Simply put, I hope that my every move can be noticed and liked by the other party, and I am afraid that I have done something bad to make the other party hate, so that I can't successfully enter the other party's heart.
But sometimes, we can't please and pester girls blindly, or we may make girls bored or look down on you, which will eventually lead to failure.
So how should a boy with high emotional intelligence chat with a girl he likes?
Try to avoid arguments. I think most people don't like arguing with others, because if you win the argument, it will hurt the harmony between the two sides. If you lose the debate, you must be very unhappy.
Then think about it, friends are still like this, especially men and women, so when we get along with girls, we must avoid quarreling.
After all, the two sides have different understandings, so some questions really can't be said to be right or wrong. Maybe both of them are wrong and just want to convince each other, so the argument is not terrible. The terrible thing is to try to change each other's psychology.
For example, the other person likes to keep small pets, but you say that small pets are troublesome and may carry bacteria. So is this question right or wrong?
The point should not be that he likes keeping small pets, and then you should study hard how to take care of small pets?
Don't talk to yourself Many times a boy likes to talk endlessly, as if it would show that he has a wide range of knowledge, but sometimes we really don't like it. After all, if you don't know whether girls like to get along with the girls you like, the most important thing is to find the same topic on both sides.
When chatting with a girl you like, the most important thing is to find a topic that the other person likes, and then show that I like it as much as you do, so that the other person will be very happy.
And if the other party has any comments, we try to listen. After all, we have two ears and one mouth, and we should understand that listening is far more important than speaking.
Don't talk until you have something to say. And if the two sides really have nothing to talk about and there is nothing on the same topic, then don't do it. In that case, it will make the other party very disgusted.
Because he may feel uncomfortable chatting with you now and want to escape, but you dragged him here. Out of politeness, he may not tell you directly, but he will show by actions that he doesn't want to stay with you. But if you don't understand and keep dragging people like that, they will eventually tell you the truth, but that will be embarrassing.