On the eve of the National Day of 20 18, I received a phone call from Luo Chen, saying that he was getting married and asked me if I had time to have a wedding drink with him. I had planned to go to Thailand on National Day, so I told him truthfully that I couldn't attend his wedding. He was a little frustrated at the other end of the phone, but he still understood and agreed to get together at the end of the year.

On the day before I went to Thailand, I sent Luo Chen a WeChat transfer as a gift and said hello. I don't know if he was busy preparing for the wedding, but he didn't click to collect it, so the system returned the money to me.

In desperation, I had to send a WeChat to another friend who planned to go to the wedding scene, asking him to seal a red envelope in cash and give it to Luo Chen for me.

Late at night on Luo Chen's wedding day, I was getting ready for bed in a hotel in Bangkok. Luo Chen sent me a WeChat voice, and I was surprised how he was free to talk to me at this time.

His voice sounded a little tired, saying that he had just finished a busy day's wedding affairs, and a man came to the door to smoke a cigarette to sober up and asked me if I had seen a shemale.

I asked him why he didn't accept my WeChat transfer. He said the amount was too large, so I'm sorry. I said you should be polite to me. Anyway, when I get married, you should pay me back in full. He smiled and asked me when I would return to China, saying that I would come to Guangzhou when I had time.

Unexpectedly, on the third day after the National Day holiday, he came to Guangzhou from Shenzhen to find me on June 10. Speaking of it, he didn't come to see me specially, but the company sent him to Guangzhou to meet a group of dealers, and he dropped in to see me after he finished.

That night, we ordered two dozen beers in a bar on Sheng Xing Road in Tianhe. Of course, he drank most of it. Luo Chen was the first friend I met when I graduated from college. He can really drink, whether it's red beer or white beer or foreign wine, no one in my circle of friends can drink better than him.

Naturally, we talked about his marriage. I probably know that he and his wife Ada have been in love for four years, but if he hadn't said it himself, I would never have imagined the twists and turns they went through when they got married.

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Luo Chen is from Zhanjiang, Guangdong, and Ada's hometown is in Jiangxi. Both of them were born in 1992 and met in an electronics company in Shenzhen on October 20/0/4. Luo Chen does store operation and Xiaoyan does commodity planning. Because there are many intersections at work, after a long time, we moved our minds to each other.

After six months of love, the two began to live together. After living together, Ada took good care of Luo Chen in life, which once made many friends who were still single both envious and jealous.

Ada cooks a good dish, brings food to work every day after cohabitation, and lets Luo Chen bid farewell to the office takeaway completely; Throughout the year, she will carefully help Luo Chen buy clothes, shoes and hats, and wear different patterns according to the different climates of the four seasons, which makes Luo Chen's clothes rise several grades; Every weekend, Ada likes to drag Luo Chen to go to the gym or run, which makes Luo Chen lose a lot of extra fat.

Of course, Luo Chen is not without its merits. His greatest advantage is that he is gentle, rarely quarrels with Ada, and always takes the initiative to take a step back when there are contradictions, which is very good for Ada's strong personality. Two people with complementary personalities have a good life together.

In a blink of an eye, by the end of 20 16, they had been living together for almost two years, and their understanding of each other's personality habits, lifestyles and values had reached a certain level. Luo Chen began to discuss marriage with Ada.

Luo Chen said that he thought it was natural, but Ada's reaction surprised him.

Ada, who has always been very kind to Luo Chen on weekdays, has a negative attitude towards marriage, always perfunctory, and sometimes being held down by Luo Chen, which will show obvious resistance and once make Luo Chen extremely depressed.

"Are you disgusted that I didn't buy a house in Shenzhen?" Soon, Mr. Nice guy Luo Chen will be angry, too.

"You know I'm not like this." Ada shook his head.

"So you don't love me and don't want to live with me all your life?" Luo Chen continue to ask.

"Don't you know if I love you?" Ada also has a temper.

"Then why don't you want to marry me?" Luo Chen looks very wronged.

"I don't want to get married so early, we are still young." Ada always left this sentence.

Luo Chen said that at the end of 20 16, what he and Ada repeated most was similar to the above discussion about marriage, but every time we talked about this topic, the topic could not go on because he didn't know how to answer Ada's sentence "We are all young". Indeed, if we only look at their age, in 20 16 years, they are only 24 years old, nominally 25 years old.

Luo Chen said that he knew nothing about Ada's family, but his family's tradition of urging marriage really put him under pressure. The reason why Luo Chen wants to get married is that he really loves Ada. After living together for two years, he knew very well that Ada was the woman he wanted to live forever. Secondly, the increasing pressure of urging marriage at home also forced him to consider turning love into marriage.

Because of the differences in marriage, the relationship between the two was once tense. I remember around New Year's Day in 20 17, Luo Chen, who was anxious because of the failed proposal, had dinner with several of our close brothers to help us analyze the reasons why Ada didn't want to marry him.

Holding the psychology that the authorities are obsessed with the beholder, we carefully summarized three reasons at that time. In fact, Luo Chen himself thought of this.

First, it's really because there is no house in Shenzhen. This is a very realistic problem. For some girls, there is no sense of security without a house. Although she refuses to admit it, she may be worried.

Luo Chen's family is very ordinary. His parents still live in towns and villages in Zhanjiang. He is the eldest son of the family and has a younger sister below. 20 14 parents used their half-life savings and some loans from relatives to buy a commercial house in a community in Zhanjiang. My sister will get married eventually, and the house will be owned by him sooner or later.

Luo Chen's parents once asked him about his future development intention. If he returns to Zhanjiang, the house will be his. If you continue to stay in Shenzhen, you can consider selling the house, paying the down payment in Shenzhen, and then paying the house price every month. Anyway, after buying this house for him, his parents have finished the task.

Luo Chen said he wanted to stay in Shenzhen. After all, there are many opportunities in Shenzhen, but he has great reservations about selling the house in Zhanjiang and paying the down payment in Shenzhen.

Luo Chen has his own set of economic logic. He has always believed that the current housing bubble is serious, especially in first-tier cities like Shenzhen. Buying a house is equivalent to being delivered to the door and being chopped. He wants to see the situation again and temporarily rent a house in Shenzhen. Besides, the house he rented is not bad, with convenient transportation, acceptable environment and affordable price.

Therefore, Luo Chen shook his head when we suggested that there was no room in Shenzhen. As a pillow man for two years, he was sure that Ada didn't pay special attention to the house. Besides, after observing the idea of housing market for several years, he also mentioned to Ada that she didn't disagree, and it can't be because of the house.

The second reason we concluded was that Ada didn't love him enough to make her willing to get married. As soon as we raised this point, Luo Chen refused. "How can my own girlfriend be nice to me?" This confidence, he is full of confidence.

So we summed up the third reason. As Ada herself said, she just thinks she is still young and doesn't want to get married too early. This is also the most troubling problem for Luo Chen. People are in no hurry. what can I do?

We agreed that nothing could be done about this problem. There is really no way. We can't force others to marry you, but we can only wait for the opportunity.

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Marriage, like this, has been deadlocked. Although Luo Chen didn't give up, he didn't dare to chase too hard. He had little confidence and decided to give it a try.

Who knows that shortly after the Spring Festival of 20 17, perhaps moved by Luo Chen's sincerity, Ada, who has always been uninterested in marriage, suddenly let go, and she was willing to marry Luo Chen.

After a twist, Luo Chen was overjoyed, so he struck while the iron was hot. He first took Liu Yanhui to Zhanjiang, made his seven aunts and eight aunts cry with joy, and then booked a plane ticket back to Jiangxi with Ada, ready to finalize the marriage as soon as possible.

On the way back to Jiangxi, Luo Chen asked Ada why she had refused to get married before. Ada explained that because of the poor economic conditions at home, she was afraid that Luo Chen would be under pressure and even more afraid that he would abandon her.

Ada's explanation once made Luo Chen think that he was going to a poor family, but when he arrived in Jiangxi, he found that Ada was not telling the truth.

The Liu family lived in the town, built their own three-story building, paved the first floor, and their two brothers were married. This situation is a medium-sized family in the local area, and it is not much worse. The only drawback is that Ada's father was injured and paralyzed in a wheelchair when he was working on a construction site a few years ago.

During that trip to Jiangxi, the Liu family had a good impression on it. Ada's father and brother asked Luo Chen some basic information. Luo Chen briefly introduced his family background, career and future plans. Both parties are satisfied with the marriage.

Even Luo Chen put his father on the phone with Ada's father. When Luo's father discussed the bride price in Mandarin with a strong Cantonese accent, Liu's sentence "We don't insist on this, the two families discuss it, and the important thing is that the children are happy to get married". Luo Chen was moved to tears almost on the spot.

Luo Chen said he was a little nervous. After all, it is widely rumored on the Internet that the price of bride price in Jiangxi has been ranked first in the country for many years. Although Ada told him that this was not the case, he was inevitably worried until he heard the statement of his future father-in-law. I can't help shouting online rumors in my mind.

Regarding the bride price, Luo Chen has discussed it with his family, and about 80,000 yuan was the most suitable limit that Luo Jia could bear at that time. Luo Chen said that this is the figure he put forward after synthesizing various actual situations, and has taken into account the customs differences outside the province. After all, in Luojia, the bride price between 30,000 and 50,000 is more popular.

In fact, before going to Jiangxi, the Luo family had already met her family about the idea of bride price, and the Liu family did not raise any objections. Luo Chen and Liu Yanhui in Jiangxi are more like completing a procedure.

The marriage was successfully finalized, and the attitude of the Liu family was very positive. Some people suggested setting the wedding date on May Day of that year, but Luo Jia paid more attention to numerology. According to the birth dates of Luo Chen and Ada, it is more appropriate to set the date at the end of the year. Finally, the two sides reached an understanding that the wedding was scheduled for the end of 20 17.

Everything seems to be settled. During that time, all my friends could see that Luo Chen was very happy. Most of the tweets in the circle of friends are longing for marriage.

However, things didn't go as smoothly as Luo Chen expected.

A mysterious phone call later not only disturbed Luo Chen's dream of getting married, but also plunged our friends who were going to attend his wedding at the end of the year into a fog.

One day in June, 20 17, on the way home from the badminton court, Luo Chen suddenly received a phone call from Jiangxi, which was connected with the rough voice of a middle-aged man.

Luo Chen said that the other party spoke Mandarin with a strong accent. He sounded very tired, and he couldn't remember the details of the phone call. The main idea of the other party's call is: "Are you Ronaldinho? I am Ada's father, and I am his biological father! If you want to get married, you can't just give a bride price to her adoptive parents, but also to your biological parents, otherwise we won't agree to this marriage! "

Luo Chen hung up the phone perfunctorily. He decided that this was a liar. He never heard that Ada was adopted. After hanging up the phone, Luo Chen ran home and asked Ada where she leaked the information and why the liar knew so many details.

To Luo Chen's surprise, Ada immediately changed his face, ran into the bathroom and closed the door. Soon, the voice of her calling and quarreling with others came out.

Phone call back to Jiangxi, because Ada speaks dialect, Luo Chen couldn't understand and couldn't hear what she was arguing about. After coming out of the bathroom, crying Ada confessed the truth to Luo Chen.

That man, he is not a liar, he is really his biological father, Lu Jia is his adoptive parents, and what is her biological surname?

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He lives in the town next to the Liu family. He and his wife gave birth to three daughters in succession. In order to have a son, they want to send one of their daughters away, pick and choose, and choose the second child in the middle, which is later Ada.

It happened that Liu Jia, who had two sons at that time, wanted a daughter, so he introduced that 1994 gave two-year-old Ada to Liu Jia. Three years later, 1997, the He family really gave birth to a son.

Fortunately, Liu's parents are kind and simple, and treat them as their own children until they graduate from college. After being sent to the Liu family, because the two towns are not far apart, the two families still have contacts. Before Ada entered junior high school, her biological parents visited Ada once a year. Ada seldom came back after he went to junior high school, and he never saw it once in two or three years.

After entering high school, Ada opened a QQ account, and she started to contact the three brothers and sisters of He family occasionally through QQ. Sister Ada is married, and her sister dropped out of school to work before graduating from high school. Only the youngest brother is still at school.

After Ada graduated and came out to work, he would invite his younger siblings to dinner in the county town every year when he came home, and he often gave his younger brother some pocket money at school. Ada has little in common with her biological parents. Although I can't talk about any feelings, I am also happy.

Until the Spring Festival of 20 14, Ada, who had just graduated from university, returned to Jiangxi from Shenzhen.

On New Year's Day on the 27th, biological parents rushed to Liu's home for the New Year. As a result, it is conceivable that Ada was unwilling. My biological mother was in tears and couldn't be more sad. Now she regrets it and wants to take Ada back. Ada was so moved that she cried and threw her out.

My biological parents didn't give up and came to the Liu family the next day. They also brought a few relatives, not crying or making trouble. When they came in, Ada was forced to leave. Liu's eldest brother is also called Liu's relative. The two sides dragged Ada to outdo each other, causing a chicken to fly and a dog to jump, which attracted the neighbors to watch. Liu Yan was so angry that he climbed onto the roof of his home and cried and shouted that his biological parents would jump if they didn't leave him, which ended the farce.

"At that time, if her parents didn't retire, my wife would really jump off the building." In the dim bar, Luo Chen lit a cigarette and said flatly.

It turned out that the biological parents who had not been in contact for many years suddenly came to recognize their relatives because Ada gradually reached marriageable age and had the idea of bride price.

Sister Ada got married a few years ago and married a local. The husband's family is not well-off, but He insists on asking for 65438+ ten thousand bride price, which leads to the husband's family still having bad feelings for his sister. Ada and Liu Jia are well aware of this.

Although the robbery was unsuccessful, the biological parents did not intend to give up. Every ten days and a half, they will go to the town where the Liu family is located to inquire about the news, for fear of missing the dividend of sharing their daughter's marriage.

The reason why Ada delayed taking Luo Chen home and repeatedly refused Luo Chen's proposal of marriage is because of this reason that he was afraid of leaking news and worrying about his biological parents making trouble. After all, they have robbed Liu's house before.

It turns out that the marriage with has been kept secret by the Liu family. Except for a few close relatives, the peripheral relatives don't know about it. In order to finish the wedding before he finds out, it is a foregone conclusion as soon as possible to avoid complications.

The reason why the news leaked to Ada's biological parents was that Ada might have leaked it to her three brothers and sisters, because all three brothers and sisters knew about her marriage with Luo Chen.

But it is meaningless to investigate which of the three brothers and sisters leaked the secret, intentionally or unintentionally.

After learning the news of Ada's marriage, his biological parents were very angry. Before his father called, he had found the Liu family and asked Liu Jiacai to take it back to talk about the bride price. After being ignored by Ada, he called Luo Chen here directly.

I called home to ask, only to know that her biological parents were in Liu's home at that time, and threatened to go directly to Shenzhen to find them, without giving her the phone number. The adoptive parents were afraid that they would really go to Shenzhen to make trouble, so they had to give them Luo Chen's telephone number.

Ada quarreled with her mother in the bathroom. Her mother asked her to take Luo Chen back to Jiangxi, otherwise they would come directly to Shenzhen.

Luo Chen told me that after listening to Ada's story, he was completely stunned and unprepared. I didn't expect that something almost comparable to a TV series would happen to him.

Luo Chen was surprised and angry. Ada, who has lived together for two years, has never mentioned these things to him, and she doesn't know anything about her contact with her brothers and sisters. The more he thinks about it, the angrier he gets. Luo Chen even impulsively thought that everything was a scam. Before the wedding, a pair of biological parents suddenly appeared, and the bride price should be added. How can there be such a coincidence in the world?

Fortunately, the impulse is only temporary. Calm down, Luo Chen will wake up immediately. For such a big thing, he believes that Ada will not lie to himself.

Luo Chen blamed Ada for not keeping it from him like this. Ada just kept crying and apologized to him. She knew she couldn't keep it from her, and she had to explain it to Luo Chen before she got married. However, she has always been lucky and always wants to finish the wedding before her biological parents find out, so she often swallows it back.

Luo Chen said that when Ada cried so sadly, he realized that it was not easy for her to be caught in the middle, but at this time, he had to comfort Ada that she always had a way to solve the problem. He is willing to go back to Jiangxi with her and get her biological parents.

Luo Jia learned that marriage might change, and Luo Chen's father encouraged Luo Chen to go to Jiangxi to talk to Liu Yanhui again and solve the problem face to face. If necessary, he can go with Luo Chen. Laurence family, after all, met and recognized this prospective daughter-in-law. Luo Chen refused his father's proposal, believing that he could handle it.

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2065438+At the end of June 2007, Luo Chen and Ada returned to Jiangxi for the second time and started negotiations with Ada's biological parents. The venue of the negotiation is the Liu family, and the He family has two relatives besides their biological parents.

Luo Chen cut to the chase and said that since Ada still has his biological parents, he is willing to try his best to raise another 20,000 on the basis of 80,000, and pay a total of 654.38+10,000 as a bride price.

As for how to distribute the 654.38 million+families, Luo Chen also proposed two compromise schemes. First, the Liu family is 70,000 and the He family is 30,000; The second is 50-50 split, with each family taking 50,000.

Ada doesn't agree to either of these two plans. She didn't want to give her biological parents a penny as a bride price, but Luo Chen offered it, thinking that if the two families agreed, he would work in Ada again.

At this time, the understanding of the Liu family can't help but make Luo Chen grateful. Ada's adoptive father said that both plans can be considered. As long as the wedding can be held smoothly as scheduled, the Liu family has no objection to the second plan.

But He Jia strongly disagreed.

Ada's biological parents have a clear request. They don't care whether to marry Liu Caili or not, but he wants 65,438+10,000.

Luo Chen gasped and suddenly lost confidence in the negotiations.

If you accept the request of any family, the Liu family should be at least no less than the other family, which is equivalent to paying 65,438+million to the two families at the same time, adding up to 200,000, which is more than twice the original 80,000, which is simply beyond the affordability.

Luo Chen said that during that negotiation, what impressed him most was that Ada's mother confidently pointed to Ada and said, "Your brother is not married. We don't want our own money. You can deny us, but you can't deny your brother! " Angry and rude on the spot, she cried and quarreled with her mother, saying that her surname was Liu and her brother's surname was He. What does it matter to her that her brother is not married?

Luo Chen said that he had never met Ada's brother, and he had never seen him from beginning to end. It is said that he is still in college and didn't attend the wedding with Ada. I wonder if he knows his parents' behavior and what he thinks about it.

"Her adoptive parents and biological parents are completely two extremes. One is hard to be reasonable, and the other is hard to be completely self-centered." Luo Chen said that he couldn't figure out where Ada's biological parents came from, and thought that she was born with one, so he could make unreasonable wild speculations.

Negotiations can't go on, and Luo Chen and Ada also thought about ignoring their families and holding the wedding as planned. After all, Ada was raised in Liu's parents, and her household registration is also in Liu's house. Legally speaking, she has nothing to do with this family. (In fact, in those days, both families were adopted by ordinary people. In order to apply for the adoption certificate and settle down, the Liu family made great efforts, so I won't say much here. )

But it won't work after all. If things are not solved, He Jia is like a nail, which may prick people at any time. Luo Chen's father also warned Luo Chen not to hold a wedding without the consent of any family, because no one can guarantee that any family will come to the wedding and do something.

The negotiation ended in failure, and Luo Chen and Ada returned to Shenzhen. After several months of telephone or WeChat communication, He Jia refused to let go and insisted on a bride price of 654.38+ 10,000.

Luo Chen said that given his family's economic situation at that time, it was obviously unrealistic to give the two families a bride price of 200,000 yuan.

Because of the Mid-Autumn Festival in 20 17, Luo Chen's father was sent to Guangzhou for major surgery due to an emergency, and the medical expenses before and after were more than 100,000 yuan. Fortunately, people are very nice. Although medical insurance is reimbursed, the proportion of reimbursement in different places in the province is not very high, and his family also bears a large part. Don't say 200 thousand at that time, it was 65438+ 10 thousand. Luo Chen felt pressured.

In the long run, the auspicious day at the end of the year has passed, and He Jia still refuses to let go. Laurence family's opinion is more and more big, even Luo Chen's father, who has always been very identified with Ada, began to gently suggest that Luo Chen really can't consider giving up and can't keep dragging on like this.

Luo Jia's dissatisfaction broke out during the Spring Festival of 20 18. Seven aunts and eight aunts took turns to go into battle, ordering Luo Chen to stop loss in time and find another lover. It's best to find a local one in Guangdong. His family even asked someone to help arrange a blind date for Luo Chen.

All my friends know that Luo Chen and Ada will get married at the end of 20 17. However, nothing happened until the New Year's Day bell rang on 20 18. Someone asked Luo Chen why, but he just perfunctory, don't want to say more, so during that time none of us embarrassed to mention it again.

Because his father suddenly fell ill and his marriage was blocked by the bride price, Luo Chen said that this was the first time in his life that he really felt the economic pressure, and that feeling was very weak. In this world, money is king, and it is really bad to have no money.

Faced with the weakness of reality, the half-year-long bride price, and the pressure from home, Luo Chen gradually lost patience. He had a good temper and began to quarrel with Ada frequently. Finally, in March of 20 18, after the Spring Festival, the two decided to break up after a quarrel, and Luo Chen moved out of the house where they lived together.

Luo Chen said that he went out with a suitcase, and Ada took him to the stairs. When he went downstairs, he looked back and saw Ada standing at the window. Ada cried, and he cried. There must still be feelings, but the reality is cruel. Luo Chen is too poor to meet the requirements of any family. Ada's life is too hard to share with her biological parents.

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Knowing that the two had broken up, the Liu family was very anxious. Ada's adoptive father personally called Luo Chen and told him that it was really impossible for the Liu family not to pay the bride price. He advised them to lower the bride price, and there was always a way to solve it. It's a pity that they have been separated for so long. He started to find a rich family in the local area to arrange for Ada to go back on a blind date, and Ada swept over and scolded him.

However, after all, they really love each other. How could their relationship break up easily after four years? Only a month later, Luo Chen and Ada got back together. Luo Chen said that he and Ada didn't really want to break up, but the pressure was too great during that time, and a short separation could give them a rest.

Knowing the news of reconciliation, I don't know whether it was the persuasion of the Liu family or the exhaustion in this bride price tug-of-war. He family took a step forward for the first time, and the required bride price was reduced from 6.5438+million to 80,000.

If each family is 80,000 yuan, the total amount of bride price to be paid will be reduced to 1.6 million yuan. Although the Liu family said that the bride price could be waived, Luo Chen could not only give the Liu family a bride price. After all, the Liu family raised Ada.

Luo Chen said that after that short separation, he understood his feelings for Ada better, and he could not live without her for the rest of his life, so he decided to try his best to persuade his family to find ways to raise money as soon as possible and pay a bride price of 6.5438+0.6 million for the two families.

But an unexpected arrival changed the pattern of the game.

From July, 2065438 to July, 2008, the results of B-ultrasound examination in the hospital showed that Ada was pregnant.

After the news came back to Jiangxi, he immediately made a second concession and agreed to the second plan put forward by Luo Chen a year ago. The bride price of 65,438+10,000 yuan is divided into 50,000 yuan for each family. The bride price saw that lasted for a whole year came to an end.

Luo Chen and Ada, who were supposed to get married at the end of 20 17, finally became newlyweds on the national day of 20 18, and became prospective parents by the way.

Luo Chen said that the arrival of the child was purely accidental. I don't believe it. I asked him if it was really an accident or if he and Ada deliberately cooked raw rice, which made Ada's biological parents worry that the cooked duck would fly and get nothing, forcing them to make concessions. Luo Chen smiled and didn't answer me.

I thought it was over, but Luo Chen told me it wasn't.

According to the plan, the adoptive mother will push her adoptive father in a wheelchair and personally send Ada to Luo Chen. Ada attached great importance to this link and rehearsed it many times. She wants to use this ceremony to repay the Liu family's parenting.

However, on the National Day wedding day, Ada's mother, who had no objection to this, suddenly retorted and suggested that her biological father take Ada to Luo Chen. Ada disagreed, and there was an argument on the spot.

Luo Chen said that they were arguing in dialect, but he didn't understand. The Liu brothers present helped him explain the content of the quarrel. It turned out that Ada's mother was dissatisfied that He Jia only got 50,000 yuan in the end, thinking that she was too embarrassed to earn enough money, and wanted Ada's parents to show off He Jia's limelight with Ada.

Fortunately, the dispute was not fierce, and it was quickly persuaded not to disturb other guests attending the wedding. Because of Ada's insistence, her adoptive parents finally sent her to Luo Chen.

It is worth mentioning that the 50,000 yuan allocated to the Liu family was finally returned to the Luo family in the form of dowry, which surprised and moved both.

After listening to Luo Chen's story, I was deeply moved by his hard road to marriage. At least the result is good to comfort him. As the saying goes, many good things grind people.

Luo Chen gently snorted: "OK, when you get married yourself ..."

I interrupted him: "After listening to you so much, I suddenly don't want to get married."