"Children recently like to stand beside their father and watch him play games. Will this behavior affect their children? "
I can say for sure: very influential.
Then why don't I suggest that you stop children from playing games?
There is a big difference between online games and stand-alone games.
It's not that I don't advise children to play games, but I don't advise children to get in touch with online games too early, especially before they graduate from primary school.
In our family, we support Little Cream to play games. Even Dad will play games with Cream, but they must all be stand-alone games.
Xiao Shuang of our family is now 6 years old and 4 months old, and will go to primary school in September this year.
Up to now, Little Cream has played these games: Plants vs. Zombies (stand-alone version), Three Kingdoms Kill (board game), Red Alert, the age of great navigation, and now, Nintendo switch's Super Mario, Fitness Ring Adventure.
We never restrict children from playing these games, and even set aside time for children to play games in their daily routine.
Since playing games is inevitable, instead of waiting for children to secretly play behind their parents' backs when they grow up, it is better to keep an open attitude from the beginning, allowing you to play and even playing with you.
When a child loses his mystery, his obsession with it will plummet.
Why don't we worry that children are addicted to playing games?
This is about the difference between online games and stand-alone games.
All the games played by Little Cream can be suspended at any time, with no scruples and no worries at all. After being turned off, you will lose your equipment and lower your level.
Many online games not only can't stop or quit halfway, but also have online time requirements every day, which affects children all the time and can't help but invest too much time and energy in the game.
This is also the reason why children have long been addicted to online games.
At present, most online game companies aim at quick profit. If they want to play well, they will either spend money directly to recharge, or spend a lot of time on equipment and training, otherwise they will be hanged by other gamers.
Some children will stay up all night to upgrade their grades or change a good set of equipment, and play for the sake of the game, completely losing the fun brought by the game itself.
The biggest reason why parents hate children playing games is: recharging.
It is often reported in the news that children secretly use their parents' mobile phones to play games and spend all their parents' hard-earned money on equipment.
These are all non-existent in stand-alone games.
So, don't be afraid of children playing games. The key is to help them choose the right game.
Why do we encourage children to play games and even spend time and energy playing with them?
In fact, there are three advantages for children to play games, which parents must know.
A really good game, after playing, the whole person is relaxed.
For example, what Super Mary Little Cream is playing now feels particularly cute every time she looks at the little people jumping around. Playing for ten minutes, he will feel particularly relaxed for 20 minutes.
There is also a fitness ring adventure, focusing on sports and fitness. At each level, you can exercise by doing different fitness actions, and at the same time, you can fight monsters, break through, and be fun and interesting.
Now, every morning, in order to play a big adventure with his father, Xiao Shuang has got up from 8 o'clock to more than 6 o'clock now.
Second: expand children's cognitive ability through games.
If you want to play a game, children must understand the rules of the game, the characteristics and skills of the role, and the precautions in the game, which can greatly improve their cognitive ability, especially their understanding of the rules, and is very helpful for children to adapt to the rules of school and society in the future.
At the same time, in the process of playing games, children will continue to deepen their understanding of the world. If you tell your children directly, they won't listen, but if they are in the game or with the help of a link in the game, they will be very willing to listen.
For example, Xiao Shuang knew many words when he played Plants vs Zombies, because we told him that if he didn't know the words, he couldn't play the game by himself, and he would lose a lot of fun if he couldn't play by himself.
At the same time, he extended his love of games to reading. Little Cream's favorite book now is Plants vs Zombies.
When playing the Three Kingdoms Kill, Xiao Shuang knew the characters, weapons and skills of the Three Kingdoms Kill like the back of his hand.
Strike while the iron is hot. Then we listened to the audio story of Romance of the Three Kingdoms and bought a set of History of China to strengthen children's interest in history.
Now Xiao Shuang knows more about the history of the Three Kingdoms and the disputes in Wei Shuwu than I do.
And the age of great navigation. Although Xiao Shuang hasn't played a few times, it often needs dad to lay a good foundation first, but it still doesn't affect children's understanding of famous port cities and four oceans and five continents.
It is because of this game that we added a map of the world. In order to facilitate the study of various ports and routes, we also specially bought a globe.
By playing the era of great navigation, Xiao Shuang also knew why the crew got septicemia, how the Atlantic Ocean crossed, what direction it took to sail from Europe to America, and how long it took. ...
So playing games is really not a once-and-for-all thing, and choosing the right game is very important.
Third: Games can ease family conflicts.
Have you found a phenomenon that many children like to play with their fathers?
One of the most important reasons is that children will find it more interesting to be with their father because his father played more things when he was a child.
Such games include real interactive games, and of course computer games.
So, if dad likes to play games at home, he might as well try to play with his children. He usually discusses the game strategy with his children, discusses how to improve his combat effectiveness, and even plays a game with his children at home, which can not only relax his mood, but also bring the parent-child relationship closer.
Get along well with children from now on, so that children will not be too rebellious and unruly when they reach puberty.
Dad playing games with children can also alleviate many family conflicts.
Think about it, leaving the children to the father, the mother's time is free, the pressure is less, she is less angry, and she doesn't quarrel with her father. Can the atmosphere at home remain the same?
Most importantly, children are more willing to listen to their parents after getting closer to them through games. In this way, the problems of children who are troubled by many parents' failure to study and poor grades will be gradually solved.
However, the cream mother still has to emphasize one more point: it must be a single machine, and it must not be an online game. At least until I graduate from primary school.
So, don't always treat games as tigers and beasts. Many classic games are very worth playing, and the cream mother also believes that children who have been exposed to games since childhood and played really well are really hard to get addicted to games when they grow up.
Children who are really addicted to games are mostly because they can't find interesting things in real life.
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