and I would ask why. If you hit grandma first, it's your fault. You can't fight anyone.

? Maybe I learned it in cartoons. Once, my daughter directly hit me on the head with a small microphone toy. At that time, I hit her back directly with the microphone, which made her feel pain. Next time, I can't hit anyone. But my method is also terrible. I threw away the receiver after hitting her. In the final analysis, I still didn't control my emotions. Beating people has little to do with toys. Throwing toys will hurt children's hearts. I remember my daughter crying. She didn't feel pain because of my counterattack, but felt that mom shouldn't throw her toys.

? In fact, my method is wrong, and the child still won't realize his mistake. My method is also a little violent, from the perspective of adults rather than children.

? Fan Deng said that his child Dudu had beaten his grandmother, nanny, mother and father. He handled it like this: "DuDu, do you know that there are two DuDu in your body, one is an angel and the other is a little devil?" Then if you are an adult, you will become a little devil. You are an angel now, so what do you want to be? Dudu said, "I want to be an angel. "He uses children's language and Lenovo methods to educate children, and children will not hit people if they understand. Sometimes beating people is partly because of their parents, who usually like to use violence to solve problems. If parents often beat and scold their children, children will naturally not be gentle and will become fond of violence. Children are a mirror, so we should reflect on our behavior and correct our methods.

? Third, learn to talk well with children.

? Sometimes children are naughty and rebellious, which is our adults' understanding. In the eyes of children, only parents don't understand will they be disobedient. When playing with children, don't play with your mobile phone at the same time. Most people go to work every day and spend less time with their children. It is better to put down your mobile phone and spend a happy parent-child time with your child.

? Yesterday, the child came home from painting class, playing with a piece of plasticine in his hand. Grandma fed her pitaya, but she refused to eat it. Grandma continued to feed it to her mouth with a spoon, which was very resistant. In normal times, I would definitely say "Stop playing and eat pitaya first".

? I just learned a word yesterday: "* * * shows concern and takes turns to speak". You pay attention to children's concerns and tell them how they feel. Your child will think that you understand him, and then he will continue to talk to you.

So I changed my method: "Baby, don't you want to eat pitaya?"

She nodded and said, "Yes". "But you haven't stinked for two days. What do you think about not eating pitaya? " .

She thought for a moment and said, "I can drink more water." "Drinking more water is no good, so what kind of fruit do you want to eat?"

? "I can eat bananas." "Well, grandma will buy you bananas now, so you can eat them, okay?"

She was really happy: "OK, I want to eat bananas."

In another way, you will find that children will become very cooperative, not disobedient.

The child is very happy to let me talk to her. I'm going to take her to take a bath.

? She said, "No, I want to play with plasticine." At this time, I remembered to "pay attention to what children care about."

So I said, "That mother will play with you in plasticine, and then we will take a shower, ok?"

This method is very useful. The child played with plasticine happily. After making bees and flowers, she said seriously, "mom, come here and squat down next to it." I'm telling you, I'll be a bee and lie on a small flower. You should keep it well. If it is broken, I will be angry. I won't give you a gift next time. "

"Okay, this is a gift made by the baby. Mom will love it. Keep it well. "

Then she happily cooperated with me to take a shower.

Today, I took my children to wash. Before I changed, I must have urged her, "brush your teeth quickly, you will be late for school."

"Why don't you move? If you don't listen to me, I won't send you away. I have to go to work. "

? Every time I say that these children are still indifferent, they will throw out the water I spilled and fight against me.

Actually, think about why the child stays in bed in the morning, because she is too tired, but who wants to be criticized early in the morning? Disobedience is the final judgment of adults on her character, but she is not.

? Today, I changed my method, instead of criticizing education blindly, I switched to the child's language and said to her, "Baby, look at you, your toy donkey is in a hurry, little master, brush your teeth quickly and then hug me." I heard that the child became very active and in a good mood, so I poured water and squeezed toothpaste to brush my teeth.

I used to tell her to put things away after brushing her teeth. The child asked, "What do you mean by in situ?" Obviously I don't understand. Let me put it another way: "If this is your home, will you get used to going to another place and going to other people's homes?" Will it be sad? Small cups and toothpaste have their own homes. Put it in her home after use, and she will be very happy. This is the original position. The child listened and said, "Oh, mom, look, I put them back." "

? I used to be too rigid in my own way. Although I spent a lot of time with my children, I haven't learned to speak well. Sometimes the child asks me to accompany her, and I do housework in a perfunctory manner. Or the child's toy is broken, it is also said to her: "It doesn't matter." Later, I will find that children have learned a set of oral perfunctory skills of adults.

? Sometimes I wake her up, and it's obvious that she is up. When I give her a drink at Niuniu, she will turn away, ignore me and even push a bottle. I said, "Then you can go to work without drinking Niuniu's mother." At this time, she would turn around and call me, "Mom, I didn't hear you just now." Another time, a child played with other children and didn't want others to touch her toys. I cann't believe she took someone else's hand away I saw it and said to her, "You should share it with others. What you did just now was wrong. You should apologize. " At this moment, she grinned: "Mom, I'm just playing games with her."

On the surface, children seem to be good at finding their own steps, but in fact, this is just a lack of correct attitude towards things. Only by learning to talk well with children will children talk well with us.

Fourth, set an example.

? I have always agreed that if you want your child to be excellent, you must first become an excellent person.

I enrolled my child in a painting class, but I will take her to paint at home. For example, if I draw a stone on it, I will also give the child a stone to draw. After signing up for a painting class for my children, I also signed up for an adult painting class to practice painting with my children at home.

? I want my children to learn English or ancient poems, read books and learn together.

? My child hasn't learned calligraphy yet, and she is too young, but I am already learning calligraphy. Only when I become excellent can children see excellent parents and infect her.

? I also go to the gym every day, and sometimes I say to my children, "Mom is going to exercise tonight, and I will come back to play with you after that." The baby will say, "Mom, I want to go running with you, too." Sometimes I take her swimming in the water and she likes it very much. She often says, "Mom, I still want to swim".

? I bought a wall painting with three-character classics, and I seldom taught her. One day, I found that the child actually recited it:

? People on earth are good at living. The same nature varies from upbringing to upbringing. Without education, there will be deviations. In order to teach well, you should think deeply. Yesterday, Meng Mu chose a neighbor. In Mencius' laziness, she cut the cloth. Dou Yanshan has a righteous side. Teach Wuzi to be famous.

? It is also the children's study that makes me find myself mentally lacking and need to replenish my energy. We all know Saint Amethyst. Did you read it correctly? Where can the baby go behind our backs?

? Last night, the child learned the disciple rules from the teacher. When I sleep at night, I chat with his father. The child suddenly said, "Eat without talking, sleep without talking." This sentence comes from The Analects of Confucius. His father and I were stunned. The child said, "Mom and Dad, stop talking and go to bed." . I learned some chapters of the Analects of Confucius when I was a student, but my baby has learned and understood the truth of this sentence at such a young age, which really makes me feel the need to learn.

? We must learn more and more things than children in order to teach them and set an example for them.

Fifth, make rules.

? As the saying goes, there is no Fiona Fang without rules. Look at the small at the age of 3 and look at the old at the age of 7. Small habits can affect a child's life. Don't satisfy children's unreasonable demands just because they are young. Take the fact that children watch TV as an example.

? The daughter said, "Mom, I didn't watch cartoons today. I want to see Spongebob. "

? Her father usually gives her comics. According to the previous habit, I will also say, "You saw cartoons at school today, so I won't watch them."

? She will be angry: "I just want to watch cartoons."

? "If you tell dad that dad can give me cartoons, dad will think you are very polite and will be very happy. Be sure to say, can you show me cartoons? This is very polite. "

? After she agreed, tell her: "After you finish your work, you can choose an animated cartoon and decide what to choose, super flash, octopus, kitty cat or what?" ? If you choose, you can't change it. You can only watch one episode. "

"Mom, why is there only one episode?"

"Because we have to tell stories and sleep, right?"

After reaching an agreement, it will pull the hook: "Don't cheat the hook for a hundred years."

"Baby, do you keep your word?"

"What you say must be done". Then at the end of the episode, the child will just let go of the song and say no, the rules have been formed.

? The above is the daily method I recorded about educating my daughter. I hope I can continue to study well, become a good mother, and constantly adjust my methods of educating my children.

? Friday, August 23rd, 65 438+09

? Pen name: Xiaoyun (Wu Na)