My situation is similar to yours. I have been with my boyfriend for three years. We have a good relationship, but he is also a little violent. I said I couldn't stand him, but I couldn't change him. I chose to break up. I suggest you take him to see a psychiatrist. If you really can't change it, split it up. Don't miss such people. If it is serious, it is best to consult a psychologist. If you can't control your situation for a long time, you'd better consult a psychologist to see if some shadows of your childhood or some environment you live in can prevent violent tendencies and lead to serious consequences. If you are a good man and listen to your advice, you'd better take him to see a psychiatrist first. The rivers and mountains may change, but not one's essential nature In fact, he is soft-hearted no matter how violent he is. Maybe his nature is not like that, just because something forced him to do this, that is, sometimes he had to do this (1) extreme case: the only case that was corrected together.

After so many years, the author only encountered a domestic violence and changed. The case is as follows: because of a dispute with his family, the man became angry from embarrassment and hit the woman. However, the man regretted it as soon as he started, immediately admitted his mistake and promised that it would never happen again in his life. According to the woman, so far, the man has never had a domestic violence.

Compared with other cases, the author thinks that the biggest difference lies in the man's good academic qualifications. After all, he is a master of Peking University, with profound knowledge and high literacy in all aspects.

(2) Exception: There is only one case of domestic violence.

Discuss domestic violence without saying that its cause is hooliganism! In practice, another kind of domestic violence often occurs in the form of a single incident, that is, one spouse finds the other cheating and is triggered by anger.

If you divorce after domestic violence, then domestic violence only happens once, and there is no change or no change;

If there is no divorce after domestic violence, then it may turn to the third situation!

In most cases: domestic violence still exists.

Unfortunately, in practice, most domestic violence can't be changed. How to behave after domestic violence, kneeling, self-mutilation, hugging legs, crying, etc. are useless. Or if they want to do it, they will continue their domestic violence, becoming more and more unscrupulous. If they want to fight, they will fight again and again until one party dies or divorces, and they will never stop!

Please note that I said forever! In these cases, there are men and women in domestic violence, and divorce is already a good result, and even many cases end in tragedy.