Grapefruit is a person who can't communicate very well. At work, she seldom takes the initiative to communicate with the judges who take her. Every time, she just silently completed the task of explaining, without communication; In order to further study, she went to a lecture. She has questions to ask, and she has organized the language in her mind. There were not many people at the scene, but she just didn't have the courage to speak.
The troubles of grapefruit remind me of an elder, Miss Zhang.
Miss Zhang is the manager of a company, less than forty, financially free, playing with a good fund and buying real estate for American imperialists. Sharing in the theater of hundreds of people, she was talking and laughing, calm and complacent, and looked very comfortable.
She said to us, "No matter when and where, you should try to make others remember you, and it is best never to forget you."
I was moved by this sentence-at that time I was always looking for ways to improve my sense of existence. Although I was afraid to raise my hand, I forced myself to ask her, "Some people are not good at expressing themselves by nature. What should I do? "
Miss Zhang heard the news and told us her story.
In fact, she is not a natural expressive person, and her personality is introverted. In the first few years of her work, she didn't like to show off. The thought of being noticed by everyone makes her nervous. She seldom expresses her opinions, so her sense of existence is extremely low.
On one occasion, she met her colleague Xiaoke because of her business relationship.
She and Xiao Ke mentioned: "Actually, we attended a training together a year ago."
Xiaoke looked puzzled and tried to remember, or frankly, he didn't remember.
Miss Zhang feels a little lost.
She suddenly realized that the reason why she has been standing still for two or three years is precisely because she never "forced" herself to express herself in public-if you never express your views, others will not know yours; If you never ask questions, others will ignore your existence.
No one will notice you, no one will praise you, no one will envy you-no one will notice you.
So you're forgotten. Even if you have worked for two or three years, you are only a dispensable and transparent person in everyone's eyes.
Miss Zhang's company is a multinational company, and she often has meetings in different places. She didn't talk too much at every meeting before. Usually, after the representative of the headquarters has finished speaking, it is not clear what questions to ask, and the representatives of the other seven countries ask questions in turn. Finally, the headquarters asked, do China people have any opinions?
At this time, almost all the questions were asked by others, and Miss Zhang could only say "no, no".
Miss Zhang, who didn't want to remain silent forever, made up her mind and forced herself to change.
She secretly set herself a task-every video conference, she must ask the first question, even if it is just "Can you explain XXX just now?"
From the beginning, the scalp numbness became more and more natural and smooth, and Miss Zhang gradually liked this feeling of positive expression.
At first, she was worried that her question was substandard and would be laughed at by others. But then she found that if she forced herself to ask questions, she would listen subconsciously and think more seriously, and the questions she finally asked were often of high quality.
Because she forced herself to express herself, in the eyes of her colleagues, she gradually changed from "Oh, let me think, she is not bad" to "very thoughtful" and "very insightful" business backbone.
Sometimes people have to force themselves to grow up.
Miss Zhang's advice to young people is: always choose the unstable side. If you are hesitant about the direction of life, go to the side of upheaval. Force yourself to leave your comfort zone, and you can grow up quickly.
When it comes to choosing a career, Miss Zhang even joked: "Never choose a job that your parents let you choose."
For example, instead of listening to her parents, she got an iron rice bowl in the local area and did an unchangeable and unchallenged job. Instead, I choose to enter a foreign company with fierce competition, forcing myself to learn and use quickly while studying every day, forcing myself to meet challenges every day, breaking through and surpassing myself every day, and getting up in daily growth.
Mr. Dong, the general manager of a brand in Asia-Pacific region, had a similar experience.
The turning point in Mr. Dong's life occurred at the age of 34.
Before that, he was just a small screw in a huge group, and his salary was barely enough to support his wife and newborn children.
In 2000, the company wanted to send its headquarters staff to explore blank markets such as the Middle East and Africa. At that time, in addition to Mr. Dong, there were several colleagues with similar qualifications.
Several candidates, including Mr. Dong, are hesitant. Although expatriation is a springboard for promotion and salary increase, it also means leaving home, running around in strange countries, and opening up markets alone is always under great pressure.
Several others finally chose to give up this opportunity, and Mr. Dong decided to push himself out of the comfort zone and embark on the road of overseas assignment.
At that time, the company did not give him a single soldier. He took office alone and went to Arabia alone with his luggage.
After serving overseas for seven years, he flew so much that he didn't know where he was when he woke up in the morning.
He did marketing in India, held roadshows, and rented three trucks to let users experience the products on the trucks. If it feels good, it will be transported by truck to a nearby store for purchase. In this way, he personally followed the truck and ran to 8 1 city in India.
During these seven years, he helped the company to open markets in countries such as United Arab Emirates, Iran, Israel, Kazakhstan and Uzbekistan.
After being sent back to China, he became the general manager of the company's Asia-Pacific region, which was convincing.
In India, a poor and backward country, and Dubai, where he lived in a drunken dream, he endured hardships and loneliness under various huge cultural differences. There were times when he retreated, but he "forced" himself to stick to it and continue to cut through thorns and open up territory.
You never know how good you are unless you push yourself; You never know how much potential you have until you push yourself.
How many "excellent" are forced out. Force yourself not to be lazy, not timid, not to retreat, force yourself out of the comfort zone, and let yourself mature in a tough battle.
In the face of life choices, taking a step back will not broaden your horizons. When you give in again and again, you are actually giving up your right to choose your life. If you don't force yourself, you can only be forced by life and passively surrender.
I also asked myself: I always push myself. What does that man live for?
Some time ago, I interviewed several girls who lost weight successfully. One of them lost 30 pounds in three months, the skeletal muscle rose from 22.5kg to 24kg, and the chest rose from C cup to D cup.
During the three months of losing weight, she forced herself to go to the gym at seven o'clock every day after work, stretching to eight o'clock, aerobic for forty-five minutes, and then stretching to nine o'clock. When I got home, it was already ten o'clock. Sometimes I have to work overtime, so I have an appointment for a class at seven in the morning.
The company distributed cakes, and she distributed them to everyone. She dared not eat it herself and eagerly asked her colleagues if it was delicious.
Working overtime to order takeout, my colleague ordered McDonald's, but she only dared to order a mashed potato and soak it before eating.
She said, "I want to see if I can stick to one thing after all these years."
It is certainly not easy to force yourself to persist for three months. But after slimming down, you can wear a beautiful skirt with a full waist, and you can inadvertently get your collarbone and mermaid line when you take a selfie, without deliberately looking for an angle. ...
You force yourself to do what you don't want to do now, so that you can do what you want to do later.
Now, you force yourself to grow up, become a better person and take the initiative in life, so that you won't be forced by the situation and driven to move forward difficultly in the future. Forcing yourself to work hard is to strive for the right to be willful at any time for the future.
Sometimes, people have to force themselves to grow-don't be lazy, don't be timid and don't back down. Only by "taking a step" can we see the vast sky.