I practiced for four months and read more than ten books about finishing. The following three points of cognition were never expected before they were finished.

First, finishing is an exercise, not a one-off behavior.

Does anyone, like me, subconsciously think that buying a few financial books can make you rich? If you apply for a master's degree, you can become as powerful as him or her; If you buy a dress, you are a noble and gorgeous person.

Look at the objects around you, nothing is not carrying memories, but hiding feelings and sustenance.

Especially when breaking up, some things that I want to throw away and bother me almost coincide with my suppressed and hidden dreams or obsessions.

Beginning to sort out, this expansion and spread from tangible things to intangible things can not be completely completed at one time.

Of course, there is no doubt that a thorough cleaning of the house can bring temporary rejuvenation.

But for the arrangement of intangible things, it takes time, energy and energy to break through one by one just to straighten out one's heart.

When I was sorting out my things, I found a diary from five or six years ago and opened it. One of them reminded me.

It was the worst time in my life. I lost myself, denied myself, and demanded myself by other people's standards all day. It is comparable to the state that pine nuts are "born as human beings, sorry".

According to the diary, one day, one of my most respected and favorite photography teachers in the company said that I had nothing to envy except admiring me as a mother.

Although I am well aware of my shortcomings, it is still a great blow to say it from others. I have been sad for a long time, and even now I can't stop crying when I see these words.

There has always been a knot in my heart: I have paid a lot for full-time mothers and housewives, but there is no obvious return.

I still look at myself as others look at Ma Bao and housewives. Despite these years, I have taken time to read and write while taking care of my children, which has broadened my horizons a lot.

But I haven't changed much in my cognition. Therefore, I have the same enthusiasm and unremitting fascination with the persistence of reading and writing, and I vaguely know that it has the function of this stalk.

I think one day I will be open-minded and transparent in this matter, and I will no longer care about topics such as gains and losses. I am very moved to mention this matter. Be yourself with gratitude. At least, I haven't found the door of this road yet.

This matter, after so long, I can't draw a perfect ending.

It can be seen that sorting out life is not something that can be rushed for success. It is a lesson integrated into life, like three meals a day, which is supplemented every day and from time to time.

Second, tidying up life is a big project similar to decorating a house.

Sorting is the "sorting and recovery" of the present self to the past; Design and planning for future life; And a choice and habit of doing things for yourself now.

Tidying up the past is like losing weight. The success of dieting or exercising to lose weight is only temporary. Only by changing the original habit of getting fat, finding out the real murderer who caused obesity, correcting these habits from the aspects of diet, work and rest, stress and living habits, and re-establishing a new diet and rest time can we maintain a good figure.

It's like reviewing and summarizing past thoughts, habits and things you are doing in the process of sorting out. Get rid of bad habits and develop new self-discipline habits, so that you can lose weight without rebounding and realize a new life.

For the future, like house decoration, first empty all the items in the room and make the following preparations: measuring, designing, constructing and customizing the furniture in the room.

If these steps are connected with the arrangement, it is like this:

It can be seen that sorting out life and decorating a house is a big project, and life planning is far more complicated than decorating a house. You can ask the decoration company to design a big room for you, but you can only walk the road of life by yourself.

3. How long will it take you to pay for your dream?

In Life Arrangement, the author Ms. Yuan Chunnan spent seven years, from nothing to publishing a book, achieving her career and finally growing into a lecturer who influenced millions of people.

There are 10 1 dreams in the book, which is very shocking:

In 7 years, I read 600 books, wrote more than 2 million words and painted more than 700 pictures. Yoga 100+ hours; Speech 100+ times ...

The realization of every dream has devoted the author's time and energy to achieve today's achievements.

And if we want to start our life again, how much effort and cost will we have to pay in order to be like the author in exchange for the realization of the dream list?

I remember the first time I listened to Teacher Yi's live class. She asked us to put the word "time barrier" on the public screen. She wrote 13 years and got the result today.

Everyone who walks calmly in life has a period of persistence and hard work behind him.

Imagine your own dream list, which is already in the process of being made or created. You just need to be yourself and do what you should do now.

In the near future, these orders will come to us one after another like express delivery.