The reason why the feelings of "brother-sister love" are stronger than ordinary feelings is not only the physiological advantages, but also the unique psychological factors between brother-sister love.
First, people who fall in love with brothers and sisters should have the courage to fight against tradition and break old habits. The happiness gained by resisting the pressure of traditional customs is the happiest and the most cherished. It's often said that all shall be well, jack shall have Jill, that's why.
Second, the emergence of brother-sister love is because both men and women are attracted by each other's unique charm, which is not available to lovers of traditional age. Most men with sister-in-law relationships are psychologically mature, and their views on girls are not as good as their peers. Such feelings are only available to mature women and cannot be replaced by other little girls. Women can find the same mature temperament as adult men in boys, and the pure love and passion of boys are more likely to attract women's love, which is irreplaceable by peers. These irreplaceable characteristics make their feelings more stable.
Third, the love between brothers and sisters often shows the confidence of women and the maturity of men. A confident woman and a mature man (men's maturity is not defined by age) often behave very clearly. They don't joke about serious topics, and they don't joke about life events.
The benefits of brotherly love
Benefit 1: Brother and sister love to make money.
Housekeeping and financial management are often not achieved overnight, so it takes a lot of time, time and money to train young girls, and it happens that young sister-like wives already have this attribute and trait to fill it.
For women: men are born with the habit of spending money lavishly and will be satisfied as shopkeepers.
Benefit 2: Brothers and sisters love to work hard and complain.
For men: now the big sisters have experienced a long period of social destruction, and their hearts are no longer as melodramatic as little girls. Generally, the big sister who pulls the hook can't. In life, when you are together, some housework will be orderly, and everything will be orderly and comfortable.
For women: it doesn't matter how much housework you do. I earn money to support my family, and you are in charge of beauty. As for housework, it doesn't matter how much you do. As long as you feel comfortable, doing housework is also a kind of enjoyment and you can lose weight.
Benefit 3: Sister-in-law loves humility.
For men: Most young women have a little princess's heart. Everyone here should know the little princess's mind. ) They like to play with their temper. Yes, you are right. You are always angry and even run away from home. But a woman older than you can't make proper use of her silence and know how to take a step back and broaden the horizon, which makes you much more relaxed.
For a woman-you have patience, then what reason does he not understand? A little injustice, in exchange for his unswerving dedication to you, why not?
Benefit 4: Brotherhood Association will take care of people.
For men: to a certain extent, men will be naive, naughty and coquettish, and excessive love and care for women can definitely be obtained from my sister.
To a woman: he is uncomfortable wearing other people's clothes, and other people's cooking is not delicious. He can't live without you! So, what are you worried about?
Benefit 5: Brothers and sisters are practical.
For men-for some young women who have just come into contact with the society, most of them like to go to bars and sing K and so on, but your sister has long been tired of playing. Such a life, tired of going to nightclubs every day, lying comfortably at home, quietly waiting for the arrival of the years, so it is reassuring for women older than you to put them anywhere.
Benefit 6: Brother and sister will live together.
Men are under great pressure-modern men, they provide houses, cars and wives. Sisters know how to live the best life with the least money.
For a woman-I manage most of her money and power, and your living standard has greatly improved. Besides, without you, he doesn't even know the bank password. Aren't you happy?
Benefit 7: Brother and sister have a sense of crisis.
There is no advantage for men and women older than you. They always have a sense of crisis, and they will constantly enrich and improve themselves and participate in family building to the maximum extent.
For a woman-when she encounters a problem, your experience and knowledge will show her talent. He met with multiple-choice questions, and your wise advice made him suddenly enlightened. You are his wife!
Benefit 8: Brother and sister have a sense of responsibility.
For men and women older than you, long-term traditional education, more responsibility for family, husband and children, your life will be better.
For women, it is much better for two people to solve problems together than for two people to pass the buck to each other!
The disadvantages of sibling love
On brother-sister relationship
As the saying goes, sibling love seems to be a popular way of love at present. Both men and women are putting the ideal that age is not a problem and height is not a distance into practice with modern eyes, which also makes the reliability of brother-sister love more and more recognized. But is brother-sister love really reliable? Although brother-sister relationship has many advantages, we should also face up to the actual disadvantages of brother-sister relationship in order to do what we can.
The generation gap is too big to be bridged.
The age gap between men and women is too big, which is probably due to the differences in values, world outlook and outlook on life, and the greater the difference with the increase of age gap. The survey shows that in marriage and family, when men are seven years older than their female partners, their satisfaction is the lowest. Therefore, this profound difference in thinking may lead to the generation gap between brother and sister is too large, and will eventually separate. Imagine that when you reach a certain age, you are passionate and lifeless. Can such happiness be reliable?
When the man is under great financial pressure, the woman will be more anxious.
If you don't consider the disadvantages, you can only taste the bitter fruit, so the practical problems need to be thought deeply by both sides. When both brothers and sisters need to face marriage, they will encounter problems such as unsuccessful career and poor financial resources. Because the woman is older than the man, she is more anxious and insecure psychologically, which is one of the reasons why the relationship between brother and sister is unreliable.
Physiological differences
Physiologically speaking, women are more likely to get old than men. Basically, after the age of 30, the skin began to decline obviously. As the saying goes, "A woman is forty rotten tea dregs, and Rhapsody in July is a flower". The relationship between brother and sister may be matched at first, but once the gap widens, the relationship often appears inadequate.
Psychological age difference between men and women
Women are born 2~3 years earlier than men, which is also the reason why women are younger than men in the legal age of the country. Physiological age and psychological age often complement each other. The relationship between brothers and sisters is that the woman is older than the man, which also shows that the gap between psychological ages will widen. A woman must want to find a man to take care of herself all her life, but if she faces a younger brother and boyfriend with an immature psychological age, it is likely to violate the original intention of a woman to enter marriage, and of course it will greatly reduce the degree of unreliability.
Pressure from friends and family.
Although sister-in-law love is a new fashion, relatives and friends will inevitably look at their love affair with suspicion, which will inevitably add various question marks to your sister-in-law love affair. Moreover, my parents are conservative, and they probably can't accept this rebellious feeling. If the man can't stick to his feelings, then as a woman, he can only be covered in injuries. At this time, it was really a chicken flying eggs.
Tips: Although the relationship between brother and sister has disadvantages, it also depends on the firmness of their love. I believe that love can overcome all obstacles. Similarly, in the marriage and family survey, respondents who are 3 or 4 years younger than their wives also reached the peak of their satisfaction with their partners, which really gave their siblings greater confidence.