Because I found three or five acquaintances (plastic love friends, let's call them acquaintances for the time being) who didn't like me. At first, it was one or two people, and slowly it was like an appointment, so we stopped ordering together.
We are acquaintances because we stayed together for several years. Although we all went our separate ways later, we occasionally met for dinner. In other words, they are all acquaintances, and friends in the circle of friends are friends. No matter who makes the circle, they will basically like or comment on each other.
Don't like it, it doesn't mean anything. After all, there are still many friends in the circle of friends who interact well in private and have no favorite habits. But when asking questions, they all praised and commented on each other except me. Once, I sent a circle of friends with one of them almost at the same time, and the rest of them immediately praised her and commented on her, but turned a blind eye to what I sent.
It is common for companies on campus to isolate someone and bully them with cold violence. I didn't expect the same thing to happen when it extended to the Internet.
I sent it to a circle of friends. Is there a problem? I'll take a closer look. In fact, I haven't sent much in recent months, just one or two a week. It's all my self-discipline to record my child's progress.
After running for eight months, I lost nearly 20 Jin. ...
Record the progress of children's extracurricular reading and calligraphy practice. ...
Every month's exercise punching record ...
Leisure time for reading and writing in cafes. ...
Call ... and let your child get straight A's in the midterm. ...
Food cooked on a whim ...
No problem, this is really my daily life, and they all know it!
However, one of them finally commented that every time I see you send a circle of friends, I feel very flustered. Since then, I have never been praised or commented, and my interaction with others is normal.
Maybe this is one of the reasons! In other words, I have become different in their eyes!
For example, they don't understand why I want to die with myself on the way to becoming thinner and more beautiful in old age, or why I want to educate my child with such chicken blood instead of giving him a happy childhood. What's more, I don't understand that they always send a sentence or two in the circle of friends, and I have to pour out a lot of lines?
……
Look at their circle of friends, today's cooking, tomorrow's hot pot ... children, happy growth is good for you ... or forward all kinds of funny pictures and popular jokes. ...
Well, well, I admit that I am proud of some achievements brought by self-discipline, and I think it can inspire my friends around me. Because some friends did start running because of my inspiration, but in fact not everyone can be inspired. The subtext of their acquaintances is more likely-your self-discipline is really annoying!
I think of Xu Sanduo in the hit TV series Soldier Assault a few years ago.
After the recruits' training, Xu Sanduo was assigned to the remote and desolate grassland Class 5 to guard the oil pipeline. The guard task of class five is neither too surprised nor too dangerous, nor too bitter nor too tired, but it is boring. Eating, drinking, playing cards and watching TV are the daily routine of several soldiers who stayed there.
But the arrival of Xu Sanduo seems to have given them a loophole in their peaceful life. This silly recruit is still following the routine of the recruit company: running, doing exercises and kicking goose steps. Or clean the gun, and then go out and aim at a certain point on the wasteland for half a day.
The soldiers were inexplicably angry. Ma Lao, the monitor, had to talk to Xu Sanduo alone, but around him, Xu Sanduo seemed to only quote his father's words: Playing cards is meaningless, but what is meaningful is to live well and live well in order to do more meaningful things.
The old horse was so angry that he pointed to the dilapidated four rooms of Class Five that if you want to do something meaningful, you must pave a road between the four rooms. The old horse decided not to shop, because there was once a row that was not paved. However, Xu Sanduo gave the order like an old horse and began to pave the way happily.
Soldiers and oilmen laughed at the fool with glee as they continued to play cards. But when the first road was formed, they suddenly felt a little uncomfortable. The hand is still fighting with poker, but there is an uncontrollable nameless fire in my heart-why can this fool do such a boring thing?
Soldiers led by Li Tie began to sabotage and obstruct activities. They hid his tools and scattered his paving stones. Even the old horse sent him to visit this group of people in an attempt to distract him. ...
But after all, it is a TV series, and the final outcome is of course happy. They took part in it and finally repaired the road.
But in reality? My circle of friends may be the same as that idiot Xu Sanduo in some people's eyes: How can a broken runner persist for so long? How failed are you to impose your dreams on your children? At what age do you still read all day and dress elegantly? ……
Of course, I'm sure I'm just like Xu Sanduo. I gave them a loophole in their comfortable life circle and began to make them feel uncomfortable.
After all, I kept running and really lost weight. With careful education, my children not only get excellent grades, but also make continuous progress in all aspects. Reading and studying make my spirit calm and my life more colorful. ...
Sometimes I feel that the circle of friends is actually a small river and lake. If you look closely, the complexity of human nature can be exposed. We don't envy those excellent people we don't know, but for those who used to be at our level, now they have done something they can't do silently, which is not pleasing to the eye anyway! Blacken it, I feel that my face can't be torn off. What should I do? Cold violence, when deliberately interacting with friends in front of you, is probably the most Japanese way!
Of course, blx seems to have only a momentary feeling after discovering this secret, but it would be foolish to stop moving forward because of this.
In fact, a person's life is a process of continuous progress. No matter what lies ahead, whether you like it or not, you can't stop.
We don't often walk alone. On the way, you will always meet all kinds of companions. At first, everyone jostled together and walked forward happily. But walking, the pace is gradually inconsistent, some people surpass you, some people turn to the other side, some people are left behind ... Maybe you will be lonely in a certain period.
So what? The growth of human beings is a helpless process, with gains and losses. The reason why we still stay in each other's circle of friends is nothing more than to commemorate that time, the road that we once walked together.
Therefore, before you block me or hack me, I will still sincerely praise each of you as before. If there is something that sounds like * * *, I will leave a comment without hesitation.
In your opinion, I am a little boring, but I know that I cherish every journey in my life and everyone I meet. Or, it may contain human malice that I didn't realize myself: that's a sentence written by Mao Mu in The Moon and Sixpence-what makes people behave nobly is not all out of kindness, but sometimes full of ambition.
Of course, I will also reflect, maybe I will continue to reduce the frequency of updating my circle of friends. After all, when others are feasting, raising children and enjoying all kinds of worldly pleasures, it is really unkind for you to show off your slimming achievements and accompany yourself to cultivate talents and pursue spiritual significance.
However, I will not stop growing because of self-discipline. The children's circle may have been unable to hold my satisfaction and pursuit for a long time, so I am now officially turning to writing! In September, I wrote an article about running to lose weight, "The feeling of running for five months in the morning-life is never too late to start". For more than two months, the reading volume has been increasing every day, becoming my first article with reading volume exceeding 1000. For a novice, it is enough to make me happy.
Therefore, the world is so big that you can ignore the noise around you. If you move forward firmly, you will always meet more and more people with the same frequency. Cold violence? Fuck you!