The cause of the incident was that she took off her wedding ring in her publicity photo and Diao Lei in Weibo. An insider broke the news that the two had separated, saying that during the Chinese New Year, Diao Lei went to a strange apartment alone after socializing and didn't go home. This series of operations once again aroused public speculation.
Although there is no positive response from the parties concerned, the "hidden rule" of the entertainment circle has always been that all rumors can be traced.
This article does not discuss whether the rumor is true, but analyzes why some women get married and remarry, and each marriage is unhappy.
Another actress Crystal's marriage history is very similar to that of He Jie. After two marriages, she was unhappy and divorced again.
It is not so much that unhappy marriages are always similar, but that happy marriages have their own happiness. It's better to say that people who are unhappy in marriage are all similar people.
Let's analyze the similarities between He Jie's second marriage and Crystal's misfortune again:
He Jie just broke up with Hao at that time, and soon married Hao. When the divorce case with Hao was not entangled, he married Hao again, during which he was also suspected to be a mistress.
Crystal followed almost the same trajectory. He talked with Yang Yi, the boss of a real estate company, for five years. When preparing to get married, the man was exposed to derailment and chose to break up. Kaijiang and I met for 4 1 day, then we got married in a flash and left after half a year. It didn't take long to start the second marriage with Huang Yiqing, but failed to maintain the extension and ended in divorce.
The second marriage of two people is a bit "child marriage". Crystal's second marriage is said to be because she had children.
He Jie and her ex-husband already have two children, and it is a very dangerous caesarean section. Later, she chose to get married in a hurry, because she was pregnant with Diao Lei again. Although she had raised two children, she chose to give birth to a third child.
The reason is actually "respect for life", not to mention ignoring one's own life safety. Just raising three children is enough to exhaust the energy of a rebuilt small family.
When two people divorced their ex, they didn't get along well.
Crystal divorced her second husband, Huang Yiqing, and there was a lot of noise at that time. Crystal denounced the other party's domestic violence, and the other party exposed scandals such as her infidelity and abuse of her daughter. The two also fought for the custody of their daughter, which made people stunned.
When He Jie divorced her ex-husband Hao, it didn't end well. He Jie went to the show crying that Hao ignored his family and was a widowed child-rearing. For an instant, public opinion was one-sided. When Diao Lei's ex-wife exposed a recording and suspected that He Jie was involved in someone else's marriage, public opinion quickly reversed. Hao jumped out and seized the opportunity of the rebound, accusing He Jie of cheating in marriage, and the two fell into a lasting divorce dispute.
From a sociological point of view, a person's class level and structure determine the people he contacts, that is, what kind of people you will meet.
It can be seen that it is not accidental, but inevitable. If you don't change yourself, the next encounter may not be a good match.
Originally, divorce was not terrible, and second marriage divorce was not terrible. The terrible thing is not to learn the lessons repeatedly and repeat the same mistakes.
There are many married and remarried actresses in the entertainment circle. And Alyssa Chia, who shocked everyone because of the divorce lawsuit of the first marriage, finally married love after the second marriage; After the second marriage, the second child will still not feed, and will be spoiled as Mei Ting who will not take care of herself; Wang Haiyan, after her second marriage at the age of 50, is still the princess of Zhang Jiayi. ...
This shows that the happiness of marriage lies not in whether you have been married twice or several times, but in who you choose and what kind of person you are.
Only by mastering the following points will your second marriage be happy.
Seriously sum up the reasons from the last failed marriage. Is it a problem of one person, itself or two people? If it is your own problem, then reflect on it and improve it. If the other person's personality is badly hurt, or they don't get along, then polish the eyes of the candidate again.
After coming out of the last painful marriage, Alyssa Chia chose Jiekaixiu, a crazy pet wife who is 9 years younger than her. What she values is not the "hard core strength" such as money, status and career, but the "soft core strength" such as filial piety, affection and mature thinking.
To outsiders, a letter of introduction is a perfect husband, but Alyssa Chia reveals the mystery of a happy marriage. She said, "there is no perfect partner, only the other half who can communicate and tolerate;" There is no perfect combination, only the most complementary life mentor. "
Jie Kaixiu also loves face, just because she loves her and knows how to converge; It's not that I don't have a temper, but because I taught my son in the earthquake year.
Because I have experienced a failed marriage, I know what I need better. The perfect partner is always just a "scam". We should learn to be observant and distinguish who is the one who can run in with ourselves and finally look at each other.
It is human nature to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. When we are immersed in the pain of a relationship, it is easy to be moved by the warmth of another person, and we very much hope to find a cure as soon as possible.
However, it is almost a failure to try to use the next relationship to heal the wounds of the previous one, because we need the right person who has passed the test of running-in for a period of time, not the one who just appeared at this time node.
The person who appears at this time node can easily give us an illusion that he is the savior who took us out of the swamp of pain at this time.
There is a "drawbridge effect" in psychology: when a person walks through the drawbridge in fear and looks up and finds a heterosexual, it is easy to have feelings for the opposite sex. The heart beats faster because of the fear on the suspension bridge, which can be mistaken for the reaction of seeing the destiny takes a hand.
The state of lovelorn divorce is a bit like walking on a suspension bridge, both in extreme fear and despair. This effect tells us that sometimes the heart is not necessarily true love, and it is probably just an illusion.
So, after ending a relationship, don't rush into the next one. You should give yourself a repair buffer period and wait until the right person appears.
We must be cautious about marriage. This marriage must not be to heal the wounds of the previous marriage.
Marriage is inseparable from the bond of children. When getting married, I hope not to get married because I have children; In marriage, don't have children against your will in order to tie each other down; When divorcing, don't make do for the sake of children.
Children must be the crystallization of two people's sustained and stable feelings and thoughtfulness. Children must be born out of love for each other, and have the ability to give them responsible love to grow up, rather than "binding" the reasons or even tools for two people to get married.
In the story of hot mom, a strong woman, Miss Deng, said a classic sentence, "As a woman, I have been married seven times, but I don't even have the courage to have children", which shows that marriage is reversible and having children is irreversible.
Never repeat the sadness of China women: "Divorce while having a second or even a third child against your will".
Even if a woman is divorced, she should be self-respecting, self-loving and self-reliant. Never think that divorce is "second-hand" and inferior.
In real life, many women feel inferior after divorce, so much so that they feel inferior, feel that divorce is a shame and stain of life, and are ashamed to say it.
I don't know that with the progress and enlightenment of society at any time, divorce is just a state, and marriage is just a lifestyle choice, that's all.
It was because we were hurt in our last marriage that we chose to divorce. Then after divorce, we should love ourselves and accept ourselves. "People who love themselves will always love themselves." .
After four marriages, Liu Xiaoqing, who is still married to a rich family at the age of 60, is over 50, has been married twice and has given birth to two children, but Faye Wong, who is still reunited with Nicholas Tse, a middle-aged male god younger than himself 10 years old, Yang Mi, who has had a more wonderful life after divorce, and Yuqi Zhang, who still believes in love after two failed marriages, dare to love and hate, and is even more frustrated and brave. His difficult life needs no explanation. ...
They explained very well that after a divorce, a woman loves herself more and follows her heart, and one day, she will have her own true love.
After the divorce, we should re-polish people's eyes and be cautious about the second marriage and children. No matter what state, love yourself, such a woman, whether unmarried or married, will usher in a happy spring.
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