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Does my girlfriend always break up with me like a spare tire?
I think she is getting more and more strange, and it is a bit mean to use uncertainty and insecurity to excuse her repeated empathy. After all, I am just a super spare tire.

Mr. Wu, 28, is a program developer. Some people say that she can come back after she leaves, which means that she loves you. Some people say that she can leave if she wants, and she doesn't take you seriously at all. For us who are separated from each other, love is a topic that must be discussed seriously. Xiaoping and I met on a dating website, which was really unreliable, but we had a good chat at that time. Never thought about online dating. I just think it's good to have someone who doesn't have much overlap with my life to share my thoughts and enlighten me when I'm unhappy. Because I am shy, I have never chased a girl or girlfriend in the strict sense. I am in Shanghai, and Xiaoping is a girl from Guangzhou. At that time, she was still in college and focused on her studies, so I never mentioned that meeting. Instead, she said that she would come to see me several times. Without the interface, there would be no following. In this way, Xiaoping and I have been pure netizens for more than a year. Once she was lovelorn, I talked with her on the phone for more than two hours. Although we have never met, we seem to have become familiar with each other's personalities through telephone and internet. For example, we will pay attention to the weather forecast of the other city and remind each other to add clothes and reduce clothes when the weather changes, but no one takes the initiative to mention love. For us who are separated from each other, that is a topic that must be discussed seriously. That sentence made me feel a desire to be protected from the bottom of my heart. I clearly remember last summer, early July, when it was very hot. I got up early and went to the gym downstairs to swim twice to relieve the heat before going to work. Unexpectedly, I walked out of the gate of the community and saw a familiar face. We called each other's names almost in unison. Xiaoping looks exactly like the photo, and the real person is more handsome. Xiaoping told me that she arrived the night before and left the room in a hurry to wait here in the morning just to give me a surprise. Once on Xiaoping's birthday, I gave her a present, and she quietly wrote down my address. What surprised me even more was that Xiaoping came to Shanghai this time and planned to develop here. Two months ago, it happened that a foreign company headquartered in Shanghai went to their university to recruit. Xiaoping said that as soon as she saw the company's position in Shanghai, she submitted her resume. Looking at this unscrupulous girl in front of me, I am really touched. That sentence made me feel a desire to be protected from the bottom of my heart. It seems that this girl came to Shanghai for me. I think so. A little proud. A wooden boy like me actually needs a "good wife". Xiaoping's personality is relatively straightforward and simple, which is more obvious when he contacts her in reality. She doesn't have any relatives in Shanghai at all, so every weekend, we basically spend time together. Sometimes I have dinner with my brothers, and I will pick her up. When Xiaoping first came, I especially wanted to chase her, but I had all kinds of concerns in my heart, so I tried to get my brothers to help me. However, the reason why I haven't put it into action is that all my friends don't like Xiaoping very much, saying that she is too self-centered. A wooden boy like me actually needs a "good wife". Once a friend happened to hear me talking about Xiaoping, and all three of us were a little embarrassed. Xiaoping, in particular, left alone without saying hello. Just as I was thinking about how to apologize to her. I can't believe I got a call from her saying she wanted to talk to me. That night, Xiaoping took the initiative to confess to me. She cried and told me that she came to Shanghai to work for me. Why did I misunderstand her so much instead of seeing it with my own eyes? She also said that she was not selfish. If she has any shortcomings that I can't tolerate, as long as I say it, she will definitely turn me into a soft-hearted person and avoid girls from crying in front of me. So I held her in my arms. She has a special meaning in my life. Even now, it is sweet to recall that day. For me, many things with Xiaoping are the first time. She has a special meaning in my life. On the second day of our relationship, she packed her bags and moved to my house. I was a little surprised to see her standing in front of me with all her bags. Although such a move is a bit rash and casual, it makes me feel very important to have such a girl who is so dependent on me. I swore to myself that I would protect her. Living together is very happy at first. Xiaoping is good at making soup. I often work overtime. She is the one who cooks at home. How happy you will be when you step into the house and see a hot meal and a pot of fragrant soup on the table, and the joy is mixed with pride. However, relationships may be doomed to encounter bottlenecks. Xiaoping ran away from home for the first time, which still left me at a loss. Isn't generosity born of love stupid? I don't remember what that little thing was. I speak a little heavily. In fact, I realized it as soon as I opened my mouth, and I kept apologizing to her to remedy it, but Xiaoping ran away alone. Then send a text message saying that you want to break up, and then don't answer the phone or return the text message. I was so anxious to look for her everywhere that I even went to her company, but the result was still in vain. However, just as I was about to give up, Xiaoping appeared, as if nothing had happened, and we made up. I didn't ask her where she went and who she was with in those days. However, what I didn't expect was that in less than a month, Xiaoping did the same thing again! And she not only disappeared, but also disappeared with her luggage, leaving only a note saying that she fell in love with someone else and wanted to be alone and reconsider our relationship. But it wasn't long before Xiaoping came back. She sincerely admitted her mistake, apologized, and felt that I was the best. That pathetic expression on your face forces you to accept her unconditionally. I finally forgave Xiaoping, even though I knew that she left without saying goodbye this time for another man. Isn't generosity born of love stupid? After all, I am just a super spare tire. In less than a year when I was in contact with Xiaoping, she always disappeared eight times. And without exception, he broke up with me every time and finally came back as if nothing had happened. Xiaoping always has an epiphany after leaving and returning again and again, or I know her best and love her most. Her explanation for leaving is getting calmer and calmer. "I often don't know if I really want to be with you, so maybe only by being apart can I feel your existence." I think she is getting more and more strange, and it is a bit mean to use uncertainty and insecurity to excuse her repeated empathy. After all, I am just a super spare tire. She had a good time, but I was always there. However, will one day, she finally found a good enough man and no longer needs a "spare tire"? Some people say that this woman has a "breakup addiction" and can come back after leaving, which shows that she loves you. But some people say that she can leave if she wants, and she doesn't take you seriously at all. All this seems reasonable. But in any case, I don't want to continue this life. Is there any way to cure Xiaoping's "breakup addiction"? Let her devote herself to me.