There are a few words written in front:

According to the report of female entrepreneurs released by Ali, in the field of Internet entrepreneurship, women are not lost to men at all. On the contrary, in Taobao's Internet entrepreneurship, women have occupied "half of the country".

And entrepreneurship, there are only dreams and interests.

That is to say, under the background of "she", there is a turning point and possibility in women's career, and the eternal problem of balancing career and family will become a distant past with the surging of the times.

One,

Three days ago, my mobile phone received a short message reminding me that there was a courier, but the fact is that I didn't shop online these days.

According to the pick-up code in the short message, I took the parcel out with a little curiosity. I opened it and found a silk hand-embroidered vest, a pair of handmade cloth clips and a Shankar inside.

Looking at the beautiful font and signature on the card, I suddenly realized, oh, it was her.

Two years ago, I was a columnist for a website.

One day, when I logged into the website, I received a short message from the station.

The woman who texted me is called Allen (a pseudonym). She said that she was struggling recently and wanted to talk to me.

At that time, I had to go to work during the day, so I replied to Allen and said, "If you have any doubts, just write them down. I'll get back to you when I think about it. "

A few days later, I received a long email from Allen.

Second,

The mail is more than 4000 words long. I know that this is the greatest sincerity that a deeply entangled woman can show.

Allen said that she is a novice mother. Facing the lovely little life, she was quickly immersed in the joy and happiness of being a mother for the first time.

With her child until she was two and a half years old, Allen felt that she had to make a good plan for herself, but she was deeply anxious about the plan.

Before giving birth to a child, Allen was just a humble executive in a company. After having children, the old man is weak and can't help, and his husband is trying to make money outside. In order to give her children the best love and care, Allen began to be a full-time mother.

While writing the email, Allen wanted to find something to do, but she didn't know what to do.

She said that even if she returned to her old post to do administrative work, first, her age was not dominant, and second, she was worried about having children, so she could not devote herself to her work as before. Third, almost all companies have attendance requirements for employees.

Even if children are sent to a small nursery, they will leave school early. Besides, children will not be allowed to pee and cry in the small nursery. If the mother wants to be on call, she can't guarantee the attendance time.

All this has caused some obstacles and troubles for Allen to re-enter the workplace.

Third,

I wrote a letter to Allen, in which Allen and I told two stories.

When my child was three years old, I met Yang Yang's mother.

At that time, the economy was not well off, and I was fascinated by going to the forum to find second-hand items, especially children's bicycles. It's not cost-effective to buy a brand-new thing. Children don't cherish playing with things, and even the best things will be terrible in a few days. Moreover, after playing for a while, the car was idle.

Based on this consideration, I visited a forum and saw a mother named Yang Yang selling a children's car. The price is not expensive, but it seems good.

I soon got in touch with Yang Yang's mother. One Saturday afternoon, I went to Yang Yang's mother's house.

I still remember clearly that Yang Yang's mother's home is a duplex building, and there is a storage room on the second floor, which contains all kinds of children's things. Yang Yang's mother told me that she used to work in the audit office, but she was really tired and often needed to travel. Yang Yang's father has just been promoted to manager of the company. Considering Yang Yang's daily care and education problems, Yang Yang's mother quit her previous job.

Yang Yang's mother used to be a workaholic, but with the birth of her child, she gradually realized that it is more meaningful than any job to give her children full love and security and cultivate their good habits.

She knows a strong woman with a thriving career, but she has no choice but to neglect the discipline of her children. Finally, the child entered a juvenile detention center. The strong woman regretted: "If time can go back, I would rather exchange my so-called success for the healthy growth of my children."

The reflection of this strong woman gave Yang Yang's mother a new thought about success.

Fourth,

She reflected on her work. There is no doubt that the nature and characteristics of such a job as auditing can't really balance her family. At the same time, although this job seems glamorous, only she knows it. In fact, it's just a job, not to mention love and interest.

The most fulfilling thing Yang Yang's mother did when she was a child was selling small cards at school, but her parents stopped her.

She likes to persuade others and enjoys the sense of accomplishment of making a fortune by selling.

After resigning, Yang Yang's mother seized a business opportunity from her children, that is, there is a unique market for second-hand toys. Yang Yang's mother bought a set of disinfection equipment and started posting on the forum to sell second-hand toys. Who would have thought that the sales were quite good, and the income after one month was not less than when she went to work.

After a long time, she simply opened an online shop. When I went to her house, her online shop was drilling. She said that she would ask two customer service staff to help her with her business.

Five,

Tell another story about a friend.

I know a mother who is good at cooking. A few years ago, she started a blog dedicated to drying food. Later, she was selected as a food book by the publishing house. Now she has become a hot food expert in major TV stations, flying around with her daughter all day to taste food design dishes.

Under her influence, my daughter also began to study food. Now the life of mother and daughter is like hanging up. Making money by eating all day has become the envy of many people.

After two stories, I told Allen that in the era of escalating consumption, the influence of women is actually far beyond your imagination. Hobbies and responsibilities have become the biggest motivation for many women. Many mothers create their own world just to give their babies better love.

Six,

This time, I learned from Allen's feedback that after reading my reply, she thought it over carefully. She found that she had a natural interest in making clothes since she was a child, so she did not continue her old job, but used her spare time to learn to make clothes. She models her children and dresses them up beautifully every day. When her children go to kindergarten in clothes, they always attract the attention of many mothers and teachers, and these people have become the first customers in Allen.

"Sister Xiaoli, thank you. If it weren't for you, I would feel useless and I wouldn't dream that I could have today's life. " At the end of the card, Allen wrote.

In fact, this era has written a new definition for women's success.

In my opinion, a truly successful woman will not stumble because of her children. On the contrary, her children will open another window for your life, take you to see the wonderful world and meet a brand-new self with you.

About the author: Zhao Xiaoli, a senior career counselor and workplace writer, has written books such as "Fear of trouble is your biggest obstacle" and "Please stop ineffective efforts".