In fact, if you can understand his/her psychology and understand the demands and desires behind each other, then no matter who you are facing, you are very easy to get along with.
Some people say that the most difficult thing to understand in this world is a woman's heart, and the most difficult thing to understand is the relationship between men and women.
Classmate Qi Jia was born in a scholarly family. Her father is a professor and her mother teaches in a high school. It may be the kind of person who is strict at home and has a natural temper when studying. He won't take the initiative to seduce people. He left himself carelessly. He is almost thirty years old and has no date yet.
Seeing that all the students around him gave birth to a second child, Qi family slowly became anxious.
After all, she is still a gentle and lovely little fairy. Soon after taking the initiative, she had a boyfriend and appeared at the class reunion with her.
This man is the vice president of the company. He is polite and humorous. He has been "serving tea and pouring water" to Qijia and dotes on Qijia like a little princess. Two people talking and laughing, eyes are happy. I can see that they are all interested in this relationship.
Friends wished their families well, but who knew that they broke up in less than two months?
The breakup was initiated by the Qi family, and I heard that it was particularly determined.
I asked Qijia, why did you give up such a good person?
Put said gloomily:
"He has a lot of close female friends. He always turns to him for help. Once we went shopping together, another female friend asked him out, and he left immediately. I was so angry that I refused to let him go. He also called me unreasonable.
More often, I think he is a central air conditioner, and he doesn't really love me. I'm too old to keep him. "
When she finished, I understood everything.
This man is well-dressed, well-behaved and well-off, so he is used to being surrounded by many women. He didn't really "eat a bowl and watch the pot", and he couldn't even understand why he brought trouble to Qijia, but he did give Qijia an "unsafe" experience.
Maybe his love and kindness to Qijia is true, but it's a pity that he doesn't understand Qijia's real need at this time-to find a man who can give him a sense of security to marry.
This is easy to explain from a psychological point of view.
Abraham, the pioneer of the third generation psychology? Maslow said that when people's basic needs are met, there will be a need to be respected and loved. or vice versa, Dallas to the auditorium
If you can't understand and meet my real needs, then our relationship ends here.
I have a friend who graduated with a master's degree in psychology, and his popularity is enviable.
The point is that people who are jealous of her still like to be friends with her.
Someone commented on her like this: "It's very comfortable to be with her. No matter what you say or do, she seems to stand by and support you, so she likes dealing with her very much. "
People who know psychology are actually very cheap on the road of life. It will give you the initiative and obvious advantages when dealing with people such as job hunting, making friends and cooperation.
Because they know and understand people and prescribe the right medicine, they can naturally take reasonable measures to improve their goodwill in the eyes of others, and then establish good interpersonal relationships.