Why are some people always excited about something?
Why are some people always so positive?
Why are some people always so good at execution?
We will blame all this on a person's personality and self-discipline, but from a physiological point of view, this is due to a substance called dopamine.
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter, a chemical used to help our cells transmit pulses. This brain secretion is closely related to our behavior and emotions.
When the body secretes enough dopamine, our mood will remain happy and excited, and we can produce more behaviors and even addictive behaviors.
In life:
With the popularity of the Internet and the emergence of various online shopping platforms, adhering to the time-saving, convenient, fast and inexpensive shopping experience, under the strong visual and auditory stimulation of various promotional texts, posters and videos, coupled with the tactile stimulation of convenient payment, we are easy to feel excited and impulse to buy.
Why are you excited? It is because of these external stimuli that we secrete more dopamine in our brains, and we have expectations in our hearts, and we fantasize that we will become ideal after using the products in our minds.
Enter the double 1 1, and all major platforms have preferential activities. After being stimulated by various senses, I can't help but be tempted and have various buying impulses. Such as books, children's diapers, shoes and so on.
There are still some unopened books in the bookcase. Faced with the strong attack of discounts and concessions, I was so excited that I emptied all the books in my shopping cart.
I know my time and energy are limited, I know I want to manage money, I know how to lose it, but I can't stop buying.
Because I have been expecting that when I finish reading these books, I will be empowered to become a powerful person and change my life. When I fantasize about becoming a powerful person in my mind, I am extremely excited.
At work:
At work, if we are praised and appreciated by leaders, recognized by customers and stimulated by promotion and salary increase, we will feel happy inside and work more actively.
In the new week, our department will implement a new performance distribution assessment system. According to this distribution system, if I am willing to go out to the clinic, my performance distribution will double.
Although the premise of going out of the clinic must sacrifice some rest time, it will bring about an increase in income. In the state of shortage of doctors' resources, the work intensity is high, and no one wants to increase the extra workload, which can vividly stimulate dopamine secretion in our body, increase our excitement through extra performance income, and promote the implementation of this plan. I have to say that the leader is a bit "old fox"
Learning:
I was very excited and excited when I received the book "Ordinary Zen" by AIDS Labeda.
This book mainly expounds the past of the free individual of AIDS, Labeda, points out how people escape from real life, tells us how to constantly perceive people, events, omens and their inner feelings from the outside world, and tells us that only by constantly practicing in life can we transform anger, fear, pain and troubles, open our eyes and live a real life with innate compassion.
Because I read this book with purpose and expectation, I can better understand the contents of the book, and I can also contact the contents of the Ben Ben course that Ai Xin and Lu Jia told us in the past, which has improved my understanding and memory of the contents of the article.
But everything is the unity of opposites and contradictions.
When dopamine secretion increases, we will have a sense of excitement, pleasure and strong action; But without this substance, we will feel depressed, we can't do anything, and everything will make us feel that we have no pleasure and motivation, let alone implementation.
Starting from 2065438+2008, in order to change the unchangeable living conditions, I began to buy a large number of paid courses, hoping to be different.
As a result, in each course, in order to urge us to complete our homework and achieve the effect of promoting fission, it is required to send our homework to some platforms and complete punching.
I felt very excited at first, and I felt that I could achieve my ideal appearance after finishing my homework. But this kind of stimulation, when it conflicts with time and energy, will lead to more and more anxiety. This kind of anxiety comes from coping with punching in, which doesn't change your life. Instead, it puts yourself in a tense state of life, takes up your rest time and affects your mood and health.
After realizing and perceiving the results of this behavior, I have lost the motivation and desire to buy impulsively after seeing the stimulation of various course propaganda and copywriting.
In the second half of the year, I took part in Sister Poplar's 100-person and 100-day writing course. I fantasized that after writing an article every day, I would practice my good writing style, exercise my thinking ability, become a master writer, become a contract writer on a certain platform, and start to be full of motivation, meticulous and meticulous.
You can slowly enter the bottleneck period and burnout period of writing, and your writing motivation is getting more and more tired.
It is said that marriage is the grave of love. Why is marriage a grave?
When a pair of men and women fall in love at first sight or get to know each other many times, the secretion of dopamine increases inexorably and becomes a stimulant of love, so we have the feeling of love.
Under the action of dopamine, we feel the happiness of love and experience satisfaction. We try to show our good side to each other, and even pretend to be ourselves.
The "passion" brought by dopamine will give people the illusion that love can be fanatical forever. Unfortunately, our bodies can't maintain sustained high-pitched stimulation all the time, that is, a person can't be at the peak of tachycardia forever. So the brain had to cancel this idea and let those chemicals metabolize naturally under its own control. This process usually lasts for one and a half to three years. With the decrease and disappearance of dopamine, passion becomes calm.
When we are calm, we will expose our shortcomings, show our true selves and treat each other more calmly. For the shortcomings of each other, we will lack tolerance, and when we disagree, we will be tit for tat. When all this happens, we will start not knowing how to love, we will start to doubt love, doubt marriage, deny marriage, deny that the other person is not our ideal partner, and even break up as a bargaining chip.
My husband and I were in free love for a year or two until we got married. My husband always holds my hand when we go out. When eating, I always put my favorite dishes in the bowl first; When I am on the night shift, I always send me supper; He always takes care of me in time when I am ill.
With the birth of the child, we are more and more busy with each other's work. After work, I am busy taking care of my children. He is busy with social activities and spends less and less time alone.
I will complain about him, don't care about my hard work and don't help me take care of my two children; He complained that I had little time to accompany him except for work, children and personal study.
Over time, after seven years, we will be dissatisfied with each other and will be more and more disgusted with each other's shortcomings. When we can't stand it, we will start to resist, criticize, accuse each other, and even quarrel, and we will cherish each other's advantages and love less and less.
When there is disagreement again, in order to avoid the so-called quarrel, we will take the cold treatment of avoiding, not solving and not facing.
This is a "repressed" marital state.
Since dopamine secretion increases, we will become addicted; When it decreases, it will make us feel depressed and reduce our mobility. So how do we achieve this balance?
The best way to achieve dopamine balance in our body is exercise.
The reason why we have expectations is because we are lacking in our hearts. Without expectations, there is no harm.