On the one hand, I was basically absent from school for two weeks (high-energy carnival week+exam interval week), on the other hand, I obviously felt that the second month was very rewarding.
According to the coach's thinking habit, it must be a "conflict" at first sight, haha. What the hell is going on here? Thanks to "Qiu"' s teaching resume, it helped me to sort out and dig out the following contents ~ (far beyond my own understanding of the resume content)
Even if I "miss class" for two weeks, it will not affect my silent absorption and nostalgia for coaching skills.
I remember two weeks after I was busy finishing my homework and going on a business trip, when I asked my friend to do exercises again, I blurted out, "I haven't practiced coaching for a long time, and I panicked."
She said that my realm is really ok, haha.
Especially in these two days, two temporary opportunities made me give a coach reply to Mingming and Tuange. They all think my questions, feedback and praise are very appropriate and useful.
For example, Xiao Ming said that she and I have finished the coaching resumption. She thought she got only scattered points, but she didn't expect to help her get the structure of the complex text in the end. My praise and feedback also made her very popular and encouraged.
PS: In retrospect, how I did it was probably: "I have a frame in my heart+a kind of relaxation":)
Coach's skills are so compound! In addition to the learning gains of coaching skills, the process will inevitably bring growth to your heart.
As for me, since I was a child, I was easily anxious, uneasy and responsible. Have been afraid to rest and entertain.
A few years ago, I realized that I needed to slow down and give myself some relaxation. This part is also included in the annual targets of 20 19 and 2020.
However, it was not until I experienced two months of coaching skills learning that I really began to break the inner obstacles, gradually became unhurried, and felt firm (not guilty, flustered, unbearable, etc.). ).
That's when I'm going on a business trip for two weeks and I'm sure I'll miss class. I found myself in no extra hurry, just trying to arrange the carnival contact and exam time that I have to attend (I need to make an appointment with others), and then concentrate on my work for the time being.
? This "degree of doing my best" and "state of peace of mind and no hurry" is a particularly big change for me.
Here I must also talk about the key moment in my transformation process:
It was Monday, the first day I resumed classes after work. At that time, the work was not completely completed. I'm a little worried to see the coach's technical study and practice rolling in.
In the afternoon, I casually said in a small group: "I haven't got the support of my friend's coach in the last two weeks, and I haven't had time to catch my breath after a busy business trip." I've been blocked badly by myself recently. " .。 Why not solve the problem this week? Why is this an achievement event? Alas. . 。"
If floret doesn't agree, give me a temporary coach. It's a super gift package that fell from the sky!
Even more amazing and surprising is:
I thought about this thorny problem (even, I didn't want to find someone to be a coach at that time, and I always felt that there was no hope to save me). I didn't expect a qualitative change in six or seven hours after two counseling sessions!
? Floret met me before and after these two coaches, and she said it changed a lot!
I also clearly feel my heart, pattern, energy and so on. It's all very different-I'm no longer fidgeting and crawling around like an ant, but I have a sense of stability where my soul is, which is particularly real and obvious, so that I can be sure that I have gradually rested ~ ~?
If you can accept yourself for a long time and don't worry, you will be patient, confident and sustainable. There is also a very important "mind".
PS: Thank you very much for your help at the critical moment! Also thanks to the slow second fire!
In fact, when I was with coach Hua Jie at the scene, I obviously had a feeling of accepting the status quo.
Although I never knew what acceptance was, when I was in the process of coaching, I suddenly realized the feeling of "everything is ok" and when my body and mind were integrated, I was sure that it was "acceptance".
At present, I have stepped on the brake to slow myself down, but it will take some time to deal with the original inertia. In this case, I accepted myself again and waited patiently for myself to complete this process for a longer period of time.
? 1 level-I just know that sharpening the knife does not miss the woodcutter, but I just can't do it;
? The second level-in my first month as a coach, I used a metaphor to describe my findings: "I am driving, I know the importance of daily maintenance of my car, but I didn't set aside time for maintenance." It turns out that I still want my car to move at the original speed. "
? The third level-the second month, I really realized the unnecessary persistence of short-term goals. Far from being tired, nearsighted or in a hurry. It is very likely that I will be more clear about myself and want to see the scenery and resources around me, and have more opportunities to interact with the outside world or take advantage of it. In other words, when taking a rest or maintaining a car, it is very likely that there will be an accident, even exceeding the chance of overtaking in a corner. Reminds me of Mr. Ye, an efficient teacher. He said that many major breakthroughs in his life were brought by a casual start or an accidental opportunity in a relaxed state.
? Band four-writing here, I suddenly realized that maybe this is one of the ways to jump in life! When you relax, when you leave blank, the picture of life will unfold in the direction you want, beyond your plan.
As I said when I came back myself (also written down by the coach? ): "our plan is far less than the plan of heaven; Our imagination lags far behind the arrangement of fate. "
? Therefore, it is far from the problem of sharpening the knife and cutting the wood by mistake, or even the problem of switching between short-term and long-term perspectives, but:
-This is really a very powerful wisdom. I also want to give myself a serious compliment?
Maybe you will be curious, why have I changed like this in the past two months? Haven't these truths been known for a long time? Even I keep reminding myself.
At this time, it is necessary to talk about the magical role of coaching skills (magic is more than this time ~).
In my opinion, the greatness of a coach is that it can make people feel immersive through imagination or experience, so they can really believe in its existence and occurrence. ? It is in this state that real changes and actions will be triggered.
What I said before is my own example.
An impressive conversation with friends recently also verified this situation:
It can be said that coaching skills have many benefits in life, and the most common one is self-cultivation:
Anyway, I just want to say: life has the ability of coaching, which is amazing and wonderful. The whole future is different, which is particularly curious? .