But what is the truth?
The fact is that most people who place their hopes entirely on willpower end in failure.
For example, some people say that if you recite words every day, you will be confused by the list of words in a few days, and finally dislike is the most familiar kind.
Some people have vowed to quit Taobao, but they still buy buy online every day and pretend to chop their hands after buying it.
Some people have vowed to quit online games, but as a result, they are getting addicted to Internet cafes every day.
There are really many such examples around us. After all, everyone is mortal and has mediocre desires. We can find that it is too difficult to succeed simply by willpower.
People's desires determine their limitations, and people's pursuit of the present determines that it is difficult for people to persevere in their long-term goals. What should we do?
I used to be an Internet addiction teenager.
To what extent is Internet addiction? Internet cafes often stay up all night, sit in front of the computer all day without eating or drinking, and get up at 3 am every day to play games, rain or shine.
My family hid the power cord to stop me. I can turn my house upside down in order to find this power cord.
At that time, I was basically a game madman, but fortunately I am back to normal now. I tried desperately to quit the game addiction by willpower, but in the end I failed.
It was not until I rethought willpower that I found myself cheated by the word willpower for many years. In fact, willpower can not be achieved by subjective exertion, but needs the assistance of many conditions.
If you don't think you are a strong-willed person, please believe what I say next:
The so-called willpower is a scam. What really makes you have strong willpower is the conditions you create for yourself and the appropriate methods.
I really don't blame you for your weak willpower. You just haven't found the right way.
Before you begin, please reconfirm your long-term goals. After confirmation, please remember the following six words:
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Set up a logo and use it to find yourself when you are confused.
One of my classmates took the judicial examination in his senior year. There are nine characters hanging on the wall of the dormitory:
? "I his mama must pass the exam! ? "
It's a bit rude, but his truth is right: remind yourself with obvious signs every day and repeat it in your mind.
Many people tend to be excited in the early stage, weak in the middle stage, and begin to lose themselves in the later stage.
What is losing yourself? Is to lose the goal. Once lost, it's hard to get it back.
We must admit one thing, there are too many temptations on the way to our goal. You are reviewing in the dormitory and your classmates are playing outside. You study in the dormitory, and your roommate and lover go out to see a movie.
This influence will shake you. The meaning of logo is to remind you who made that decision and force yourself to work hard. This sign will tell you what you want to be in the future.
The second you see the sign, you will probably re-enter your study because of a short sense of shame, and you will unconsciously stop living.
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Willpower is lossy, use it reasonably!
I always thought that the greatness of the book "Self-control" was that it put forward? "The theory of loss of willpower?" .
You have to understand one thing! People's willpower is also lossy. Do the most important thing when you are not damaged, and do the second important thing when you are damaged.
There are many factors that consume willpower, and one of them is the most critical: the energy curve.
Everyone has the strongest energy and willpower when he gets up early. From morning till night, it gradually weakens. So we must learn to complete the core tasks in prime time!
I used to be stupid enough to spend the most precious time in the morning watching movies. After watching the movie, the energetic time has passed and nothing else can be done. Watching movies, which is low energy consumption, please put it in the afternoon or evening. Thank you.
In addition, the nutrition of one's own body is also crucial to the loss of willpower. Ensure adequate sleep, healthy diet and proper exercise every day. People with poor health (kidney deficiency) can hardly achieve much.
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Your willpower needs recharging!
What? Should electricity be charged? Okay, I know you look stupid.
In fact, you should guide yourself with positive language and body movements, and you will be happier.
Japanese writer Fumio Sato has a book called "The life you say is your life". The central idea of this book is that saying more positive words to yourself every day will help you do things better.
? "Okay, there must be a way to solve the problem today. ? "
? "Ah, bad luck is dead, there is no way. ? "
As soon as these two sentences come out, you can roughly judge who is more likely to succeed. Positive action is also applicable. Give yourself a hug and always smile ... When your willpower is weak, you might as well encourage yourself with words and actions.
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Create a favorable environment and avoid harmful factors.
All tempting factors are harmful factors. Throw them out of your sight and you won't make any more mistakes.
If you want to get clean? Please go to the drug rehabilitation center. Want to quit online games? Dismantle the game, dismantle the computer, and stop the membership card of the Internet cafe.
Just like all students in military training at school, their willpower is much stronger than usual. Because there is no mobile phone, no IPAD, no entertainment, you can only drink water at most. Only by eliminating all interference can willpower be enhanced.
You should learn to create a favorable environment for yourself and avoid factors that affect your goals.
Many people plan to stay at home and study on Friday and weekend, but is it possible? Too few people teach themselves at home, because home is a place full of temptations. You can lie in bed when you are tired, watch TV when you are bored, and look at the refrigerator when you are hungry.
The cost of making mistakes is too low, which is why people keep making mistakes. Eliminating those temptation factors is also a way to increase the cost of making mistakes and make yourself discouraged automatically in the face of temptation.
For example, if you go to study in the study room, it will definitely be much more efficient than at home. Because there is no bed, TV and refrigerator, there is only one desk in front of you for you to study.
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Stress and fatigue are the enemies of willpower, learn to decompress.
After reading and reviewing for an afternoon, you can go out to listen to music and run.
This has two purposes. One is to relax the brain and work with different parts of the brain. The other is to resist negative emotions and resolve anxiety.
? "Exercise is a natural brain pill. ? "
I didn't say that, but John Reddy, the author of Exercise to Transform the Brain. The research results of Harvard Medical School for more than 20 years have confirmed this point.
Sedentary people will have fewer brain cells and become depressed and anxious.
But as long as you exercise, the number of brain cells will increase, which can help you avoid negative centers, open new circuits and see the sun again.
Everyone is anxious sometimes. At that time, people had no willpower. Why not find a way to decompress, relax and come back? You are a hero again.
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What should I do if I really can't persist?
I know you must be thinking about it. For example, your long-term goal is to lose weight, but when you pass by a chicken chops shop, you will definitely want to eat chicken chops. What should I do then?
I suggest you give yourself five minutes to hesitate before making a decision.
Without thinking about it? "I must endure! Hold back! Oh, my God! I can't help it! ? "That would have the opposite effect.
You should recall your goal again and repeat what you want to do in your mind. To put it bluntly, this is switching your thinking mode.
? "I want a healthy body, I want a fit figure! ? "The thought of this floor makes you less eager to eat chicken chops.
If you want to eat chicken chops in five minutes ... well, you can eat them, but don't feel guilty. At least you bought yourself five minutes.
Guilt after breaking the precepts will make you gradually reduce doing such things? "Breaking the precepts?" Things. In addition, accepting your mistakes and being honest with each other is more important than anything else. Do you like this article? Share it if you like! Show it to more people!