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65438, 20201October 7, Xiaoxue resigned from ELLE who had worked for 13 and a half years. /kloc-in the middle of October, she took her twin daughters on a winter vacation trip and went out for a few days. The epidemic broke out. I returned to Beijing in February and began to stay at home.
Xiaoxue said that this is the day when she stays at home the most. Isn't it true for almost all people?
Not only is it an epidemic, but now everyone is prone to panic. I also think reading is the best way to relieve it.
It was also during the epidemic that the author had the idea of writing this book. At the end of the author's preface, there is such a sentence.
The first chapter, love beauty and know how to wear, women live a sense of advanced.
1, there is a boudoir called mask.
2. Yan value.
What is high value? The more comfortable you look, the higher your face value. Search online, and you will see the wives of successful men, whose wisdom is far higher than their face value. Many people overestimate the role of face value, so there is a lot of room for beauty, weight loss and even surgery.
Now, comfort has become the representative of beauty. He who makes others comfortable must be comfortable first. Maybe the same is true of the way to get along. If you are comfortable, you won't be cold to others, and others will naturally feel comfortable.
On the other hand, face value, in fact, when a person is internally comfortable, even if it is not so beautiful, it will give people a sense of beauty. And I now think that when a person cultivates goodness and beauty internally, the appearance is naturally beautiful.
3, know how to wear.
Chapter two, pamper yourself and cultivate your unique temperament.
1, dote on yourself as a star
In life, there will always be all kinds of difficulties, all kinds of pressures and all kinds of troubles coming at us, especially women, whose hearts are more fragile and have more obvious weaknesses, so they are more vulnerable to negative things, so we must find ways to pamper ourselves, resist the biting cold wind and neutralize the cold rain.
Therefore, I am very fortunate that in the constant exploration of life, I have some hobbies of my own, from which I get comfort and happiness, making myself more confident and optimistic.
2. Inner elegance
First of all, I was thinking, what is inner elegance?
It is persistence in times of difficulty, not giving up in times of cowardice, kindness in the face of trade-offs, and the habit of knowing how to be grateful. Let's see what the author says.
Elegance is an attitude, elegance is a sincerity, and it is unnecessary and impossible to pretend in front of people. Elegance is not only appearance, but inner elegance is real elegance.
3. Women should be willful and confident first.
Only self-confidence can be willful. Self-confidence is a woman's most important secret weapon, which has nothing to do with beauty and age.
So, where does an adult woman come from?
Experience first, then read, and then have hobbies.
4, female man
There is a passage in it that is particularly deep.
This is also my question just now. Can you live a good life just through experience, reading and hobbies? Obviously not. You must have a firm and brave personality. Many times people's pain and troubles come from uncertainty and entanglement. This is obvious to me, so I often make myself passive.
After reading this, I know I will have more courage in the future, so I will be much more relaxed.
5, fireworks heroine
The author said that she likes women who don't complain.
Here, the author quotes a story about the Peach Blossom Garden. Tao Yuanming's Peach Blossom Garden is not in the world, but in the heart. Leave the ship and enter through the mouth. Because you dare to give up, you will find beauty.
Looking back at some women in the Republic of China, they used to be out-and-out celebrities, and their fate was reduced by the teasing of nature, but they did not complain or give up, and still lived gracefully. Compared with them, what can we not accept?
When I think of myself, I often regard myself as a weak person and feel that I am the injurer of fate and have to bear so many hardships and pains. What were those before the real fate was hit hard?
The third chapter, the wisdom of being busy and beautiful and living carefree.
1, my chocolate life.
What is chocolate life?
Chocolate life is a rich life;
Chocolate life is interesting and tasty;
Chocolate life is a high-profile, high-profile and far-sighted life.
2. Make the best of yourself
The most basic quality requirements of outstanding people in the workplace are simple:
3. Lose your anxious self.
Anxiety is common in modern people, so if you want to be a person without anxiety, you must do something without anxiety.
By chance, I found some ways to avoid anxiety. Reading, sports and traveling are really effective. Even so, anxiety is inevitable in many cases. Of course, this is normal. Life is a test.
Chapter four, reading and traveling, talent is a woman's light.
Chapter five, there is love in my heart, gentle but strong.
1. Learn to love yourself before you love him.
How to love? Love family, love friends, love children and love partners, which is a subject that needs to be studied. At present, I can't reach the entry level, so I often get tired of love, so this is also a test I have to go through.
Sincerity and dedication are not enough. Many times, what is needed is an ability and a method. In this respect, I need to be a diligent student.
The author says that everyone has an answer about love, and her answer is giving. To love someone is to give and give without interruption. In the process of giving, every reward you get is like dew.
Don't ask anything, keep growing, is the correct attitude towards love.
2. The taste of marriage
3. Women should be themselves as well as men and children.
If a woman loses herself, she loses herself as the meaning of life. But if a woman only has herself, it is difficult to tolerate her, which is also a great regret in life.
Your relationship with others, especially your family, needs a distance that is neither too far nor too close. Just like two porcupines, they are close, stabbing each other, and far away, but they can't comfort each other.
Grasping the relationship is also a chore, and it is not advisable to go too far. While loving yourself, it is also an important practice to leave some time and feelings for others and be more tolerant.
4. Do you really care about love?
Every year, a woman cares whether she is old, whether her figure has changed, and whether she still loves me as before, but think about how many things she has done this year to make her feel your love.
Chapter six, fearless time, elegant precipitation time.
1, fresh and timeless
Not arrogant, even invincible beauty;
Not impetuous, even if there are brilliant achievements;
Don't complain, even if you have regrets;
You can fight for fame and fortune for a better life, or you can give up fame and fortune for a better life;
After the baptism of the world, I will always keep a child's perspective on the world and let my heart beat like a teenager;
Keep a sincere attitude towards others and have lifelong friends around you.
2. Love yourself now
Change your hairstyle as much as possible.
No matter what happens, we should try to keep up with his pace and run on the road of life. Don't leave him or let him leave you.
Care about your skin, whether you are 20 or 70.
Every day every year, at every appropriate moment, look him in the eye and say, I love you.
The only way to achieve perfect balance is to be able to calmly face the imperfections in life, which is more important than perfection itself.
My summary:
Life is not perfect, but it is interesting and worth cherishing and pursuing.
Everyone has an irreversible past. Don't be too disappointed. Facing the present clearly is the best way.
The most important thing is to be yourself, instead of pinning your happiness and hope on others, which is bound to lose both sides.
Constant learning and practice is the most powerful weapon to face life.