Generally, these women are informal, cheerful and straightforward, optimistic and able to take responsibility. They are still decent and generous in life, but gentle and considerate. They are decisive, calm and clear. They fight like men, and even have an aura that overwhelms men. But in life, a woman can put aside her work side, which refers to the difference between her personality and a lovely girl, not her improper behavior, inattention to occasions, or. Before you meet the man you love, you should fight like a man. Although I really don't want to use the word "beloved", it always feels strange. ) I seldom ask others for help for things within my ability unless the efficiency and effect of the two methods are far from each other. I think when I meet that person, I will also become a very woman, a very small woman, coquetry, tantrums, fantasy, willfulness, and I will do what all girls in love will do. If a woman is ugly ... wrong, she is a man ... if a woman is handsome, then she is delicate and gentle and understands a woman's heart. If a woman is ugly ... Wrong, she is a eunuch. Soft girls look good, that is, everyone loves flowers and the car has a flat tire. A weak girl is ugly ... wrong, that's mucus. A pure man is handsome, and that is heroic. In summer, I bought a bunch of cooked beer and sat at her house to drink it. I went shirtless, and her pajamas showed big white legs. They looked at Degang Guo, laughing their heads off, very happy. Drinking with her, she checks out more often, because she has never seen her blush when she is drunk. We drink opposite, and she can drink as much as I like, usually 15 bottles of beer. Every time I get drunk, she takes a taxi. On the popularity list of my male colleagues who voted privately, beautiful men ranked second. She loves photography and has been single for a long time. No one likes this image. Isn't it more like young American women? I prefer women to soft girls. Is the soft girl unique to the East? Reply 9: A woman with a strong heart is king. Faced with the increasingly fierce competitive pressure, women are facing greater challenges in the workplace, family and other aspects than before. At work, women need to deal with workplace problems calmly and quickly. In the family, women's roles are wife and mother, and they should take good care of their husbands and children in daily life. All these require a lot of energy. At this time, women need to balance the relationship between them as much as possible. To do this well, they really need a strong heart. As women, we should not be outward-looking women, but inner women, who are responsible, thoughtful and enterprising. These all need the tempering of time and the washing of life. How to make yourself strong in the long years is the real place for a woman. Reply 10: A strong woman can put down her hair and break her apron. Washing hands to make bride soup, a housewife can summon up courage to support a family after her husband collapses. Don't go to see women who have an affair with several men and use their femininity to get convenience in life, and don't go to see women who preach that "only they can rely on, and men don't have a good thing". They are not fixed templates for women, and they will not become XXX after we take the next road. We all reply infinitely. Eleven: The female man referred to in this article is "a woman who deliberately flaunts her identity as a female man in public and blames a lot of interpersonal problems in her life on her excellent personality". As far as I can see, she claims to be a female man in public. First, she exaggerates her "strong independence" and other characteristics. In fact, she is nothing more than ordinary things such as fetching water and buying food for self-study and carrying schoolbags in class. Second, with attacking "soft girls" as the main content, you guys are really looking for that kind of bitch blindly. Come and love me! ! ! "As a girl, I hate this kind of woman very much. First of all, men are not stupid. They will choose good women without your pointing fingers: either you admit that they are superficial and stupid, but you just have no advantage, or you realize that what you don't like is your shortcomings, not "I am too strong and independent as a woman". Being strong and independent are all advantages, and no one will stay away from you because of these advantages. Secondly, how can I smell a strange smell in those seemingly roaring and self-deprecating articles? It is agreed that women are straightforward and straightforward. If you want to praise yourself, praise it. " I may lead a rough life, but I deserve to be loved. "If you want to scold others, you should scold them well." When she sees a man, she can't carry her hand on her shoulder. How can she not do what we can do with a bowl of rice? "Don't accept praise or praise there. As far as my living habits are concerned, I am also very rough. I don't know how to make it up. Going out after washing your face in the morning is too much trouble for basic maintenance. When I go abroad, my pants move from east to west, and when I don't have a bike, I walk home with daily necessities for half an hour. But I don't feel like a woman at all, because I also went out on a date and struggled for an hour to choose a skirt. I saw my boyfriend for a long time and cried like a dog. As a person, why should we label ourselves and limit the scope? On the one hand, I think some things should be done by myself. As I said before, fetching water to buy food and carrying schoolbags for self-study in class are very common things and should not be done so proudly. It is true that some girls need someone else to deal with them, but it can't be regarded as a sign of her failure as an independent individual at that time, rather than a military medal that we normal people can use to show off. On the other hand, being gentle, virtuous, considerate and coquetry is a beautiful state presented by a girl in love. I think all the so-called "soft sisters" and "small fresh" are normal people except those wonderful flowers that are charming enough to make any man discharge. Some female men are probably in a wrong logical order. They don't find boyfriends by coquetry, but they learn to coquetry him only after they have boyfriends, that's all. Suppose you get off the plane or train and your boyfriend comes to pick you up and offers to help you with your suitcase and big bag. I want to ask some women, will you let them move things at this time? In my opinion, it is a reasonable distribution that boys are strong enough to help carry heavy objects and girls carry lighter luggage. If you have to weigh independence and self-esteem in this most common situation, say to your boyfriend, "Don't help me, it's all my own business, and I'm not bad for you", then drag the luggage turtle forward at a high speed with a blush, let him swing his arm in front and stop to wait for you from time to time, either that you feel inferior enough to prove yourself in front of him in this way, or that you have never been in love, and the relationship between lovers is completely measured by the standards of strangers. It's not hard to understand why some female men are so upset about their roommates' boyfriends helping to move things in the dormitory, which seems to me to be a normal thing. Before, I saw a sentence in a popular school sharing log with a similar theme, "Will it walk back by itself when it is spoiled in the trunk of the train station?" "After that, I praised the independent and self-reliant woman and satirized the shy and weak little girl. Friends who live in Beijing know that many transfer stations in Beijing subway have to climb high steps, some hand-held elevators do not open, and some old lines have no elevators at all. So when I go home on holiday, if the luggage is too heavy, I will ask passers-by to help me carry it down or go up the stairs. In fact, I am also one of the stronger girls (nicknamed rammer in high school, vigorously and vigorously), but I still know in my heart that no matter how strong I am, I am still a normal 20-year-old girl, and I can't compare with young men. For me, this kind of thing is also a question of choosing the best among the best. However, I can really risk the box rolling halfway and spend half an hour moving it up or down one by one, but for a passer-by, it's just 30 seconds for ventilation. Asking for help is polite, convenient, time-saving and labor-saving. There is no need to link it with moral dignity. It overemphasizes that girls can't lose to boys in any case. They are unwilling to admit that there is an objective gap between the two sides and are unwilling to ask for help because of this gap. In my opinion, it's not independence, it's bluffing. Let's think from the perspective of boys. Suppose a boy, with red lips and white teeth, is delicate and considerate, homely and doesn't like sports. Girls will call him a cat man and want to associate with him. Suppose a boy, with red lips and white teeth, is delicate and considerate in heart, homely, does not like sports, is proud of his lifestyle, hates sports men and muscular men, and always says, "You women like that kind of barbarians, play basketball, sweat, have thick lines, and don't pay attention to girls' minds. Only such a pure man can find a girlfriend. " "It's too bad for cats like us, isn't it too considerate? "It's just that we know girls' minds, when their physiological period is and why they are angry. It is because we know girls too well that girls feel that they can't hold cats like us, so they go to those rough people. We publish diaries on campus, which contain a lot of comparative sentences, such as "cats read memories of the past" and pure men read sports news. No wonder I have no girlfriend! ! ! Cat men wear simple white shirts, while pure men wear vests to show off their muscles. No wonder I have no girlfriend! ! ! "-excuse me, female compatriots, do you want to associate with him? In the face of this opposite sex who thinks he belittles your aesthetic standards, do you want to hehe or hehe? It is a good thing to be independent, strong, bright and generous, but it is not good to be independent, strong, bright and generous deliberately and consciously. At the banquet in December, Jiang Yang was criticized as Qian Zhongshu's wife ... These women who are gentle in front of their lovers, but can stand up and look straight at the world when suffering comes, are the real heroines-they don't compete with men for favor, they try their best for Luo Zhi, they are rational and calm emotionally, but they fight against the world slowly and continuously. This is the strength of women in my eyes. —————————————————————————————— Post the comment area and the topic discussion together because I didn't expect the subject to ask this question as a woman, so I only answered one aspect. In fact, when the word "female man" first came out, I liked to make fun of myself as a female man, but more and more female man diaries appeared, deliberately opposing female men and shyness. Although the tone is "no wonder I don't have a boyfriend, I deserve it as a pure man", there is still a sense of superiority behind it. For example, I just casually searched for "female man, shy" and came out with an article that started with a magazine: shy. Me: Hey, Grandpa, thank you for coming to my National Geographic and Men's Gang. Normal people can read praise and criticism in the comparison between Xinwei Ruili and National Geographic. Although the author cries "No wonder we women don't want it", in fact, she is not really worried about her way of doing things, but feels that she is much more advanced than women who care about makeup and clothes. This is something I don't like very much. Just like ruining the freshness, the word "female man" has also changed its taste in superiority and self-promotion. Therefore, I emphasize in bold at the beginning that the female man referred to in this article is mainly about "a woman who deliberately flaunts her identity as a female man in public and blames many interpersonal problems in her life on her excellent personality". Either you admit that they are superficial and stupid and only look at faces and cups, but you just have no advantage, or you realize that what you don't like is your shortcomings. I want to say that there are certainly many good-looking dishes in the female man. I mean, there are two interpretations of men's concept of mate selection. Either they think they are superficial and stupid and only look at their faces and cups, or they admit that they are all looking for a partner based on "good girls". No matter which point of view is used to explain "why I am still single", I can't come to the conclusion that "I am single because I am too strong and independent". I read a question on Zhihu before, which seemed to be "What do you think is the most attractive trait of your girlfriend?" I am particularly satisfied with this answer. The words that appear most frequently are "kindness", "optimism" and "warmth". In fact, men, like us, have only the simplest requirements for their partners. "Men like to worship themselves and hold relatively weak women. "This kind of situation does exist in China, but the subject knowledge is enough to know and communicate with boys of your same level. In fact, sometimes you will start to reflect on yourself after being single for a period of time, but maybe all you lack is good luck. Weakness is indeed a sharp weapon for women, but weakness is not a sufficient condition or a necessary condition. Compared with this technical job, I think understanding and understanding are more natural and useful for men. Maybe a woman who has been single for a long time will doubt whether she is not a woman and emotionally inflexible, but in my opinion, an independent, kind and considerate girl needs to believe that there are still many men in the world who can accept excellent partners. Ang Lee, Wang Xiaobo, or our husbands in Jin Gezhi Lake all earn less than their wives, but they are not proud or inferior to them. This kind of love that complements each other is what a real woman deserves. Your independence and strength can help you filter out men who are afraid of your Excellence. I think this is a good thing. Whether it's a woman who regards her manly personality as a unique capital or a girl who is really troubled by this personality and tries to let herself learn to show weakness, what I personally need most is not to strengthen the attribute of a woman man for myself. A strong woman can put down her hair and break her apron. Washing hands to make bride soup, a housewife can summon up courage to support a family after her husband collapses. Don't go to see those women who have an affair with several men and use their femininity to make life convenient, and don't go to see those women who preach that "only they are reliable and men have no good things". They are not fixed templates for women, and they will not become XXX after we take the next road. We are all infinite. But after being separated from my boyfriend for three years, I will be surprised to find that there are many qualities in me that I never thought before: tolerance, motherhood, gentleness, being able to ask for help, expressing my emotions at will, and not being prepared.