Hideki Wada, the author of You can understand the truth, but it's hard to control small emotions, mainly focuses on emotions.

This book is ***230 pages (data source WeChat reading)

I have been reading this book recently. Although I haven't finished reading it, it is still very helpful for emotional management. It tells me how to know how to control my emotions. There is a term called frontal lobe, which has been improved many times. With the decline of age, the frontal lobe is also aging, forming what we can see, that is, stubbornness.

See how the author introduced it.

The role of IQ and EQ. IQ tests the function of temporal lobe and parietal lobe, while EQ shows the function of frontal lobe. Strengthening emotional intelligence is really helpful to improve the ability of creative thinking, flexible thinking and changing thinking.

In other words, only the temporal lobe and the parietal lobe are used in daily work, but the frontal lobe is used when adapting to new situations or creating unprecedented things.

In the past, when you could make a lot of money by performing routine tasks effectively, you only needed a high IQ to succeed in your work. However, it is not easy to engage in business or sales activities in today's rapidly changing times. People with high innovation ability, flexible thinking ability and keen perception ability, as well as people who know how to read words and see everything, are more likely to get ahead.

Only a high IQ is not enough to gain a foothold in modern society, but people with high EQ are more likely to succeed. It is generally believed that the higher the EQ, the better the frontal lobe function.

What we should pay attention to is not intellectual aging, but emotional aging.

Anger is human nature,

But if you can change your mood in time without hurting others' emotions.

Even the way the body expresses its dissatisfaction means that anger can be effectively controlled.

When the function of frontal lobe declines, it will produce a lot of negative energy.

As mentioned above, we can understand and control our emotions and stimulate our enthusiasm, which is derived from the function of the frontal lobe. But when the frontal lobe function is impaired, it will be difficult to control emotions.

In addition, anger and violence, such as cursing others or being unable to help others, are all caused by the decline of frontal lobe function.

Therefore, it may be that the elderly hit people with umbrellas or growled at the staff of state organs, which may be caused by the decline of frontal lobe function. These people may be gentle when they are young, which is beyond everyone's expectation, at least they won't do the above rude behaviors.

Looking at it from another angle, a person who has no emotions may also have problems with his brain function. In fact, expressing negative emotions moderately and appropriately is not necessarily a bad thing for keeping the brain young. If you accumulate too much anger, it will form pressure and cause gastric ulcer.

However, no matter how angry, rational people will try to suppress or control it as much as possible to prevent themselves from swearing or hitting people. This is called "anger control" in psychology.

Not only the elderly suffer from depression, but also the number of young women suffering from depression is increasing. One reason may be that excessive weight loss leads to malnutrition. Meat contains a lot of fat. When you lose weight, you often avoid eating meat. If vegetables are the staple food at ordinary times, the chances of ingesting tryptophan, the raw material of serotonin, from meat will be greatly reduced. In this way, serotonin will be reduced, resulting in depression, difficult to recover and other depressive symptoms.

Please remember that daily diet has a great influence on emotional ups and downs. The "stubborn old man" mentioned in the previous chapter is the specific feature of frontal lobe function decline.

The decline of frontal lobe function leads to brain rigidity, and it is difficult to accept other people's views. When the situation becomes more and more serious, it will become "stubborn." If what others do is related to what they have been doing for many years, or when they talk about areas that they think are very familiar with, they will appear uninterested and think disapprovingly: "Isn't this something that everyone knows?" "It's not unusual at all." It's hard to accept other people's opinions.

What's more, he insists on his own opinions more and more, refuses to listen to others' opinions, and denies everything with a condescending attitude: "This guy knows nothing and dares to talk big." This idea is caused by brain rigidity.

The frequent discord between the founders and successors of the company may be caused by the rigidity of their brains.

The better the frontal lobe function, the more flexible the brain is about things. Even if others talk about their familiar fields, they can still listen with relish and find special knowledge in the technical field, thus inspiring themselves to generate new inspiration: "There is such a view." Even if you know a point of view different from the established concept, you can still think: "This idea may be correct?" If you know how to think independently, you will think that the established concept is only temporary, and you will not believe it and think it is an unchangeable truth.

With the growth of age, the mind will mature, the concept will be updated and the values will change. If you stick to the same idea for decades, you need to pay attention.

When the frontal lobe function declines, on the one hand, others are not allowed to criticize what they are familiar with, on the other hand, they will accept all areas that they don't understand.

Most people want to be open-minded, mature adults and make themselves reasonable. There is nothing wrong with being an enlightened person, but I can't refute it.

When talking or discussing with others, some people will echo in their hearts: "Mm-hmm, that's right." Some people will question: "Is this really the case? Is it a mistake? " In contrast, the frontal lobe function of the latter is more active.

The so-called "thinking" refers to giving brain stimulation. As far as the frontal lobe is concerned, thinking and trying new experiences can get stimulation. It is important to "think with your own head".

In order to avoid anxiety and boredom affecting our lives, we must learn to control our emotions. The key is the emotional intelligence mentioned above. If you want to improve your EQ, you should use the frontal lobe more and keep it active.

Solution: ① Take a deep breath ② Eat breakfast ③ Have a good sleep.

As mentioned above, the function of frontal lobe is closely related to the secretion of neurotransmitters serotonin and androgen. In order to make the frontal lobe function work normally, we should cultivate regular living habits.

So the most important thing is to go to bed early at night, ensure enough sleep, and wake up in the sun the next morning. The study also pointed out that sunlight can promote the secretion of serotonin.

If you want to keep your brain in good condition, you must also pay attention to basic living habits and keep your body in the best condition, which is beyond doubt.

In short, healthy activities are also good for brain health.

"How interesting!" I want to know more! We need to keep a strong curiosity like this. Please make good use of curiosity when it sprouts, irrigate it carefully, and let it thrive.

For example, if an elite with a successful life, such as a senior government official who graduated from Tokyo University, commits suicide, people will always say, "There must be no setbacks, so the ability to resist pressure is so low." But as a psychologist, I don't think it's because of my low pressure resistance, but because "this is the only way to go in life", and I never thought there was another way to go.

Whether you are playing sports or playing musical instruments, if you have a pleasure that you really like, even if you are seriously frustrated at work, you can consider changing the runway to turn the corner.

Of course, this is not to ask everyone to "don't take everything too seriously" and "should study their hobbies in depth", but for the sake of mental health, don't let the whole brain "focus on one thing".

If someone says that you are becoming more and more emotional, you should realize that this may be caused by aging brain, and then remind yourself that you need to think better before making a decision. With this awareness, at least it shows that the brain can still maintain normal operation. Because people with dementia don't think they have dementia; People with decreased frontal lobe function can't feel that their thoughts are going their own way.

Let's call it a day. Do you find yourself always losing your temper? Guilt after losing your temper?

It turns out that it's all frontal lobe problems. I know I have to take a deep breath, sleep well and eat breakfast. Let the body be full of energy, and the spirit will be better.