After school, I have been joining some group chats. In addition to family and class groups, there are various work groups after work, and every day is full of information. As soon as I turned on my mobile phone and saw the full information, my mood suddenly became irritable, especially when I kept @. The most annoying thing is that unrelated groups such as family, classmates and friends can be directly blocked, but not working groups.
I'm afraid someone is in the work group @ All members, no matter what they are doing at that time, whether they are at work or not, should check carefully. I feel that my time is completely occupied by work anytime and anywhere, and I don't even have a chance to catch my breath.
Some people say that direct shielding is good. It's not that easy. You don't want your job or anything.
In the world of adults, there is only silent patience and good attitude. Even if you are bombarded by the news and are very upset, you should learn to turn on your mobile phone gently and pretend to handle all the information calmly.
When you open the WeChat message list and look at the red dots and numbers on the left side of the group chat, you will feel extremely uncomfortable.
Under the action of obsessive-compulsive disorder, I had to click one by one to eliminate those red dot numbers.
Primary school group, junior high school group, senior high school group, alumni group, dormitory group, family group, family group, parents group, working group, project group, spelling group and purchasing group. ...
All kinds of large and small group chats completely occupy the screen. And those really important communication windows between two people have already been squeezed eight thousand miles away.
Presumably, the original intention of group chat function is to transmit information quickly and improve communication efficiency, but now all kinds of group chat messages have distracted us too much and wasted our time.
The function of the group, from simple multi-person dialogue and group chat at the beginning to derivative functions such as sunbathing, canvassing, selling goods and bargaining, may also be unexpected by the product manager.
According to a survey conducted by a social survey center, 75.4% of the respondents think that group chat interferes with their normal life. Only 14.4% of the respondents think that group chat does not take up too much time. There are also 0.8% respondents who have never joined any group.
There are more and more red dots on the list, and the life of contemporary people is more and more collapsed.
How to avoid feeling uncomfortable when chatting in groups?
Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes. Where there is a group, it is even more so-because there are too many people in the group.
Some time ago, the activities of the class family Committee in a primary school in Shanghai were hotly searched: the parents in the group tried their best to join the family Committee. Parents put their well-known foreign executives, prestigious schools, work experience of kindergarten family committees, personal hobbies that can help class development, and network resources in this small class group. For a time, you came and went in the group, with sharp words, clouds and clouds, swords and shadows. This is a competition between social owners and a family confrontation.
Election manifesto of online heirloom committee.
Maybe not every parent group is a cow, but after every notice from the teacher, more than a dozen "teachers have worked hard!" " You must be familiar with this group.
In the face of parents who can't quit because the water is too deep, in addition to trying not to disturb others or increase junk information, what they can do may only be to silently choose "don't disturb".
If your parents' group is too far away from you, if it concerns all groups at work, do you dare to "leave alone"?
Some netizens once spoke out about the expansion of group chat, which confused work and life and blurred the boundaries between work and work. The leader spoke in the group after work. Whether you are watching movies or exercising, you should reply in time, or you will get angry with the leaders and delay your work with great probability.
Some groups cannot be shielded.
However, even if we understand the disadvantages of group chat, we still can't escape the spell of leadership news.
After all, those professionals in the circle of friends who let the leaders send messages to the group but make them colorful may have been run over by the wheel of reality several times.
If "Do Not Disturb" can't save you, there's nothing you can do but bite the bullet and check your mobile phone from time to time.
The biggest problem with group chat is that it breaks the proper restrictions.
Appropriate restrictions are a major reason why people fall in love with social networks, except for efficiency and convenience.
Friends circle can be mass-sent, people who don't like it can be blacked out, and boring words can be ignored. This just right social experience can well distinguish the levels of everyone's social circle.
Appropriate restrictions are very difficult for China people who grew up pushing lucky money back and forth against their wishes.
But group chat has broken this line in many cases.
Work group and family group are like a meeting arranged according to status. Not if you don't reply, not if you reply wrongly. As for two people chatting in a large group, regardless of other people's impressions, or touching others directly in a large group, it is an act of crossing the border and hurting this due boundary.
Over time, the group chat is also full of trivial matters and rules of real life, which has become a chicken feather.
When you open the WeChat message list and look at the red dots and numbers on the left side of the group chat, you will feel extremely uncomfortable. Under the action of obsessive-compulsive disorder, I had to click one by one to eliminate those red dot numbers.
All kinds of large and small group chats completely occupy the screen. And those really important communication windows between two people have already been squeezed eight thousand miles away. Presumably, the original intention of group chat function is to transmit information quickly and improve communication efficiency, but now all kinds of group chat messages have distracted us too much and wasted our time. The function of the group, from simple multi-person dialogue and group chat at the beginning to derivative functions such as sunbathing, canvassing, selling goods and bargaining, may also be unexpected by the product manager.
Some groups, such as work, can't be shielded. However, even if we understand the disadvantages of group chat, we still can't escape the spell of leadership news. After all, those professionals in the circle of friends who let the leaders send messages to the group but make them colorful may have been run over by the wheel of reality several times.
Appropriate restrictions are a major reason why people fall in love with social networks, except for efficiency and convenience. Friends circle can be mass-sent, people who don't like it can be blacked out, and boring words can be ignored. This just right social experience can well distinguish the levels of everyone's social circle. Appropriate restrictions are difficult for China people who grew up in the return of lucky money.
Watching group chat news really has the illusion that the prime minister is busy!
Now we live in various relationships, and all kinds of things need to be handled in group chat. Indeed, the amount of information is becoming more and more "overwhelmed". Sometimes after work, we find that there are so many mobile phone WeChat groups with red dots. It doesn't matter if we go in one by one, but it really wastes our precious time and makes our mood more congested. I hope so.
Therefore, the curator thinks that the shielding function can be used, and the specific group chat can be handled like this:
There is no doubt that the group of work and one's own small family is the highest level, that is, it has the closest relationship with oneself, but the general work needs to be handled in time. So the group of work and family can be set at the top, but the group of family is blocked (muted) and the working group is not muted.
All other groups are muted. Then someone will ask, what if I miss important information? It's easy to do this. We set aside two time periods every day to focus on it, store and collect important information, and do it at home, so that we can finish it most efficiently in the shortest time.
For groups with no practical value, simply quit, and half of them have not participated in the discussion for about 3 months, which is basically unnecessary. If you quit because of the inconvenience of face, you can only set mute.
Generally, there are people who collect information or who share it enthusiastically in group chats. When you focus on viewing, just search for this person's name in "View Group Chat Information", and all his information will be clear at a glance.
The steps are as follows:
Knowing how to use these methods will reduce the noise and influence of group chat. It is necessary to simplify our life.
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In today's information age, WeChat, as a chat tool, has spread to most people's mobile phones, bringing a lot of convenience to our lives. By my side, almost everyone has downloaded the WeChat APP from their mobile phones. Since WeChat is a communication tool, there are inevitably various contact groups in WeChat. The number of those groups has reached hundreds, so there is a lot of information in them. There are always many red dots in some unrelated groups. When we open WeChat, we will see those red dots more or less, and we will have some phobias, especially for people with intensive phobias. I think it is necessary to block some groups. This will reduce our fear and anxiety about those red dots when we open WeChat. When those unwanted red dots disappear from our WeChat tool, maybe we will feel much better and have pressure when using it.
The news is endless, but people's energy is limited, so we should manage our energy reasonably.
I suggest dividing WeChat groups into four categories.
1 Important and urgent, such as working groups, are related to their own livelihood. If he doesn't receive any important news, it will affect his work. This can never be shielded.
The second is important but not urgent. Like a family group or something. My family will call you if there is something important. This can be blocked, but you should always look at it every day to see if there is anything new.
The third category is not important, but it is urgent. For example, colleagues, if there is a party in the evening, it is also very embarrassing not to receive the notice. You can take a look at this after work.
Category 4 is not important and urgent. For example, Taobao coupon group and community chat group. Just shield it directly.
Suggestions are as follows for your reference:
1. Thinking depends on whether it will affect work and life. Wechat has become a common communication tool for China people;
2. Analyze the reason why I am afraid of little red dot, whether I am afraid of missing important news or unpredictable job requirements and interpersonal requirements;
3. WeChat message processing and viewing for a fixed time, centralized processing;
4. If necessary in work and life, set up special information notices for important people's messages;
Now everyone has many WeChat groups on WeChat, including colleagues at work (including units, systems, superiors and subordinates, special work, specific work, etc. ), classmates (including primary school, junior high school, high school, university, same grade, arts and sciences, etc.). ), as well as daily life (shopping, bill collection, price reduction, promotion, travel, child care, medical treatment). Sometimes even kidnapped by WeChat group chat, I unconsciously click on WeChat group to read the group chat records every day. Most of the group chat records have little to do with myself, but I still read them, which is meaningless to my work and life. Therefore, for WeChat group chat, subtraction should be done. Delete it whether you want it or not. Don't add it if you can. Quit if you can. Be a simple person, be a pure person.
To block, life is to do subtraction. Only by focusing on what you like can you live the width of life. Be sure to calm down.
The philosophical answer is that life is meaningless and people have sufferings. But a person concentrates on what he likes and spends a lot of time on what he likes, which gives meaning to life.
So I answered your question seriously. Although I wasted three minutes, these three minutes of thinking made me progress and enriched me.
Empathy, you see my answer, you also spent three minutes, these three minutes you also lived out the width of life, you got the harvest, we won by * * *!