1 and life experience after 40.
It took forty years to understand that friends are like fish in water, and deep and shallow fish will never walk together; The poor and the rich, the officials and the people, the grassroots and the powerful can't be true friends, because they have different perceptions of life, and the most important thing is that they have different hearts about the world and nature. Even the rich and the rich, officials and officials, dignitaries and dignitaries will not become true friends. Because there are interests, differences, trade-offs, weightiness, concerns and so on. The heart of worldly interests disputes blinds the truth, so there will be no real friendship.
It took me forty years to understand that youth is enviable, but maturity lasts longer. Look at women no longer just like youth and beauty, but also value maturity, serenity, nature and clarity; Pay more attention to women's mind, generosity, wisdom and kindness; Pay more attention to the connotation behind sedate maturity and occasional femininity.
I didn't understand until forty years later: I really appreciate the person who has been waiting for you all my life, because he is the harbor of your life; Smile at the person you once hated, because he makes you stronger; Sincerely thank the person who once loved, because he let you know love; Thank the person who betrayed you, if it weren't for him, you wouldn't know the world; To the person you once secretly loved, sincerely wish him happiness, because when you like him, you also hope him to be happy; For trustworthy people, you should get along well with them, and you won't meet a few sincere friends or true confidants in your life.
Forty years later, I realized that men don't like being controlled by women, especially calculating women, who not only lose their self-esteem, but also distort their souls. They need to communicate with each other peacefully. Feelings are not high or low, and they don't need to be controlled and mastered. Feelings flow naturally, and deliberate control and pursuit will not have true feelings. Sincere feelings for the world need tacit understanding of the soul, even natural spiritual communication.
It took me forty years to understand that things in the world are complicated and simple. You are simple, and the world is simple. Live a natural and unrestrained life, live a wonderful life, and need to suffer hardships. Everything has two sides or many sides. It is sometimes difficult to tell right from wrong. What you like is probably hated and spurned by others. The world and nature will not develop or destroy according to your own wishes.
It took me forty years to understand that happiness index depends entirely on mentality. Years of delicious food and luxury goods may not bring comfort to the soul. Between coping and hypocrisy, the final result may be an increasingly empty mind. Full of ambition and despair is a tragedy of life, far less than plain and carefree.
It took me forty years to understand that you don't have to worry about having more friends of the opposite sex in your whole life. That is the ups and downs of your life, a wonderful chapter. However, we should be more caring for friends of the opposite sex, less greedy, more understanding and less demanding. Putting emotions in a free space and being lenient with others means being lenient with others; To be tolerant of feelings is to be tolerant of mind. Let each other not have to bear the emotional burden, let the sunshine and warmth shine forever, and comfort the mutual affection of life.
Forty years later, I realized that affection, friendship and even love actually didn't get much. Think quietly in your spare time. After living for decades, there are several truly reliable buddies and confidants. Don't look at and distinguish friends from your so-called position or official position. These so-called friends may be the most unreliable' friends'! In addition to work, people have a broader living space. Work and position are not the only things in life. As the saying goes, it is enough to have a bosom friend in life. Maybe I thought about it, but I don't even have a confidant, and my heart is so sad. We should always reflect on ourselves and be kind to others, is it really good? Tolerance, generosity and kindness, exchanging true feelings for true feelings, is the foundation of being a man.
Forty years later, I realized that a wife or husband has long seemed unremarkable and even unbearable. But the years have already merged with each other. No matter how hard it is, it is also a part of life. When we are together, we may not cherish it. If we are apart, we will find it difficult to leave.
Forty years later, I realized that meticulous care and doting on children not only made us a burden, but also made children unable to stand the backbone of life. When I was young, I was afraid of their suffering, their suffering, their wind and rain, and too many of them. When they grow up, we still have to bear deep sadness and pain for our initial fears. Who is to blame? It's true that you can't see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain!
Forty years later, I realized that no one can win the race against time. "Life is short" is not empty talk. For people in their forties, there are many feelings. Face everything calmly and calmly, live high, live with confidence, think what you should think, do what you should do, love yourself and love others more. No matter when and where, cherish the fate, whether it is a passer-by in your life or a long-term confidant, it is a good memory of your life. There are few real friends in the sea of people, so please don't care! Don't wait until you can't do anything, then dig out the memories of lifelong regret and regret.
2. Suggestions for men's self-improvement
Stimulating inguinal canal can enhance testicular function.
Testicular massage can enhance male sexual function. But it is more effective to stimulate the inguinal canal on both sides of Tintin root. The groin is a channel that conveys blood to the testis and connects nerves. If the inguinal canal function is low, it will inevitably lead to testicular dysfunction. Therefore, it is very important to make the blood circulation of inguinal canal good.
The method of massaging inguinal canal is to press both sides of Tintin's root with two fingers, and touch it from top to bottom to stimulate the passage of blood flowing to testis. Massage once a day, and you can massage yourself in bed before going to bed every night.
In addition, when taking a bath, you can use the shower head to stimulate this part with warm water, which can also improve blood circulation and strengthen testicular function.
Tintin massage with shower.
When taking a bath, it is best to massage Tintin with a shower. The so-called "shower massage" refers to pouring warm water around Tintin's roots with a shower nozzle, which is very effective in restoring testicular "energy".
Erection, like shoulder pain, makes the ligaments and nerves that support Tintin quite tired. And the longer the erection time, the heavier the fatigue. Of course, just like shoulder pain needs massage, after sexual life, massaging and stimulating the ligaments, nerves and inguinal ducts at Tintin's roots will improve blood circulation and restore the fatigue of testicles and Tintin as soon as possible.
There are many important acupoints not only in the groin, but also in the lower abdomen, around the navel and under the groin. If these parts are fully heated with a shower, the effect will be better. Using a shower is different from soaking in a bathtub, because the shower can centrally heat and stimulate acupuncture points. Of course, the water pressure in the shower is better.
Enhance sexual ability through "Tintin Shiatsu"
Like the "Tintin Massage Method" introduced in the previous paragraph, if Tintin is often massaged with "Tintin Finger Pressing Method", sexual ability can be effectively improved. The operation of shiatsu is very simple, that is, grasping Tintin repeatedly with your fingers. Therefore, it can enhance the activation of Tintin nerve and blood vessels. This is like rubbing your hands or clenching your fists repeatedly in cold weather, which can improve the blood circulation of your fingers and make them red and warm.
Grasping Tintin repeatedly with your hands will lead to Tintin's erection. You don't mind Tintin's erection, but you can continue to massage. Massage in bed in the morning and evening. For example, it is more helpful to establish a friendly and positive environment as part of the same room.
You can kill two birds with one stone if you can do Tintin Shiatsu massage with the above-mentioned "air cooling" or "alternating hot and cold" exercise mode. Perseverance is very important.
Finger stimulation exercise has the function of consolidating essence and strengthening yang.
The most important point of strengthening essence and strengthening yang is to improve the blood circulation of the whole body, especially the lower body. Once the blood circulation is not smooth, there will be diseases caused by congestion somewhere in the body, which will lead to the decline of human energy and endurance for one year. Therefore, we should adopt various methods to stimulate the human body properly, so that the metabolism in the body is active and the blood circulation is improved.
One way is to stimulate the index finger. The advantage of this method is that it is not limited by occasion time and is very convenient to implement.
For example, when commuting by bus in the morning and evening, hook the handrail or rings in the car with your index finger; Or in leisure time, the index finger of both hands is repeatedly pulled; Or massage your index finger with an umbrella handle or golf club; The easiest way is to hook a wooden stick or bamboo pole with your index finger and turn your upper body left and right.
This is because the index finger is the passage of the "large intestine meridian" of the human body, and the fingertip of the index finger is the "Shang Yang" point. From a medical point of view, stimulating the acupoints on the meridians has obvious effects of benefiting essence and strengthening yang, and can maintain an energetic sexual life. Because the method is simple and cheap, it is not limited by time and place. I suggest you have a try.
Alternating hot and cold bathing can improve the sexual function of middle-aged and elderly men.
This is a very old exercise method to enhance male sexual function. When taking a bath alternately with hot and cold water, it is best to take a bath after the bath is sufficiently warm, smear the female private parts with cold water for about 3 minutes, and then take a bath after Tintin and scrotum contract. Repeat this for 3-5 times and it's over. If we can insist on doing "alternating bath" every day, we can make men after middle age full of energy, enhance sexual function and reduce fatigue. If you use hot and cold shower heads, the effect will not change.
Massage scrotum has the function of enhancing male energy.
In order to improve male sexual function, it is one of the ways to develop the habit of directly massaging scrotum with hands. Regular massage will improve the circulation of testicles. Because fresh blood can be continuously supplied to testicles, it will definitely enhance testicular function and improve male energy.
Stuttering is generally rare, but we still meet people who stutter. A stutterer is usually teased by people around him. The more teased he is, the more likely he is to make the stutterer nervous and angry, thus aggravating his stuttering. So people who stutter are very upset. Let's take a look with Bian Xiao!
People who stutter sometimes don't take it for granted, but as they get older, their self-esteem increases and their fear of stuttering and jokes increases. They are a little reluctant to say, and dare not say. Their personalities have become withdrawn, lifeless, silent, closed and out of touch, and they are more and more different from their peers who have knowledge, information and handle affairs. In addition, what is the character and psychological state of people who rarely speak or speak ill all the year round? It is conceivable that stuttering should be corrected as soon as possible, especially for school-age children.
Ninety-five percent of patients don't stutter very much or can stutter in a few words when chatting, but when they talk seriously or for a long time, they will feel uneasy or stutter, and there will be tens of millions of things that need language communication in the future. If stuttering is not corrected, there will be tens of millions of fears and anxieties, resulting in tens of millions of stuttering, which will lead to tens of millions of things being affected and lost. This is terrible!
People who stutter are often in a state of being afraid to speak, unable to speak, afraid of speaking badly and not knowing what to do. This mentality makes them feel embarrassed and embarrassed several times, which makes people feel ashamed and unbearable, and they are often accused of irony, which makes them feel worse.
Health Network warmly reminds that people who stutter must pay attention to correction, because talking to others when stuttering will make people feel difficult to communicate, which is the most painful thing for stutterers. Normally, a normal person can make the other person understand in one sentence, but he may not understand it after stuttering several times.
1, tomato
Rich vitamin C can combine the relationship between cells, produce collagen and strengthen blood vessels.
2. Soybeans
Soybean has phytohormones, and men who often eat soy products are less likely to develop prostate cancer. For example, Japanese men who often eat soy products are less likely to develop prostate cancer than western men. In addition, soybean is also effective in improving male bone loss.
3, high vitamin C food
After the age of 24, the quality and quantity of male sperm are declining. There is a panacea that can rejuvenate aging sperm, and that is vitamin C. Vegetables and fruits with high vitamin C content include kiwifruit, Liu Ding, oranges, broccoli and asparagus.
4. Whole wheat bread
Vitamin B family is very important for fighting stress. Whole wheat bread is a kind of compound carbohydrate, which can release energy slowly, has a calming effect and makes people relaxed and not nervous.
5, deep-sea fish
Stress can also reduce the age of men with hyperlipidemia and stroke. Omega-3 fatty acids in deep-sea fish can prevent blood coagulation, reduce vasoconstriction and triglycerides, and are especially beneficial to the heart and blood vessels.
6. tea
Green tea is rich in vitamin C that black tea does not have. Vitamin C is an indispensable nutrient for preventing colds and resisting oxidation.
In addition, it is rich in glutamic acid to prevent aging, aspartic acid to enhance immunity, and amino acids to nourish and strengthen the body. It also has diuretic and stress-relieving effects, caffeine with lifting effect, flavonoids with blood pressure lowering effect, etc.
7. Red wine
If you must, drink Berry Bros. & Rudd. Because polyphenols, the antioxidant substance of grape skin in red wine, will remain in the wine, which can reduce the chance of cardiovascular disease.
Moreover, compared with various wines, the purine of red wine (a substance that can increase uric acid in the body) is quite low. In addition, red wine can enhance the antioxidant effect and prevent arteriosclerosis. Recently, according to the research results, it can also play a role in dementia and is an indispensable drink for the elderly. But alcohol still has calories, and nutritionists suggest that it should be controlled below 60cc every day.
8.carrots
Rich in potassium, it has the effect of lowering blood pressure, and dietary fiber can play the role of whole intestine. Carrot. Busu will be transformed into vitamin A in the body, which will enhance the body's resistance and inhibit the active oxygen that leads to cell deterioration. In addition, because it is rich in potassium and has the effect of lowering blood pressure, dietary fiber can play a role in relaxing bowels. Carrots rich in B- carotene are also popular because they can prevent cancer.
9.oysters
Seafood can enhance sexual ability. Male semen contains a lot of zinc. When zinc is insufficient in the body, it will affect the quantity and quality of sperm. A small oyster is almost equal to the daily demand of zinc (15 mg).
Seafood can enhance sexual ability. Male semen contains a lot of zinc. When zinc is insufficient in the body, it will affect the quantity and quality of sperm. The zinc content in seafood oysters, shrimps and crabs is the most abundant, and a small oyster is almost equal to the daily zinc demand (15 mg). In addition, oysters are rich in glycogen or taurine, which can improve liver function, nourish and strengthen the body.
10, garlic
Garlic has a strong bactericidal power, so it can kill bacteria that invade the body. Eating more for men can improve physical fitness and keep fit. The phytochemicals contained in garlic are good for the heart. In order to give full play to its efficacy, it is best to chop or mash garlic and eat it. Don't heat it for a long time, otherwise it will lose its beneficial ingredients.