At the beginning of marriage, there was a grudge, and we went into marriage together for what we wanted. Zhao Meilan didn't marry Su Daqiang for his brother's hukou. The only thing he can give is his brother's account. Su Daqiang is ugly, but she can also solve her problems. Su Daqiang is also because of Zhao Meilan's beauty. The beginning of marriage is for the benefit, turning marriage into a transaction. Do you think they will be happy?
After two people get married, the difference is too big. Different personalities have different ways to deal with problems. Zhao Meilan is strong and likes to be aggressive, while Su Daqiang is too weak to avoid and retreat. Everything at home is in Zhao Meilan's charge. Mother's strength and father's absence have led to a series of family problems. Everyone saw Su Daqiang's grievance. Who will understand Zhao Meilan's bitterness? Zhao Meilan didn't feel warm in family of origin. How does she know how to take care of her children and husband?
I regard my marriage as a transaction, and my husband and children as her chips to realize her ideal. She vented her unhappiness on her husband, so making things difficult for him in every way is nothing more than a helpless desire for love.
In this marriage, Zhao Meilan is unfortunate, and so is Su Daqiang. But they all entered the marriage for their own needs. No one forced them. Zhao Meilan was born in the countryside, perhaps influenced by conservative thoughts. She prefers boys to girls when she comes. You not only hurt yourself, but also hurt your daughter. In my opinion, she is a typical "help elder brother demon". Although she was very kind to her brother, and even sacrificed her marital happiness for him, she felt it was right and had no gratitude.
Speaking of their marriage, it's a deal. How can a marriage without emotional foundation be happy? This is torture for each other. Children living in such a family environment will have an impact on their marriage outlook and personality. Parents are the role models of children, the strength of mothers and the lack of fatherly love. Mingyu saw that if she wants to realize her ideal, she must be strong. The sense of security is given by oneself. Mingyu's change has also been influenced by her mother!
Zhao Meilan pinned her only hope for her unfortunate marriage on Mingzhe. Train him to be what he wants. Realize your dreams for yourself. Wise also accepted and enjoyed all the resources in the family. Go to America to work, buy a house and a car. Mingzhe also feels responsible and often acts as a big brother, telling his younger brothers and sisters how to do things. In the end, Mingzhe became a tragedy of "saving face and losing money". Ming Cheng's ingratiation and dependence on her just filled her emotional needs. She spoiled Ming Cheng as a "good girl".
In an unfortunate family, parents influence their children, which is passed down from generation to generation. Such families are also common in our lives. Now that marriage has been formed, we should create a healthy living environment for our children. Let his body and mind no longer bear so many troubles and rebellions. Both love and marriage feel that others are happier than themselves and are unwilling to find problems from themselves. Only blame each other. They don't understand each other, are intolerant and unhappy. Every day is a day of injury.