Xiaoya's slender figure, good face, decent dress and elegant smiling face, he thinks this is what his dream lover looks like.
Xiaoya, a junior, is going to practice in an enterprise, with a resume, hoping to find an internship opportunity.
The company is going to recruit front desk clerk, without working experience, only requiring good image and temperament.
Li Yu fell in love with Xiaoya at first sight. After receiving her resume, she couldn't help feeling a little excited.
He told her that the company needed a front desk clerk, and her image and temperament were in line. If she is interested, he can help her win this opportunity.
Xiaoya naturally agreed, and they exchanged WeChat.
Back to the company, Li Yu recommended Xiaoya to the head of the human resources department at the first time, and finally Xiaoya successfully became Li Yu's colleague.
Li Yu feels that the mood of going to work every day is very different from before. She can't wait to get to the company at dawn and look forward to the appearance of Xiaoya.
Whenever he idles by the front desk, he will go to see Xiaoya or find a reason to approach her.
Not only that, when I get off work at noon and at night, I also take the initiative to ask him to go with me and often invite her to dinner.
One to two, the two became friends with nothing to say.
Two months later, Li Yu became Xiaoya's boyfriend. In order to facilitate his work and take care of his life, he wants Xiaoya to live with him.
Xiaoya readily agreed with him. They lived together, went to work together and went home together, just like newlyweds, very sweet and happy.
Xiaoya quickly told her parents about her love. After her parents knew the specific situation, they made a request to her. If they continue to love each other, after Xiaoya graduated, Li Yu had to work with her in her hometown city and get married.
Because she is the only child and her parents are civil servants, she helped Xiaoya find a good job in her hometown. As long as she graduates, she can become a stable employee.
Xiaoya was very filial from an early age. She obeyed her parents' arrangement and went to college for the first time. During her three-year campus life, her parents have been controlling her study and work and rest remotely.
Xiaoya told Li Yu about her parents' opinions, and Li Yu's first reaction was very surprised.
He said, it's good that we are working together now. If you don't want to be a clerk, you can transfer to other departments, such as administrative management or sales assistant.
Xiaoya said, I am an only child. I can't go against my parents' opinions. They need my care when they are old.
Li Yu said, I understand this. My parents will definitely need our care when they are old. We can create conditions for them to live together.
Xiaoya thought about it and found it reasonable, so she told Li Yu's opinion to her parents.
Her parents flatly rejected her and gave her two orders. One is to persuade Li Yu to go back to her hometown to develop with her, or to make a clean break with him and terminate her love relationship.
Xiaoya felt very uncomfortable. On the one hand, she loves Li Yu, on the other hand, she doesn't want to disobey her parents' orders. She felt that if Li Yu loved her, she should go back to her hometown with her.
Li Yu said, I'm not familiar with your hometown, and my major may not play a role. If I just follow your parents' arrangement and have a stable job that I don't like and has no value, I think life is meaningless.
Besides, we are now studying and working in first-tier cities, and there are always more development opportunities than in your hometown.
Xiaoya said, for me, affection and love are the most important. It was not easy for my parents to raise me. I can't leave them They have helped me find a good job, so I can work well and enjoy my life.
Li Yu said, do you like the job your parents helped you find?
Xiaoya said that in order to make a living, if I have a job, I will do it. What do I like or dislike? Don't do it if you don't like it. As long as I live with my parents, I don't care about work, and my parents won't find me a hard job.
Li Yu said that we are all adults and should have our own lives and lives. Why rely on parents?
Xiaoya said, my parents won't abandon me, they won't hurt me. The divorce rate is so high now. What if you don't love me after marriage? I have to go back to my parents.
Li Yu didn't know how to persuade her and was surprised by her remarks.
For this matter, Li Yu strengthened her observation of Xiaoya, and found that she was also very dependent on him in her life, and basically had no opinion. As long as he arranges for her, she won't make any decisions by herself.
At work, Xiaoya has nothing to admire. She guarded the front desk mechanically, leaving no other impression except the smile on her face and polite language.
The original impulse and sweetness of love in Li Yu's heart are slowly disappearing. He felt that living with a marionette was neither passionate nor fresh.
He shouted in his mind for more than a hundred times: Xiaoya, what's your opinion? Why can't you make your own decisions in life?
In order not to hurt Xiaoya, Li Yu didn't propose to break up.
After the internship, Xiaoya graduated and unexpectedly returned to his parents. Their relationship ended without a formal breakup ceremony.
What emotional marriage experts want to say is that in love, you can't just care about your feelings. Do I want to enjoy my life before and after, or do I want to observe each other's three views?
If the other person lacks basic independence, he will feel insecure, and will often ask you to report your whereabouts, stay away from the opposite sex, and even interfere with your normal work and interpersonal relationships.
If the other person still depends on and obeys his parents, it may have a lot of unnecessary influence on your love and marriage.
Adults should have their own views on love and life, instead of relying on parents or others like a long-lost child.
What if I listen to my parents? Mom, baby girl? Or? Ma Baonan? You should communicate openly. If you can't improve yourself, break up as soon as possible.