Pushkin in Eugene? Onegin said: Happiness is to do what you should do when you are young; When you are mature, do what you should do when you are mature.

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Some time ago, actor Huang Lei participated in the activity of "People are the cutest in middle age" in the New World Reading Club. He confided in the program and told many people how they felt in middle age.

Huang Lei said that when he went to college from 65438 to 0990, Jonathan Lee's song "Loneliness is unbearable" was particularly popular, and one of the lyrics "Loneliness is unbearable, loneliness is unbearable, and thirty years old is coming" made him particularly impressed.

He thinks that 30 years old is far from him, so he is particularly looking forward to the arrival of 30 years old. However, when he wanted to go out in shorts one day in winter, his parents blamed him for freezing.

Huang Lei said without hesitation, I am 37 years old. Why do you still care about me? But I didn't really remember it until he went out. He is 47 years old, a standard middle-aged man.

How time flies. Huang Lei, who thought he was still young, finally accepted the reality of middle age. As he said in Weibo, maybe people will live more comfortably when they reach middle age and accept parting.

There is only one thing in this world that is fair to everyone, and that is time. In the process of growing old, some people are afraid of aging, others are afraid of friends' separation, and Huang Lei once had such worries.

But Huang Lei knows better. Only by accepting will he cherish what he has. Each of us should understand this. Many things will not change according to your wishes. Only by accepting the reality can we face it more calmly.

Pushkin in Eugene? Onegin said: Happiness is to do what you should do when you are young; When you are mature, do what you should do when you are mature.

We have been pursuing happiness all our lives, thinking that having a house and a car is happiness, and having two children is happiness. In fact, the greatest happiness is to do well what should be done at each stage and accept what should be accepted frankly.

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Seriously live every stage of life.

On February 9th, actress Zhang Ziyi celebrated her 40th birthday. In Weibo, she wrote, I used to feel that the year of no doubt was far away from me, but now she has quietly "rubbed" against me. Actually, I don't know if I'm ready.

Zhang Ziyi said that the road before the age of forty is full of surprises and joy. Really hard, persistent, brave, crying and laughing, naive. Finally, she said, "Thank you for your kindness to me over the years", which made me very emotional.

As a woman a few years younger than Zhang Ziyi, I am about to turn 40. Looking back on the course along the way, there are many happy moments and many struggling moments.

I still remember the pride of being the first in school and the frustration of being criticized by the leader in my first year of work. At that time, I always felt that life was so long and I didn't know what I was living for.

At the age of 26, I got married and had a son the next year. Suddenly, my life became busier. I have to take care of my work and my son, and I am in a dilemma every day.

I want to tell my husband about my grievances, but he is silent, patting me on the back at most to express comfort. In fact, I know that he is fighting alone in his wilderness like me.

Fortunately, as we all know, everyone has to face their own lives. With mutual encouragement and support, children gradually grow up and understand, and their work is more handy. Time finally smiled at us.

No one's life has not experienced chaos. When you can calmly face every stage of life, you can more calmly accept the reality that people reach middle age. After all, there is still "knowing the destiny" waiting in the future.

Writer Liu Yong said in "Looking at Life with Cold Eyes" that when people reach middle age, they should watch tragicomedy, find happiness in sadness and find pleasure in suffering.

Middle age is the most important stage of life. When people reach middle age, they have experienced the longing and tempering of youth, know how to accept every experience of life calmly, and slowly usher in an old age full of memories.

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Accept the joys and sorrows of every stage.

Deng Chao, an actor, sent Weibo to bid farewell to running men three days after his 40th birthday. He changed his previous teasing nature and seriously said that every farewell in the world is not a person or an event, but a time that will never return.

After recording the program for five years and six seasons, Deng Chao didn't feel sad because he left, but he knew more clearly that this was a stage in his life, and he would accept the farewell after that and welcome the next milestone in his life.

Min Jie, 42, suddenly realized that he had to face death alone after experiencing the grief of his parents' death. She was so anxious that she didn't consider tea and rice. She doesn't understand why life is so cruel.

Because she often can't sleep in the middle of the night, she finds something for herself to do, run, read books and meet friends, just to enrich her time and keep her from thinking.

However, the busier she is, the more confused she is. She doesn't understand that what she needs is not being busy, but accepting herself now, accepting the reality of middle age and accepting every separation.

After her son went to live in high school, Min Jie realized that the child was growing up and she was getting old. This is a middle age that everyone will face. Whether she accepts it or not, she can't stop this day.

At that moment, Minjie was suddenly enlightened. She said that she didn't expect people to experience a crisis in middle age. Parents will leave one day, and children will grow up eventually. Accepting it frankly is the real acceptance of yourself.

San Mao said in Simplicity that human beings are often young and mature, and young people are confused. Middle-aged people like to compare others' achievements with themselves, so they feel frustrated and finally live as a silly child who has not grown up.

Don't be arrogant, don't be sad, don't be happy, don't compare with others, and do what you should do. This is the consciousness that middle-aged people should have. This kind of middle-aged person is a stable middle-aged person.

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Time never mistreats those who work hard.

Someone in Zhihu asked: What kind of experience is it when people reach middle age? He asked whether 30 years old is middle-aged. I feel so old, but more than 400 answers really tell the answer, what it is like to be in middle age.

Some people are proud of their happy marriage, while others complain that they are tired from work. Every real middle-aged person is busy living and working hard to make every day full.

Just like this sentence in an answer: when people reach middle age, I think the direction of life is clearer than ever, whether passive or active.

After experiencing youth and ignorance, every middle-aged person finally found the direction of life efforts in middle age and understood the true meaning of efforts.

It is a sweet burden to be old and young in the world. Working hard in the workplace is responsible for life. No matter what kind of life you are in, hard work will be your middle-aged label.

Zeng Guofan, an important official in the late Qing Dynasty, once said that young people can't be prosperous, middle-aged people can't be idle, and old people can't be rebellious.

Middle age is the most important stage in life, and it is also the time to work hard. Watering life with hard sweat must be the most important thing for middle-aged people.

Only those who have worked hard will be more fearless, more open-minded and smarter about the future like Huang Lei.

Whether you are a young man full of vigor and vitality, a confused and struggling youth, or a middle-aged man standing at a crossroads, please do your best in live high.

Because only if you work hard, you will know how to cherish the present and accept every fluctuation in your life more calmly, regardless of sadness, happiness, reunion and death.