The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the biggest problem in the world. In a war without smoke, there is even a saying that "kill two birds with one stone". This is the first three years of giving birth. If you have conflicts in these three years, even the best relationship will cool down, so as to get tired of each other and get along with each other. With children, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not as good as before.

First of all, when there are no children, young people and old people have their own time and space, and people's mood is relatively relaxed, so naturally there will be no contradictions. However, after the baby is born, the whole family revolves around the baby. Everyone is very tired, and naturally everyone will be more anxious and more likely to care.

My aunt and daughter-in-law usually go shopping together like mother and daughter, but since my little nephew was born, my sister-in-law has not had a good rest every night and is very tired. At this time, my wife complained that the food was not delicious, and my aunt complained that the baby was not full, so why did she always cry? At this moment, it is easy for two people to have conflicts.

Secondly, the two generations have different educational concepts, so after having children, it is found that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to get along with, mainly about children, and the two generations are prone to conflicts. One party thinks that he has experienced it and is more experienced; The other side thinks that she is the mother of the child and has more say, so the two generations are most likely to have differences.

My cousin said in the book that newborns tend to feel insecure, so adults should hug him more when he cries. But the mother-in-law thinks that it is easy for the baby to get used to crying, and the cousin is still in confinement, so it is best not to hug. Because of different parenting concepts, two generations are also prone to conflicts.

So there is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law when there are no children, because there is no intersection between the two generations. Once a child is born, there will be more and more contradictions because there are children. Two generations bow their heads and don't look up, and there will be more and more contradictions in the long-term expectation. But for most families, although there are contradictions in life, for the sake of family harmony, both sides will take a step back and tolerate each other, but life will get better and better.