Make an appointment with friends to study together, take notes, share with each other, encourage each other and grow together ~

Finally, I received "The Manager and the Mind", and I enjoyed reading it in the afternoon tea ~ A lot of words came to my heart ~ The manager is an art, and the manager needs to keep silent in front of him ~

Happiness is to follow every day! (indeed)

? Chaos may be annoying, but few people regard it as an enemy. We always indulge it secretly, just like soft meat at the waist. (This is vivid, often numbing yourself in chaos ~)

? In life, there is always a tired one rolling and another tired, hugging each other and waiting in the corner. Just when you find your new face torn off and the past still standing in front of you, the tired rubber band suddenly breaks, and the curly hair is worn out and scattered all over the floor. (there are often such shabby situations ~)

? If I ask you, when you come to the end of your life, what will you use to define whether you live successfully or not? What's your answer? (It really takes time to think ~)

? Why should we organize our internal and external life? I can't get in or out because it's messy, irritable and narrow. Because I don't know what to do. !

? It is difficult for people to admit the uselessness of materials because they are not sure what they really need. This is a lifelong lesson. If you study hard, you will make progress.

? Some people think that we get rid of hoarding inside and outside our lives just for neatness. In addition to chaos, there is a deeper meaning, which is to make us more focused and go straight to the benchmark.

? Giving up is one of the most difficult courses in life.

The "slimming game" in the article needs practice and practice. When I read this part and shared it with Mr. Ji, he also felt reminded that the "slimming game" needs to do a lot of things and it is always difficult to give up. I hope that when I really practice, I will find that there are too many goods to deal with in my life ~

Characteristics of hoarding: the following mind map

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The hoarding inside life, because there is no regular cleaning, I don't know the "crowding" hidden in life.

We are used to stuffing things into our hearts! !

It's true. I think this one is good and that one is good. It seems that if you don't collect it first, you will lose something, but you won't have time to sort out and absorb what really nourishes your life. The author shares his ideas/memories/dreams/abandonment, and has some new reminders. Have a look. )

Maturity means that you are no longer greedy, especially those who hoard internally. (For example, there are too many opinions. )

? About memory. Reminder: Even the good memories of the past can't let it occupy me today! )

? About dreams. (Dreams I can't put on today) Don't let those beautiful dreams fill the inner channel, don't let me not go out today, don't let future ideals stand at the door of my mind, and let me not go out today. I think those unrealistic dreams need to be cleaned up, to find realizable dreams and to think ~)

? About giving up!

Those wrong ideas and concepts

Negative emotions and complaints

Useless remorse and regret

Things that cannot be changed

Those harmless parties

The burden of traditional festivals

Bear the debt of gratitude ~

In the author's words, I encourage myself: as long as I am humble and admit that my space is so big, I have so much strength to tidy it up, my arms are open, I can embrace it so wide, and I no longer carry the world on my shoulders, I will recognize what is the hoarding of life and have the courage to give it up. This is exactly what I need to learn to organize ~)

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Chapter IV: Urban Areas

At first glance, the topic really doesn't make sense. This is just an image metaphor. The city center is a public place, but there are many corners that shelter evil people and shelter evil practices, and so is home ~

As long as you explain it a little, it is estimated that you will understand it soon. There are many "city centers" at home. How to turn "city center" into "control center" (transit station) is something that needs good practice, and it is also something that we often perceive inadvertently and don't know how to deal with it effectively.

Once hoarded, it will take a lot of time to clean up when it is unbearable, but it can't achieve the effect of regular cleaning. Therefore, knowing how to run a family is really an art, but it is often ignored by the world. Seeing those housewives who know how to run a family, I really admire them for living. There is really a lot of wisdom to practice ~

I found that many downtown areas are often put off again and again. If I don't know how to deal with it, it will become a burden. If I don't want to deal with it, it has reached the point of hoarding.

Encourage yourself with teacher Rui Xin's words: a busy day, don't wait for the arrival of "free time" Flexibility is the characteristic of mature life. As long as many ideas are willing to change, the blocked reality will be exported.

Life is like a deposit in a bank. Instead of waiting for a large sum of money to arrive suddenly, it is better to accumulate it bit by bit on a regular basis. (also dealing with downtown)

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Chapter 5: Downtown

After reading this chapter, I found that I was very vague about my "inner city center" and seemed to have no concept. Maybe to put it another way: what attracted the attention of my inner life (Is this understandable? )

I don't have the experience of regularly renovating the "inner city center", and I find that there is no way to start and there is no clue to rectification. I need to look for the "inner city center" carefully ~

The more you read, the more you look forward to the start of the second course. I hope the author Mr. Ma Ruixin can give some guidance ~ ~

As the author said, when children are young, they run after the needs, throw them all the way and pick them up all the way. It seems that the needs of children at this stage are the center of life, but they can't see or even ignore the needs of their own lives?

How big a rattan basket should I use to come to put in order and load these demands?

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Chapter 6: Kitchen

The kitchen is the place where most stay-at-home mothers spend the longest time. I believe there will be a lot of emotions and moods when cleaning and cooking repeatedly every day. A word of criticism, a bad face and a disdainful action will all flow into the busy life in the kitchen and deeply affect us. It is estimated that the first place where many wives go on strike is the kitchen.

It's really difficult and stressful to meet picky family members. On the contrary, the author said at the beginning of this topic that every time he walked into the kitchen of a family, he saw the heart of the hostess.

The author went on to say that the kitchen is a character research institute, and talked about the fruit of character from the kitchen, such as humility, patience, diligence, creation, acceptance and waiting ~

I appreciate the author's sentence: I bury my waiting heart in the kitchen and do the same brushing action every day, just waiting for my heart to change. I believe that continuous efforts will bring changes to the life of my beloved family that are invisible to the naked eye every day. I believe there is a lot of beauty in broken water. )

A lot of feelings, a lot of feelings and encouragement ~

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Chapter 7: Reorganization of Kitchen

There are two kinds of hoarding in the kitchen: 1- food 2- kitchen utensils and small household appliances.

Nine times out of ten, food hoarding will happen. In fact, everyone knows that the fresher the food, the better, but we like to hoard food with the mentality of fleeing. In particular, some families buy large quantities for supermarkets at discounted prices, allowing food to cross the boundaries of the kitchen and occupy other spaces in the home. In fact, this will only increase the chance of losing expired food. Just like the refrigerator is not full, there is no sense of security. This has been practiced. Try to hoard as little as possible and buy in moderation ~)

Man's desire is infinite, but his self-control is extremely weak. I often think that only one refrigerator is a blessing. The limited number of cabinets is a reminder. When it is full, it means I should stop buying. No matter how big the discount is, no matter how delicious the food is, I should refrain from buying it. This change in concept is very necessary. )

The author puts forward: shopping list, planned purchase, container restriction ~ will definitely be of great help in practice, and it will be concise and clear ~

In the details of how to organize, the author also gave many suggestions, such as moving the table, increasing storage space, cleaning and so on.

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Chapter 8: The Heart of the Kitchen

The kitchen is an arena, full of youth, ideals and personality. Chop, steam, peel and finely cut, and make the taste of love more fragrant through care and consideration ~

This is a place that needs to be broken, and gradually it shows its will ~

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Chapter 8: Living Room

? If the kitchen represents a woman's heart, the living room is her face.

? If a family kitchen completely exposes the hostess's acceptance and recognition of her role, then a family living room fully expresses her social concepts and interpersonal relationships. (reasonable)

Like me, what moved the author was the home of a retired missionary. I worked in the third world, cared about people's lives, and returned to Los Angeles after retirement. I heard that there are many international students who have left their hometown in the state university, so I used my meager savings to buy a 30-flat trailer nearby, carefully arranged it, received young students, shared valuable life stories, and warmed many people's hearts.

You can imagine the wonderful fellowship of being accepted and cared for. In western countries, home is your own private domain, and it is not easy to invite people in. I was very moved and accepted that we were invited to their home for dinner by a pastor's wife. It's not easy to have a reception in Poxian! )

Chapter 10: Living room and document arrangement

? You don't need to "own" learning with your children. The road of life is like a guest appearance, which will be much more comfortable. Learning doesn't need to be "owned", it is a lesson that needs practice. Looking back on the experience of buying books in college, it is really a great waste to have them without reading them. At the same time, being grateful for "having" is also a life-changing lesson. Learn to break through gradually and face it with joy ~)

? Paper hoarding-archiving. The author shares the methods of rectification with his own experience. (I often don't insist on classified rectification. Long-term rectification is difficult to block, which often becomes an obstacle to finishing. After moving, some paper is still in the carton and put in the cupboard without rectification. This is an opportunity to deal with it. )

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Chapter 11: Time Arrangement

God is fair to everyone. Managing time is a big problem for me. I am not good at planning. Most of the time is not wasted in idleness, so that life lacks calmness and in-depth pioneering practice. )

In teacher Rui Xin's "container arrangement method", practice: make good use of multiple containers for a long time, and the more efficient the use of time will be.

The teacher introduced several time containers-good habits before going to bed, good habits of getting up, daily itinerary, weekly itinerary, monthly itinerary and so on.

Deep understanding: Action can bring about changes and yearn for a rich and peaceful life. This is a long wrestling trip ~

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Chapter 12: Internal Time

? If the clock hanging on the wall at home stops, we will find it soon and try to repair or replace it immediately. But the clock hanging in the depths of the soul, even if it ticks, is often ignored as the singing of insects and birds in the air, existence and non-existence Even some people's clocks have stopped for several years without being noticed, and they are blindfolded by cobweb-like dust.

To hit the nail on the head, the internal time in life is left to its own devices, becoming a wasteland where injured, tired and self-pitying women run aimlessly ~

Exercise: practice "shopping list" and "to-do list", starting from a little bit ~ come on ~

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Chapter 13: Bedroom-Privacy Space

Attention, I left my mobile phone at school yesterday ~

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Chapter 14: Simple

In this chapter, the author talks about "simplicity". She said that she longed for simplicity, focused on what could inject the essence of life, and despised the decadent body.

? Everyone's simplicity is different because they want to focus on different things.

? Simplicity is not living a poor life, nor is it choosing to live a Puritan life.

? Simplicity has a development order, starting with simple letters, giving birth to a simple heart, cultivating simple thoughts and feelings, establishing a simple material view, and then arranging a simple life and practicing simple words.

A person's heart is not simple, his thoughts are not simple, and his feelings are not simple. It is pitiful to ask her to live a simple material life, because this result often does not make her grow into a simple person, but leads to poverty.

? Love that is not controlled by return is free. When it comes to the heart, there is always expectation, so there is governance and no freedom. )

I hope, as the author said, I can.

Learn to care about the time you spend,

Learn to calculate your mental and physical strength,

Learn to live a leisurely and orderly life with clear boundaries.

Learn not to ask the world for more, but to ask friends and relatives around you.

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During the half-month when my friend and I agreed to read this book, my inner corner seemed to be slowly illuminated. It is true that the maturity of life lies in constant treatment and cleaning, just like pruning grapes. Take care of your family and mind, this is a lifelong lesson ~

Chapter 15: Children's Rooms, Guest Rooms and Other Rooms

? A child psychologist mentioned that even if the house is big enough, sharing a room with children of the same sex is conducive to the healthy development of children's personality, to getting along with roommates after leaving home, and even to getting married with colleagues in the workplace.

The author gives some experience on the arrangement and utilization of beds, desks, clothes and toys ~

Chapter 16: Quiet Time

To tell the truth, I am a lively person, but I feel lonely in the crowd, not to mention when I am quiet. But now I really enjoy waiting for my children for half a year. I can listen to music and read books quietly. This is not in a quiet library, but in Sacido where TTC people come and go. I don't care about other people's eyes or the noisy environment. I'm getting happier and happier these days.

The article says:

? Actually, can we calm down and be alone? The child saw it.

? The world is too complicated. Silence is a filter, which can make our life pure and simple.

Learn to cut quiet time from life and feed life with silence. Salvation depends on rest, and strength depends on peace and stability.

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Chapter 17: Organizing Souvenirs

To tell the truth, it is also very stressful to organize photos in the computer. You need to choose, give up, organize, save and act ~ once you hoard it, you don't want to do anything ~

Whether it's photos, souvenirs, paintings, certificates, every growing footprint, what a pity to throw it away. But I don't have any photos of my childhood (not well preserved at that time), so it's not easy to give up.

however

? The luggage we can take with us in life is not as much as we want. The lighter we are, the more we can be a pure-hearted person.

just as

Our family of four arrived in Poxian with three suitcases, and there were only a few suitcases left. I can't let go of the accumulation in the course of my life and feel that I can't throw it away as a souvenir.

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Chapter 18: Past Footprints

As the teacher said, the older you grow up, the more accustomed you are to cram the past and escape, as if there is a hand there, which will drag you back to prison from reality and delay to rectify it?

? Humility gives us a positive attitude, which allows us to return to our memories, shake hands with the past and renovate a brand-new inner memorial space.

Teacher Rui Xin also gave practical exercises (as follows)

Practice letting go of the past with yourself:

You can write it down or say it, especially those past events that bring negative memories.

Last week, last month, last year, I learned not to let them linger in my heart.

Always say goodbye to them formally through words or words that make sounds.

The tip given to me in the article:

Children need us to accept their status quo.

Don't always complain, "How did this child become like this now? He was not like this before ")

2) for spouses.

? Always love him in front of you, more than yesterday.

3) to yourself.

? Don't let too much past willfulness wander in your heart, which will make you have nowhere to go today.

Encourage:

No matter how successful or unsuccessful I was yesterday,

No matter how difficult the road is today,

The past years have become the background,

Became a supporting role on the stage of life,

You must carefully put them in the right place!

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Chapter 19: Bathroom and Storage Room

The mess of toilets is based on their high utilization rate, and the "time gap cleaning method" can keep the toilets clean in peacetime.

With regard to detergents and cleaning tools, as well as cleaning tips, the teacher shared her experience ~ Preparation: using baking soda and white vinegar ~

? The storage room, the most important thing is to have a fixed cleaning day. The concept of rummaging through everything when looking for something is absolutely incorrect, and it is also the biggest reason for repeated purchases at sixes and sevens.

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Chapter 20: Choice

? The true self is always being added and subtracted by life and decorated by life.

? When a person is over 30 years old, he should know what his hope is, and then spend most of his time deciding what to give up now for the hope in his heart. Hope determines how much we are willing to give up.

If you don't know how to live your life, you can continue to live the life you can seize and stay, and you can't give up. I can't give up, it's hard to organize myself, and I won't have the courage to pay without regret.

Thinking: I'm already on my way to Ben Si. What are my expectations?

Chapter 21: Starting with love

? The idea of running a family: let us enjoy love more deeply and know that we can love because we have always been loved!

Believe that love is also an ability ~

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This book is coming to an end.

? It turns out that no matter what era, what technology, and how to look at life, a home and a heart, like the hour hand of a wall clock, will always start from the same number and return to the same destination together. In the inner and outer space, we are all looking for the right order and trying our best to play a stable rhythm. Although different spaces seem to have different speeds, they are dragged by each other and want to reach the same happy end.