Marriage is sacred. Once despised, it is easy to be defiled, and those who live in it will suffer the consequences.

Marriage is not just about two people getting married and having children, it means responsibility and giving, and it is mutual. If one party can't do it, the marriage won't last long.

Many men who betray their marriage say the most to me: "I was just impulsive at first." I thought I would be fine as long as I returned to my family. " This sentence is no different from "I just made a mistake that men all over the world will make", which means I just cheated, and I won't divorce you. It seems that divorce can hurt a woman more than cheating. It seems that women want love as long as they don't get divorced, and everything else is casual. This sentence already contains disrespect for their partners.

How do couples who don't respect each other join hands to grow old together? Men have the dignity of men, and women also have the dignity of women. Neither man nor woman can accept the betrayal of the other. Even if they don't get divorced, it will cause irreparable cracks between them.

Men who betray their marriage often think that women dare not divorce easily, so they are unscrupulous. But for women, how much they trust a man, how much they love him and how much they will pay for him. The man's betrayal is undoubtedly a total denial of her contribution. How can a woman pretend that nothing happened?

The first sentence that Hao Jian (pseudonym) told me was: "My 50-year-old wife wants to divorce me. I can't live without her." I'm a little surprised to hear that. For women, there are very few divorces at the age of 50, probably because I have completely lost my good feelings for this man. After listening to his story, it was really emotional. Probably many men who betray their marriage never expected to betray a woman.

Just made a mistake that all men in the world will make.

Hao Jian started his business successfully at the age of 40, and more and more people sought after him. He was down-to-earth and became arrogant, not only in the company, but also at home. In the face of his wife who has been suffering for more than ten years, his inner disgust is more than gratitude. He knows it's not easy for his wife, but he thinks it's not easy for himself. Over the years, he has suffered a lot outside.

Couples often have a cold war. More often, Hao Jian always felt that his wife's concern bothered him, and he and his wife had no topic. Since my son went to boarding school, he can't speak ten words a day. His wife is a very cheerful and optimistic person. The long-term cold war has made her personality more and more eccentric, and her speech is always innuendo. Hao Jian proposed to sleep in separate rooms, so that his wife wouldn't think so much, saying that this was just the reason for her work, wasn't it

In fact, at this time, a confidante appeared beside Hao Jian. The two met at a cocktail party. After the conversation, Hao Jian felt that he had met the other party briefly, thinking that the other party knew him very well. Since then, the two have been getting closer and closer, always touching the bottom line.

Hao Jian admitted that he never wanted to divorce, and he would never marry that woman because she also had a family, but that's all. Although he and his wife don't have the same topic, at least his wife won't be unfaithful to him, and he is too lazy to cultivate a relationship. He feels that running a marriage is very tiring, so they just need to maintain an extramarital relationship.

However, Hao Jian's wishful thinking failed, and he could not resist the greed of the extramarital lover. After a long time, the other party was no longer satisfied with this shady communication, so Hao Jian kept throwing money to calm down. I didn't expect the other party not only to ask for money, but also to ask for people. It turned out that the relationship between the two was learned by the woman's husband, and the woman's marriage was facing a breakdown. Hao Jian this just know, the other party said "nothing" how can't stand the test.

When an extramarital woman saw Hao Jian's disapproval, she took the initiative to find Hao Jian's wife for a showdown. The wife didn't expect her husband to betray herself, but she thought of her efforts over the years and got such a response. She was heartbroken, but she didn't want a divorce. She even deeply reflected on herself, feeling that she didn't handle the contradiction between husband and wife well and let outsiders take advantage of it.

Hao Jian also knows that women who have extramarital affairs are not easy to deal with. As long as the wife is willing to forgive herself, it is meaningless. When a woman outside marriage sees her husband and wife, she knows that she can't get benefits and has to do it.

Hao Jian thinks that if his wife forgives herself, she can live as before. This extramarital affair was just a small accident of marriage and a test of marriage at that time, but he didn't realize where he was wrong at all. From beginning to end, he just felt that he was impulsive and didn't realize how much harm he had done to his wife.

03 "An extramarital affair ten years ago was rewarded ten years later"

When my wife is with Hao Jian, it's a big risk. My wife could have found better conditions, but she was willing to accompany him for so many years only because she loved this man and she was convinced that he would be successful and give her happiness. I thought people would have a hard time in middle age, but I didn't expect it to be a head-on blow, which broke her beauty. She didn't want to give it to others or be bullied by Hao Jian, so she had to put up with it.

When she chose to forgive, she asked Hao Jian to transfer all her property to her own name, saying that it was just to reassure herself. Hao Jian promised that her wife, who is 40 years old, still loves herself and will not divorce at all. As Hao Jian expected, his wife did not divorce because of money, but worked harder and harder than before, but her time was no longer spent at home, but spent on her hobbies.

No matter how busy and tired his wife runs a cake shop, she sticks to her teeth and goes to the gym in her spare time. Many people around her advised her to be 40 years old, stop fighting so hard and be better to herself, but her wife laughed it off. Hao Jian also regards it as his wife's hobby. In the past ten years, the business of his wife's shop is getting better and better, but Hao Jian's health is not as good as before, thinking that it's all right, there are fewer snacks, and his wife takes care of him.

Unexpectedly, my wife filed for divorce at this time. He was shocked and thought his wife was heartless. She was furious in an instant, but with no expression, she said unhurriedly, "Ten years ago, you were not more heartless. I've always been good to you. I have put up with you for ten years. Now you deserve it. Why should I take care of you? "

Hao Jian knew he was indefensible, and he was speechless. He thought of his wife's loss and his son. He didn't expect his son to hate him. He thinks this is caused by his mistake. Now that Hao Jian is old and has no money, he is alone. He thinks his health is getting worse and worse, and he wants his ex-wife back. He said that he really knew he was wrong. However, the other party's response completely shattered his fantasy. His ex-wife said that she married someone as a wife, not as a nanny. Since he didn't take her as his wife ten years ago, the relationship between husband and wife was broken at that time.

Everyone is responsible for his own actions.

Hao Jian's fate can only be said to be self-inflicted. Many people think that it is a woman's fault that men are willing to come back and women are still adamant. It seems that as long as men go home, women have the obligation to forgive. Marriage is not something we can't make mistakes. After all, we are not saints, but if we don't realize our mistakes at all and just make concessions on the basis of interests, who is qualified to ask for forgiveness?

As an adult, when we enter marriage, we should understand the responsibility and dedication. Commitment means not only money, but also patience and tolerance. However, many men will feel impatient when facing their wives, and even selfishly ask their wives, instead of thinking from the other side's point of view, to tolerate and care for their wives. This is the responsibility of a husband!

Marriage is like building a house, and loyalty is the foundation. Loyalty is gone, even if it is well decorated, it will collapse one day and the people inside will be scared.

A woman can love a man to the bone, and she will give up completely because a man let her down, turn around and leave without mercy, cherish this person in front of her, and regret it after losing it.