After work began, many young people began to live alone. Adults who are far away from their hometown and parents must always start to adapt to a person's life. It may be a mess at first, but after a long life, you will want to change. Even a person wants to live a warm life in a quiet house.
-I live alone.
A friend told me that after more than half a year of graduation, the most frustrating thing for her was not that the plan was beaten dozens of times, nor was it cut by the company, but that one day at 2 am, she had a fever, took a taxi to see the emergency department, and went home after hanging the drip. Facing the empty room, I am glad that I just have a fever afterwards. If it is a sudden illness, the consequences are unimaginable.
I believe many young people who live alone have had similar experiences. Nowadays, more and more people choose to live alone. According to the latest data released by the Ministry of Civil Affairs, there are more than 77 million people living alone in China, and living alone has gradually become a social reality of concern.
Living alone always seems to be labeled with some solidification. Some people describe them as empty nesters, and describe them around loneliness and isolation from the perspectives of "problem" and "rescue". Some people regard a person's life as something to be proud of, preaching that one should also love oneself, and occasionally showing the feeling of chicken soup touched by me.
In fact, living alone is just a kind of life. Some people do it on purpose, others have to choose. But living alone is not only the sadness of being cold and empty at home after work, but also the peace enjoyed at home on weekends.
I live an idle and comfortable life when I am not at work. In the morning when I sleep in, I have a leisurely breakfast and turn over the old magazines I found some time ago. Nest in a sunny corner, quietly enjoying this difficult leisure and beauty.
Think about it carefully, from the four-person dormitory in college to the four seasons after graduation (office workers only eat at home). Although a person's life experience is not rich, he has accumulated a lot of experience along the way.
"A person's life is not an encounter, nor a situation, but a choice." There is no imaginary romance, and it may be a little lonely occasionally, but if you live alone for a long time, it will become enjoyment. Today I want to talk to you about my lonely life. Your lonely life.
1 Food can live up to expectations, but health can't.
When I first started working alone, I often used a few biscuits or a piece of bread to pass the breakfast because the rhythm was not adjusted well, and didn't eat dinner until eight or nine o'clock after work. When I have to work overtime, maybe when waiting for me, dinner becomes breakfast. Everyday life is full of busyness and fatigue, and I have no time to estimate other things. The body is very bad, cold gastroenteritis is always repeated, and health is getting farther and farther away from me. ?
Later, I gradually realized that you should take care of yourself when you live alone. After all, the cost of getting sick is very high. No one will buy you medicine, and no one will help you cook porridge. Even all the procedures for going to the hospital can only be completed by yourself.
So I will buy breakfast for myself even if I take a long detour every morning, and I will guarantee myself three meals a day. Remember to have dinner after work at night, no matter how tired you are. Friends who can cook can also buy a small pot and prepare a small portion of food for one person in their spare time.
Create your own comfort zone
Living alone, the biggest guarantee is to have a room that can belong to you completely and is not disturbed by the outside world. It is said that the house is rented, but life is not. If the room is too dirty and messy, it will not only reduce a person's quality of life, but also greatly reduce personal happiness.
As a working person who goes out early and comes back late, my requirement for the room is only to ensure that it is basically clean and tidy. For those who are too busy to care, here are three secrets:
The first is to buy all kinds of storage tools. The storage tool must be the 1 number at home. If you want to make the room look clean and tidy, then put all the odds and ends away and give you a clean and tidy home right away! ! !
The second is to buy a dirty laundry basket. After a long time, many clothes will inexplicably grow on the chairs and beds at home. Most of the time, I am too busy. I just want to lie down and rest after taking a shower, and I always forget to tidy up the clothes that need cleaning. At this time, prepare a dirty clothes basket and put it directly after washing. I can quickly tell clean clothes from dirty ones while I'm waiting for the laundry!
The third is to change sheets and quilts frequently. The bed should be the place where we spend the longest time except working hours, so we must pay attention to cleaning. When our friends live outside, at least two sets of sheets and quilts should be prepared for a change. A clean bed makes you sleep more comfortably ~
3 enhance the sense of control over life from small things.
When I live alone, I always forget all kinds of things and often want to buy something. But because I was too busy at work, I didn't remember it until I got home from work, and I didn't want to go downstairs again, thinking of bringing it back from work tomorrow. But tomorrow, I will go back and forth for several days, and I haven't bought what I need. I can't help feeling sorry and blaming myself for getting old, and my memory is no longer the same as before.
Therefore, you need to make a list of things you want to buy when you go out, write down all the things you want to buy this day or this week, take a look before you go out or write them on your mobile phone, and set a small alarm clock to remind you. Remember to keep track of the progress of daily necessities, especially for girls. In special times, you must prepare menstrual towels, medicines and warm your baby in advance in case of emergency ~
The sense of control of living alone is often reflected in the control of small things in life. Once the rhythm is disrupted by sudden trivial matters and emergencies, you will feel dragged forward by life and begin to regret and hate why you live alone. Therefore, it is very important to make a good plan, which is an important prerequisite for improving the sense of life and happiness.
Always look forward to the future.
The secret of living in the present is not to think about the past, but always to look forward to the future.
When there are 100 days left before 2020, I bought myself a countdown calendar to motivate myself to punch in. Set aside some reading time for yourself every day. Although I hate sports, I will simply stretch and the sense of ceremony will move from my notebook to the wall. I hope that color shock will bring more dopamine secretion.
Every action and effort at the moment is linked to a certain goal in the future. Imagine your success and growth when you finish the task, and you will be more motivated by your present life.
Living alone is the best appreciation period.
It is said that being single is the best value-added period, but in a broader sense, living alone is. With or without a partner, living alone is just a person's loneliness or carnival. Therefore, how to learn to be alone has become a very important topic.
My favorite sentence is: "If you make a mess yourself, no one will be your answer". Instead of wasting time fighting loneliness, we should learn to embrace loneliness, enrich ourselves and make good use of this time to increase our value.
"In fact, life itself really has too many trivial things, and these trivial things are the most grinding and seem to be melodramatic." I watched many blogs' exquisite daily life in vlog videos, but I was faced with the surging loneliness and various trifles in my life. At first, I was very uncomfortable.
But when you grow up, learn and get used to the rules of a person's life, you will find that a person's life is lonely, brilliant, difficult and relaxed. I hope everyone who lives alone can live an ideal life.