How to chat with a girl you just met? It is very important to chat with girls you just met, especially the first WeChat chat, which directly affects the success rate of picking up girls. How to chat with a girl you just met? I'll teach you how to chat with the girl you just met.
How to chat with girls you just met 1 How to chat with girls you just met can increase your goodwill.
First, chat time.
1, just met, don't send messages too often.
The girls I just met are not very familiar, so it's good to be friends, so we should be interesting, don't chat with each other too often, and try to get to know the girls first through friends circle and other methods.
2. Choose the chat time according to the other person's circle of friends.
Chatting with girls in each other's free time is only possible to get a reply. After all, girls don't like being disturbed when they are working or doing things, so how do you know when the other person is free?
First, from 8: 00 pm to 1 1 pm, it is a relatively free time for women; Second, according to the time when a girl sends a circle of friends, a girl uploading pictures in a circle of friends will definitely retouch them. You can also talk to a girl at this time.
3. How long does each call take?
(1) When chatting with a girl you just met, you should pay attention to the time of chatting, and don't talk for too long, so that you will have no mystery in front of the girl, and she will have no desire to explore you;
(2) Take the initiative to end the chat before the break, which is a careful embodiment;
(3) When you don't know what to post, end the topic in time, and don't let you have nothing to say in the chat.
Second, the topic of chat.
Of course, when chatting with girls, we should choose topics that girls are more interested in and understand. Don't let a chat turn into a person talking. We can choose topics according to each other's circle of friends. For example, if a girl keeps a pet, you can talk about how good your pet is. Girls usually talk about their pets.
* * * Friends with you, places you have been, etc. , can be used as a choice to chat with girls.
3. What's wrong with chatting with a girl you just met?
1, feelings
When chatting with a girl you just met, you should be careful not to talk about emotional things, such as your ex's or the other's emotional history, which will make girls dislike you.
2. Too specific questions
For example, a girl's work, salary and family problems can be discussed but not too deeply. After all, you just met, and you're not her boyfriend.
3. Topics full of negative energy
If you chat with a girl you have just known for a long time and always complain about the negative energy of work and life, it will make the girl think that you are a person who only complains about no initiative.
How to chat with girls you just met 2 First, the primary stage.
Rhythm Tags: Time and Frequency
What is the first meeting stage? You just met a girl, just added a girl, just said hello, this is the first meeting stage. At this stage, there are two common situations:
As long as you don't contact her actively, she won't contact you. (Chat frequency)
Even if you take the initiative to contact her, she may come back slowly or even not. (Selectivity of chat time)
Faced with these situations, many boys will make wrong choices, such as chatting with girls all the time every day, waiting in front of their mobile phones to reply, and gradually grow into top bombers and licking dogs. In fact, this is a wrong chat rhythm: you have no chat skills and can't find the right time to chat. At this stage, the appropriate chat time is the first step to master the chat rhythm.
For example, you may join a girl at midnight 1 1, 12. Have you ever thought: "Is it appropriate to continue chatting at 1 1 or 12?" You all have to go to work, so you can only end the conversation by chatting. Visit her another day and you will find it difficult to "get into the theme" and girls' interest level is not high. (Chat time error)
The appropriate chat time is: around 6 pm, most girls just get off work, and the whole person will enter a relaxed state; At 7 or 8 o'clock, the state is the best; Then talk until 10 or so, and your relationship will warm up to a safe stage. (Correct time rhythm)
Also, the frequency of chatting also determines the rhythm of chatting. For example, "You keep sending messages to each other in the morning and evening" and "Every message she sends you is the second reply", girls will judge your sense of need, so there is a "spoony" chat mode, which makes you very cheap and unattractive. The result of this behavior is that the chat state is tilted, which leads to the outdated chat rhythm! Therefore, in order to control their chat frequency, we must create a sense of "gap" for women. What is the feeling of "gap"?
1, make him feel that you are busy, and it may take three or four minutes to reply to a text message at a time;
No matter how long the world is, it will take 10 minutes or even half an hour to recover.
If, during the operation, girls respond to your "intermission" rhythm, the operation will be very stable, and you can firmly control the chat rhythm. When chatting, find the right opportunity through simple topics and quickly promote the relationship between two people! This is an effective chat! You will only care about each other every day and never catch up with her! Think more about the wonderful chat records with women, you can add me directly, and I will send some wonderful chat records with beautiful women in the circle of friends, which contains many chat topics and topics that girls are interested in! Show me how masters chat with girls and study hard.
Rhythm label: skill explosion
After making preparations in the early stage of the first meeting, it will enter a sweet period for both sides, which is also a favorable period. If a brother says, "We talked for a long time, it seems very dull and has no good feelings." Sorry, maybe you didn't do it well in the early stage, so you won't consider it at this stage. Please go back and rebuild it.
The way to master the rhythm of chatting is to seize the opportunity to improve the relationship and break out skills! Because at this time, on the basis of mutual affection, in the eyes of girls, the release of chat skills is no longer a blunt and cunning routine, but some sweet and natural behaviors. So maintaining the chat rhythm at this stage can be divided into three steps:
The first step is to strengthen goodwill.
There is a good saying: "snubbing a person is the best way to arouse strong feelings." Similarly, in chatting, to strengthen a person's goodwill towards you, we must learn to be cold to her at an appropriate time, that is, to make good use of the "push-pull" method to bring her into your chatting rhythm. We can look at some examples:
Also, push and pull constantly to deepen your goodwill: obviously, at the right time, after some "push and pull" skills, girls will enter your dominant chat rhythm, and their goodwill for you will continue to rise. The problem of not being able to chat bothers 90% of male friends, and they often chat? Don't know what to say. Can't find a topic? I don't know how to chat with girls. With the addition of Sister yoki, all these problems can be solved. I will help you analyze your growth experience in detail, find out your weak links, and guide you to learn the correct way to chat with girls. Add mine if you want to learn. Click on three words for yoki's sister:-I want to learn!
The second step is to create a new theme.
Girls hate two kinds of boys: one is a boy who is talkative, self-expanding, interrupting others and only talking about himself from beginning to end; The other is that boys have no freshness when they run out of old topics, and unconsciously start the "full chat" mode. (At first, chatting with girls, talking about the past and the present, and going to astronomy and geography will inevitably be out of stock. When entering the favorable stage and grasping the chat rhythm, we need to create new topics. To explore new topics, we can start with girls' hobbies:
For example. Girls like fitness and outdoor sports. You can learn about these contents online, including some security issues that need attention. Usually chatting can take the initiative to bring these topics, and girls will feel your concern; Also, learn and participate in these activities, accumulate experience, share your experience, create more exchange opportunities and so on …
Also, from the beginning of work, if a girl is enterprising, you can appropriately praise her as a "strong woman" and "independent woman" and keep her work attitude, which shows that she is also an enterprising person. If the other person is not a career-oriented woman, then your topic should focus on whether her work content is tired, whether the company atmosphere is good, and how colleagues get along.
The third step is to pave the way for the invitation.
After talking about the first and second steps, you can pave the way for the invitation. The invitation to pave the way for the important trilogy is:
1, create opportunities
Step 2 find the invitation point
3. Attractive dating content
In this trilogy, the circle of friends is a place that can be used: starting from the circle of friends, guiding girls to comment through their own circle of friends. For example, you can usually take delicious photos, you can take them yourself, or you can go to a local restaurant. There are instructions in Peiwen, "Who wants to try their own XXX", "XX store looks great, I really want to find someone to go with" and so on.
Girls leave comments, and once they reply, they can smoothly transfer the chat to private messages after two or three rounds. Through step-by-step chat promotion, you can determine the time and place of your appointment and form a foreshadowing for your appointment. Use the other person's circle of friends to guide comments: For example, common examples are:
Girls send friends circle: Is there a great god who can take me off? You can reply: come out on weekends, find a well-connected coffee shop and take you away. Or: Girl: The hot pot in this shop is delicious. You must make it next time. You can reply: I know a hot pot restaurant, which tastes good, but it is remote. I can take you there. (Guide the chat rhythm of the appointment)
Third, the formal invitation stage.
Grasp the rhythm of chatting, establish deep feelings under the good rhythm of the first meeting stage and the goodwill stage, and pave the way for an invitation step by step. With attractive dating content, it is natural to send invitations naturally, and it is natural for girls to promise you! Here, yoki reminds everyone that the effective shortcut to love is to copy other people's successful experiences and methods, rather than trying to hit the wall. Finally, time was wasted, money was spent, and there was no result!
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Nothing is a problem. What matters is whether you meet the following three conditions:
1, you must make up your mind to change yourself and make yourself better.
2. Willing to invest in yourself, not just spending money on women.
3, can cooperate with the tutor, have execution and action, rather than just saying that it can't be done.