My mother-in-law is not good at housework, and her cooking is just so-so, which is similar to mine. But when it comes to working in the fields, it is not worse than any man in the village. I can't compare with this so far. Not because I can sneak around or take the opportunity to be lazy, but because my own conditions are too poor. In my mother-in-law's words, I look small and thin, so thin that I can't bear to go to work. It is precisely because of this that I have been married for 20 years, except for the first few years, I have been carrying water and dung several times and cutting wheat on my stomach for several days. After that, I seldom did heavy work.
"When will you come back? The steamed buns have been steamed and the dishes have been bought. " My mother-in-law said on the phone that her voice was full of fatigue when she just woke up. Even so, I can't help complaining into the microphone: I told you to wait for me. They don't like your buns and have to keep them. On the other end of the phone, my mother-in-law sighed. "What's more, my hands and feet are numb recently, and I can only make do with a pot of steamed bread. I bought all the buns in the buns shop. "
"That's best, don't bother you." I said.
Mother-in-law sighed: "Hey, if my hands are numb and my cold hasn't healed, I won't spend money on buns." That's the truth. However, what can I say? Although my mother-in-law is frugal, the level of doing housework and making steamed buns is really flattering. So, when I told my mother-in-law's words to my son who was playing computer in another room, he lamented: I finally don't have to eat my buns this year! Then, I began to count how grandma "mutilated" him with meat buns over the years.
"How could you do that?" Although I am reluctant to eat my mother-in-law's fat buns, after my son lamented, I criticized and warned him: After all, grandma has worked hard, and you can't say this in front of her when you go home, she will be sad. However, this warning to me, not to mention my son, even my husband who came home later was very disapproving; He always tries his best to be kind to his mother and criticizes her mercilessly when she makes mistakes. Often when his words come out, her mother-in-law tries her best to refute them. As a result, after a few words, their voices were both high. At this time, I became an old peacemaker between them: I criticized my husband for being too loud, and I advised my mother-in-law to ignore him until the two girls stopped being angry with each other. However, there are times when I can't convince them. I remember the year when my son was born, probably in early March. On a rainy day, two women quarreled for no reason. In a rage, her mother-in-law went out with her bag on her back and an umbrella. As soon as I saw the problem was serious, I motioned my husband to get it back, but he was very angry and refused. No way, I had to let him watch his son and chase him to the road with an umbrella. However, no matter what I say, my mother-in-law means, don't worry about me, just look after the baby at home and don't let him catch a cold and get sick. I knew that she was not at ease with her grandson, so I found an excuse that I couldn't take care of her alone and advised her to stay. But my mother-in-law has made up her mind, and no matter how I persuade her, it will be of no help. To tell the truth, I felt bad when I saw her leave on the long-distance bus, and even thought it was my fault. So, six months later, when my mother-in-law dragged her accidentally broken leg and took a taxi home with a painful face, I spent all my energy taking care of her, wiping her body, feeding her, and urinating for two months until she could walk around the fields. Later, when my two sisters came home to see her, my mother-in-law told them about it again and again, complaining that her two daughters had no conscience and completely ignored the embarrassment on their faces, which made me feel a little embarrassed.
"Just son came back, then you sleep, I hang up." Probably heard her son's voice, and her mother-in-law turned off the phone as she spoke. I think this is wrong. I called back and told her when we would go home. My mother-in-law heard that we couldn't go back until we were thirty, but she didn't make any noise for a long time.
"Mom, just wait for me to clean up at home, don't worry about it." I said. It was a long time before there was a "oh" on the other end of the phone. Then, there was a busy tone in my ear. I know, she is actually looking forward to our coming back early. However, the husband's job is irreplaceable, the son is busy getting together with his classmates, and the daughter will not have a holiday until the afternoon of the first day of junior high school. Nothing can be helped!
At about four o'clock in the afternoon, my husband and I finally returned home. At that time, her mother-in-law held her waist in one hand and the portrait of her father-in-law in the other, ready to put it on the altar. Seeing us, my mother-in-law suddenly choked and said, how did you come back until now? After that, before we answered the phone, she began to tell us about her recent physical inconvenience. As we all know, she has a cold. But what we didn't know was that her arm was so numb that she couldn't hold anything: she forbeared to tell us, and we took it for granted that she just had a cold and would be fine in a while. This is the helplessness of us, even many people who work outside the home; Everyone knows that the elderly need to be taken care of and their families need to be accompanied, but in the face of soaring prices and various pressures brought about by survival, who can stay with them peacefully until they are old? Empty nest, loss of independence, staying behind, when these sharp words appear more and more in front of the media and the public, loss, helplessness and sadness have become the most cruel symbols between parents and children. Just like my husband and I, every Spring Festival, whenever I go home, my mother-in-law always wraps steamed bread and steamed white buns in advance, and we can only keep her waiting longer and longer. In fact, in rural areas, mother-in-law is not the only one eagerly waiting for her children to go home for reunion. In other words, this has become a social phenomenon that cannot be ignored. Unfortunately, I'm afraid this state can't be changed in a short time.
"Mom, you go to rest and I'll clean up." I asked my mother-in-law for a rag and began to clean the table. Mother-in-law walked into the next room with her hands in her waist. I thought she was asleep, but she took out a long box. I asked her what was in it, and she said that she bought a pair of nave with a price of 100 in the collection a few days ago. (nave painting refers to the painting hanging in the middle of the hall of traditional houses in China, mounted vertically. Divided into big nave and small nave. Most of the contents are the traditional gods of China, such as: blessing, fortune, longevity, happiness, the god of wealth and so on. There are also statues of ancestors, but few), so I opened the box and showed it to me. Needless to say, this nave painting with red cotton wool as the background and longevity as the content is more upscale than that paper painting with a piece of money.
"Mom, you really have a good eye." I rushed to compliment. Who knows that my words just landed when my husband suddenly came out of the room. "This is good money, isn't it?" Without money, it is impossible to put on a face. "My mother-in-law was in a good mood when I said this. On hearing this, she immediately retorted: Who is putting on a face? You have been dead for twenty years, and your new house has been built for seven or eight years, but you two have never bought a pair of stalls to worship him. This year I bought one with my own money ... "
"Where did your money come from, not just from me? Forget it, just buy it. Anyway, you are a good face, I don't know. "
"You know, I bought it all back." Hearing her mother-in-law's tone, I knew the two girls were going to fight again. I quickly put down the rag in my hand and pointed to nave and said to my husband, "Stop nagging, find a cement nail and hang nave first. It's time to worship God."
Hearing this, the husband stopped talking. Mother-in-law hurried to find a hammer and nails, then watched us hang nave, then took out the sacrifices bought in advance from the cupboard, and then took out two couplets, one big and one small, from the room and handed them to me.
"Are these all ready?" I took the couplet and sighed heartily. In fact, after living together for 20 years, I really didn't take care of all the big and small things at home: my mother-in-law is strong and likes to do everything according to her own wishes, but I don't want to worry about trivial things, so I am willing to give my home to her mother-in-law. My husband has a bad temper, but whenever and wherever he does anything, he always rushes in front of my mother-in-law and me. In this way, I am naturally happy. All the women in the village envy me and say I'm killing myself. I have been a cutting shopkeeper for 20 years since I entered the door. I don't have to worry about things at home and abroad. But they don't know that this is because I am never greedy or demanding. I know how to cherish my blessings and I know how to be grateful. In other words, my mind is better than theirs: the so-called contentment is nothing more than that!
"What's more, I didn't prepare these things in advance. Who did this to you? " Mother-in-law answered lightly. I was speechless for a moment. At this time, the husband said: "Forget it, don't post it. No big deal. No one has stipulated that couplets cannot be posted in the New Year. "
This is the rhythm of fighting again. I quickly asked my mother-in-law: Is there anything to eat? I'm hungry. Hearing this, my mother-in-law agreed and led me to the kitchen. By the time we came out again, my husband had gone to the gate with couplets. At the same time, my son came back from his classmate's house. In this way, posting couplets was naturally done by their father and son, and I went into my mother-in-law's room. I was going to help her make the bed, but when I got to the bedside, I found a patched enamel basin at her bedside. So, while preparing to clean up, I complained that my mother-in-law didn't put the dish basin on the bed. I didn't expect my mother-in-law to make me react for a long time. She said, that's my urinal!
Wet the bed? After being stunned for half a second, I couldn't help blaming my mother-in-law: "Isn't there a urinal at home? How can you put this on the bed? It's not too dirty, is it Besides ... "
Hearing this, the mother-in-law came over and explained, "It's cold recently. In order not to catch a cold, I put the small basin on the bed at night and the big basin on the ground, so I don't have to get out of bed at night. "
My mother-in-law kept nagging me while stuffing a small basin under the bed: "So-and-so just didn't pay attention to catching a cold and spent hundreds of dollars to call her son back from the city." Anyone who accidentally fell down can't get up now, and even the children can't go out to earn money. So-and-so is ill because he can't bear to eat delicious food. Now he spends more money on medical treatment than on delicious food, and people still suffer. Look at me, there's nothing wrong with me all winter! "
In the face of my mother-in-law's smug excuse, I was speechless. However, from her point of view, it may be right to do so. After all, she is the only one in the family, and we can't help if there is something really wrong. Knowing this, I easily forgave the unbearable mistake that the mother-in-law said was quite reasonable. ...
Later, my mother-in-law went out for a walk. In the evening, I began to prepare jiaozi's stuffing. In this process, firecrackers will be heard from time to time. By the time I put the dumplings in the dough, washed my hands and walked out of the kitchen, the firecrackers outside the door were already dense, which showed that someone had begun to offer sacrifices to the gods. (Shaanxi Spring Festival custom 30 guns to invite gods, meaning to worship ancestors)
"Into, to set off firecrackers. You listen to people! "
"Urgent, wait until my dad comes back."
"Your father will know, don't worry about coming back to worship. You are a big boy. You can't even shoot. Forget it, you take it out and I'll put it. " Mother-in-law's cry rang at the right time, but she didn't get a response from her son, which was a bit urgent. As soon as I saw it, I urged her to wait a little longer.
"Wait, wait, wait, didn't you hear the gunshots outside? Are you sincerely not letting you come back? " Mother-in-law returned to the house angrily. It suddenly dawned on me that my mother-in-law was in a hurry to set off firecrackers and worship God in order to let her father-in-law come back early. I quickly called my husband. Kung fu is not great, and my husband came back with a teacup. As soon as she entered the door, her mother-in-law began to complain. One moment she suspected that he didn't come back to worship God earlier, and the next she said that her son was too lazy to make any noise.
"He always doesn't like firecrackers, and you are not ignorant. Besides, I came back, didn't I? I am worried about you. " The husband said as he took firecrackers from his mother-in-law.
"Of course I'm in a hurry. New Year's Day, I can't go home outside ... "My mother-in-law is rambling, and firecrackers in the yard are already scratching.
"Mom, I heard a lot of gunshots. It is time to come back. Why don't you look at the door? " Husband is poor again.
"Get out, melon!" Mother-in-law turns worry into joy.
When the Spring Festival party started, my mother-in-law had already rested. I took the opportunity to tell my husband that my mother-in-law used a porcelain basin as a bedpan, and then solemnly told him not to criticize my mother for this tomorrow. She also tried not to cause us any trouble. Anyway, at her age, she is alone at home, so let her go. When she leaves, or her son marries a daughter-in-law, we can just clean up the house. After listening, my husband sighed and said, "Since you don't care, I have nothing to say."
Yes, my mother-in-law's behavior might be unbearable if it were another daughter-in-law, but I didn't care too much. This is not to say that I agree with her, but because my first thought is, what will happen to me if my mother does this? That's right, put yourself in the shoes. This is the way I get along with my mother-in-law. My husband often says that I have no principles, and my mother-in-law never expresses her opinions no matter what she does right or wrong, as if nothing is my business. At this time, I just need to ask: Do you want me to slap your mother all day, or quarrel with her and not give her food? Husband will be speechless when asked.
In the morning, I was awakened by the noise from the partition wall in my sleepiness. Listen carefully, the sound seems to come from the kitchen. In other words, the mother-in-law has got up. I reached for the phone on the bedside table and looked at the time. It is only seven o'clock. Get up so early, who will eat when cooking. My heart says. Turn around and cover the quilt again, ready to sleep again. At this time, the sound of bellows came from the kitchen. Obviously, my mother-in-law is already boiling water. Can I get up or not? After a long hesitation, I finally decided to get up.
"Why did you get up so early and then go to bed?" My husband was awakened by me and said to me in a gloomy way.
"I'd like to, but listen, my mother is already boiling water." I motioned to my husband while dressing. He leaned out of the quilt and listened. He gave a "hi" and got into bed again. By the time I got dressed and walked into the kitchen, my mother-in-law was already filling thermos flask with water.
"Don't sleep, get up so early." My mother-in-law asked me while putting the full thermos bottle on the chopping board. I looked at her and said to myself: I wanted to sleep, but you were busy in the kitchen early in the morning, so I was embarrassed to sleep. Of course, these words are confined to myself.
"Don't sleep, maybe the nephew will let the children send you jiaozi soon."
"Also, your sister-in-law is diligent and eats before us on the first day of every year." Just then, my niece's door was knocked. I was busy opening the door. Sure enough, my niece was carrying a bowl of hot jiaozi.
"Your mother is more diligent than me. It's only after seven o'clock, and jiaozi is ready. " I said with my niece's bowl.
"Haven't you eaten yet?" My niece asked me.
Before I could answer, my mother-in-law came and took the bowl in my hand, muttering, "Your mother just got up, and you are still sleeping with the baby in your arms. Father and son are lazier than one. "
"Milk, take care of them when you are full." My niece took over the conversation.
"I'll pack jiaozi when they get up, and you can eat and play cards early." I interjected. At this point, the mother-in-law has vacated the niece's job.
I took the empty bowl and planned to wash it. My niece grabbed the bowl from me and said, "No, no, mom, I'll just go back and wash it."
"Well, you go back and wash." I smiled.
When I sent my niece home, my mother-in-law said that she had a good meal. I took a look: She probably only ate a dozen bowls of jiaozi.
"Mom, you didn't eat a few."
"Early in the morning, I still can't eat. Ok, you can eat the rest while it's hot. Oh (Shaanxi dialect), father and son don't know when to get up. " Mother-in-law said and walked out. I knew she was in a hurry to play cards, so I deliberately teased her for fear that she would be late and have no seats. My mother-in-law answered me without looking back: "Who said that? I just don't want to eat. " After that, people have reached the gate. I smiled and turned around and picked up jiaozi.
There are firecrackers scattered outside the door. So, I am the only one left in the room. What should I do? I stood in the empty living room and lost my mind for a moment. At this time, the swallow called and said that she wanted me to go to her house for a while. Swallow is my husband's cousin. She got married half a year later than me, but more than one year younger than me. Belongs to the kind of person who can talk and is very helpful. Unlike me, I am always soft-hearted and can't control my temper.
"Hurry up, I'll wait for you at home." The swallow's voice rang again. I said, I'll be right there. Pull the door, lock the door, and then go.
Swallows were sweeping the yard with their heads down when they came in.
"Sister-in-law Swallow ..." I said slowly. Actually, I'm sorry, because I've been calling her by her name since I got married, and I've never called her that. If she hadn't called me rude in front of people many times and said that although she was younger than me, she was a bird that fell on the tree, I should have called her sister-in-law. Think about it. She's right. Then change your mouth from this year. However, after calling the name for 20 years, I suddenly changed my name, which is really a bit unaccustomed. After careful consideration, I had to do so in case she talked about me again. Sure enough, the swallow looked up as soon as she heard my name: Yes, you should call me that in the future, or I will call you a hard mouth in the future ... After that, he put down his broom, opened the curtain and welcomed me into the house.
"Sit down." She pointed to the sofa beside her.
"No, I'd better sit by the stove." I pointed to the steel carbon stove in the middle of the room and said, I'm afraid of the cold.
"Oh, if you don't tell me, I will forget. There is something wrong with your leg. " As she spoke, she took a chair from the side and put it next to the stove. At this time, the kettle on the stove is bubbling.
"You sit down first, and I'll fill the water first." She picked up the kettle and went into the back kitchen. I went to the bed, picked up the remote control, turned on the TV and watched the Spring Festival Gala replay.
Did you watch the party last night? The swallow put a pot of cold water on the stove.
"After reading half of it, I fell asleep because it was too cold in the room." I stared at the TV and answered.
"Why not buy a stove? You see, it's only 100 yuan, but the home is warm and people are not bitter. " While talking to me, she wiped here and there with a rag, which was a restless momentum. I made fun of her and said that I had never heard of your cleanliness before. Why can't you be free at once? Do you have obsessive-compulsive disorder? "
Hearing this, she put down the rag and came up to me and said, "You're right. Now I suspect that I have obsessive-compulsive disorder. "
"Slice! Are you kidding? "
"Really, I'm not kidding. I am going crazy now. " She sat down next to me, her tone full of helplessness. I suddenly remembered what my husband said a while ago about her quarrel with my cousin, so I asked casually. Now, the swallow began to pour me bitter water: look at your brother, a big man has nothing to do all day and knows that he is at home. Not to mention this, I am not allowed to go out now, saying that I am afraid that the villagers will gossip and scold his ancestors. Tell me, if he wants to go out, do I need this pain? I am not an idiot. But if I stay at home with him, what will the family eat in the future? Can I live this life? Juaner, do you think I should stay or go out to work? "
"I really can't answer this question. Think about it. I'd say it's good for you to stay. You'll say you have no money to spend. I want to say it, in case you ran away with someone else that day, I still don't hate me ... "I joked.
"Go, nonsense ..." Swallow's words were interrupted by two visiting daughters-in-law. We haven't seen each other for a year, so naturally there are many topics to talk about. As a result, we didn't know all afternoon Fortunately, during this New Year's Day, everyone is more at leisure. Unlike usual, everyone is busy in order to earn more money. Even in one place, it's probably hard to find time to talk. The reality is cruel and the work is not easy. As an ordinary person, he can only gain economic support and psychological satisfaction at the expense of time.
That's all.
At noon the next day, my daughter went home. As she only stayed for one night, it was a little troublesome to make the bed, so her mother-in-law asked her daughter to sleep with her and talk with her. This request is not too much, so I didn't say much. Perhaps it is because a person is too lonely, and her mother-in-law always likes to turn on the radio in her ear when she sleeps. People often fall asleep and the radio is still ringing loudly. It doesn't matter if my mother-in-law sleeps alone at ordinary times. She can't hear through the door anyway. But that night, maybe it was too noisy. While her mother-in-law was asleep, her daughter quietly took the radio to her side. I don't know how she got it, but the radio is broken. Just then, my mother-in-law woke up. As soon as she heard that the radio silenced her daughter, she immediately began to curse. As soon as I heard this, I felt very uncomfortable, so I called my daughter to sleep with me through the door. My daughter is also very sincere, and she actually came with clothes. After a while, I heard my mother-in-law muttering over there: Go away, I can sleep as long as I want, so I'm relieved ... If I do something wrong, don't let me say, just get used to it, and I'll know later that spoiling my baby is tantamount to hurting her ... "After listening to my mother-in-law's complaint, I know that my behavior just now may have hurt her.
"What should I do? Your milk may be angry. " I asked my daughter quietly. But she said, who told you to call me here?
"I ... I didn't hear you scold you for being uncomfortable? Who knows that as soon as I called you, you really came over and didn't even think about it. " I defended my mistake.
"Stop it. If I don't come, you must be very angry. Now you blame me. "
"I don't blame you. I mean, you must be uncomfortable coming here. What should I do? "
"Who told you to piss me off? Find your own way. " The daughter turned to sleep.
"Why don't you sleep again?" I said to my daughter. "I don't want to. It's cold. Come and catch a cold. " As soon as the daughter's voice fell, there came the sigh of her mother-in-law I covered my head with a quilt, thinking that I would pass without hearing. However, at this time, another picture appeared in my mind.
It was a Spring Festival a few years ago, probably on the third night. Called by several sisters-in-law to play cards. When I came back in the middle of the night, my husband was not at home (also playing cards), and my mother-in-law asked me to sleep with her, saying that the electric mattress was open. To tell the truth, my feet were really cold as stone at that time, so I obeyed my mother-in-law's wishes. Who knows that after getting into bed for more than half an hour, my feet are still not hot. I was afraid of freezing my mother-in-law, so I tried to curl up. I didn't expect my mother-in-law sleeping at the other end to stretch out her hand and pull my foot into her arms, saying that she would cover it for me. I said no, so I pulled my foot out of her arms, and then she dragged me over. To be honest, I almost cried at that moment. Thought: My mother has never done this to me.
Later, I encouraged my husband to ask her mother-in-law. My husband came back and told me that my mother-in-law said that she gave me warm feet because I was filial, sensible and kind to her, which made people change their minds.
Yes, heart for heart! Thinking of this, I resolutely put on my coat and took a flashlight into my mother-in-law's room. She turned her back on me.
"Mom, what's the matter with you? Why don't you sleep? " I went to the bed, bent down and asked. Mother-in-law turned around when she heard the sound.
"Oh, what are you doing up in the middle of the night! Go to sleep, don't catch a cold, go! " Probably watching me shrink my neck and tremble, my mother-in-law's voice suddenly became harsh.
"Mom, I just ..." I teased, not knowing how to speak.
"See you heartless, hurry to sleep, don't freeze." The mother-in-law urged.
"Then don't be angry?" I said.
"Oh, don't be angry, don't hurry to sleep!" I was relieved to see that my mother-in-law's tone was obviously eased.
Back in my room, my daughter whispered to me, "Mom, what did you say to my milk? Was she really angry just now? "
"Of course it's true, but it's all right now." I went to bed.
On the third day, there was nothing wrong with each other. On the afternoon of the fourth day, it was time for my husband to go to work. So every day when it was dark, while we were still sleeping, my mother-in-law quietly pulled a bag of wheat to the neighboring village to grind a bag of new flour for us, and quietly went to the village health clinic at noon to buy me several boxes of tranquilizing mind and brain tonic liquid and zinc oral liquid. Since I knew that I had oral ulcer and headache, my mother-in-law specially asked the doctors in the village. Knowing that these medicines were useful to me, she bought them for me. In fact, this is not the first time my mother-in-law has bought me medicine. My mother-in-law has been asking someone to bring me some such as bottled calcium tablets, bottled vitamin C tablets, boxed oral liquid, etc. Whether I can use it or not. Of course, whether it will be used in the end or not, it is a feeling and love from my mother-in-law. I am convinced of this. I also believe that my mother-in-law's love is heartfelt, real and tangible. Therefore, I never regret my contribution to my mother-in-law, and I never feel how well I have done: I just inherited my kindness and original intention, trying not to regret myself and not to disappoint my husband and mother-in-law. There is a saying that happiness comes from having a home. On the other hand, what kind of home is a happy home? I think it should be family love. Therefore, if a family, whether mother-in-law or daughter-in-law, husband or wife, can put themselves in each other's shoes and be tolerant, understanding and respectful, I think this family must be warm and happy. So, at the end of the article, I sincerely wish everyone in the world a warm and happy home!