In eat drink man woman, there is neither love nor joy, but there are more and more older single men and women. They would rather spend a lot of time on fitness, traveling and playing games than talking about a broken love. What's the problem? There are/kloc-0.0 million ways to kill feelings, and one of the fatal problems is avoidant personality.

"I am particularly eager for intimacy, but I am afraid of really falling into it." "If I open my heart and tell the secret, will it be used as a handle?" "Why, the more I like someone, the more I feel unworthy." "What if he likes my glamorous side, not the real me?" All the above are typical manifestations of avoidant attachment personality. If you have met such a person, or you have these thoughts yourself, then you have not run away! You can sit directly in the right position.

Know what the problem is and solve it. Do you want to make sure that this relationship is worth your efforts to repair the business? After confirmation, abandon all unrealistic fantasies. What overbearing president falls in love with brainless little white flower and what prince charming I don't marry are all lies in film and television novels. All long-term good relationships need to be managed with care.

First of all, you should know that human nature is the basis of personality diversity, regardless of gender. Don't learn one or two labels and new terms and impose them on others, such as love rat and green tea. Maybe the other person really has insurmountable psychological barriers.

Secondly, personality is the premise of establishing a good relationship. Emotion is different from reason because it is based on sensibility and is instantaneous, changeable and complex. Many problems in feelings have nothing to do with personality.

Refusing to communicate and avoiding problems does not mean that avoidant personality is not eager for intimacy. They just can't help themselves. They can't help themselves. Even if they say no, they are actually honest. They really want a lot of love. But there is a weak voice in my heart that has been playing the devil's advocate, desperately brainwashing them that you are not worthy, that you are not good, that everything will change, and that there are too many troubles to hide.

So, they used their imagination to cast a castle that they thought was stable. I started running when I met a problem, but I didn't face it. I ignored it, holding my shoulder tightly like a hedgehog and watching. What you need is love like spring breeze and rain, gently pulling them out of that dark and restless world. All right, let's get to the point. How to deal with avoidant attachment?

First of all, inside is your energy field to solve all problems. Think about those people who are crazy and hysterical in the street. Do you think that every cell is resisting and just wants to stay away? Those who encounter emotional problems, throw long articles at each other and bombard each other with short messages and voices, in the final analysis, are internally lacking in self-confidence and urgently need the approval of others.

Man, crawling in the mire of feelings, begging for mercy like a stray dog, even without dignity and self-esteem, how can you win the respect and love of others? You should handle your own external and internal affairs first. Externally clean, generous, decent, elegant and confident, internally kind, brave, sincere, optimistic and enthusiastic.

It is not the kind of abnormal narcissism that is meticulous from the first hair to the heel and looks in the mirror a hundred times a day, but attaches great importance to the relationship between one's body and mind and the whole world. People who live seriously are super attractive and deserve all the beauty in the world.

Secondly, you have to understand, what is the psychological appeal of escape? It's a sense of security. He shirked responsibility, was willful, never left, and refused to communicate. After all, he is like a child who loves to play with firecrackers and is afraid of getting hurt. You have to understand this, his anxiety and uneasiness.

He is an island, and you are a bird watcher. He is the tide, and you are a solid waiting shore. His world is full of chains and darkness, and you can be a direct light. It is important that you learn to create a comfortable atmosphere and let him be himself like the spring breeze. For example, "Don't take it to heart!" "Never mind, you still have me!" Relax and take your time. You are the light, warmth and April day in his life, so you are like a super magnetic field to him.

We are all ordinary people, we should work hard for food, clothing, housing and transportation, and strive as ordinary people. You and I both have the complexity, versatility, profundity, subtlety, meticulousness and even darkness of human nature, so there is no need to say anything more. You know this man is not so good, but you still want to go with him. You don't have to be nice to others.

Therefore, with great sincerity and goodwill, I analyze and sort it out word by word. Not to cheat those good men and women and be the suckers in their feelings. Instead, it provides an opportunity, a chance to live and a reference for those who love each other and struggle with pain.

Life is not a college entrance examination question, and there are standard correct answers. No one can escape the hurdle that should be encountered. It is better to be sober than to go with the flow. Even if you encounter something other than avoidance, it will help you smooth your feelings and go smoothly. Losing is a painful emotional exercise class, and you can avoid it if you can. Life is not about finding guilt, do you think?