I searched a lot of related questions, and came to the conclusion that people generally bought health care products, seasonal warmth products, 3C products for their parents, and electrical appliances that need to be supplemented or updated at home.
Improving their quality of life through some small things is also something that really helps their parents' lives.
We have no objection to material supplement. Trying to make money is not only to make yourself better, but also to make people who care more happy.
But in fact, what the elderly lack more is spiritual food.
We can start from two aspects: companionship and vitality for the elderly. It is undoubtedly a good thing to go home often. If you can't go home, you can also create invisible companionship. At a certain age, the old people are faced with the same problem: to spend their old age healthily and with dignity, they must convey the correct lifestyle and health preservation concept to the old people.
Children's photos, family travel photos
You can send your photos, family photos and family travel photos to your parents regularly, or you can make them into photo frames. This kind of physical experience may be more in line with your parents' wishes.
Letters/phone calls at least once a week
Letters are the most traditional way of expression. Parents should also be encouraged to write back. When writing, it can stimulate the motor center of the frontal lobe and exercise their thinking and logical ability.
Old people's memories will stay in the past, and they will talk about old things repeatedly, which will easily lead to brain rigidity. They will often call them and constantly stimulate their parents' brains with new topics.
Painting supplies
When the elderly draw, their brains, eyes and hands are all at the same time, which helps to prevent Alzheimer's disease. In addition, color stimulation will also enhance brain activity.
Vitality pension/occupational pension
According to some surveys, nearly half of the elderly have never thought about occupational pension, while the other part basically only focuses on medical insurance and pension. How to establish a correct sense and concept of providing for the aged is particularly important for the elderly.
In today's material wealth, high-quality old-age life is the best gift for parents.
In fact, over the years, there have been many old-age properties in Kunming, but some of them are just in the name of old-age care and do not reflect the connotation of old-age care. The general facilities of nursing homes are relatively simple, and the comprehensive strength of software and hardware has not really taken into account the needs of the elderly for entertainment, socialization and study.
Usually, we spend little time with our parents. When they are old, can we let them spend their old age peacefully, let them go to places with professional intentions, let them make friends, have regular physical examinations, and professional medical care can take care of the changes brought about by their aging at any time?
I believe that everyone in Kunming has a dream to live in a lake near Dianchi Lake, where there is the best natural environment. The old man talks about the moon as comfortable. On the south bank of Dianchi Lake, there is a colorful ancient city of Yunnan, nearly 4,000 acres of Dianchi Lake International Health and Pension Resort. I hope my parents live there if conditions permit.
What is suitable for the elderly must be superior natural conditions and pleasant environment. "Healthy and energetic home-based care for the aged" is a very advanced concept at present. In the famous ancient city of Yunnan, parents can participate in community activities, entertainment courses and fitness exercises. The elderly will no longer be lonely, keep the vitality of learning forever, and return to 20 years old with their old partners.
There are also health consultation and maintenance, 24-hour butler service, which need the perfect combination of business and diet to create a happy and comfortable life for parents in their later years.
Don't let parents work hard any more, and really help them solve their urgent needs and fun in life.
When it comes to buying things for my family, I have a deep understanding-the habit of giving gifts to my parents as early as possible in advance, because I will soon understand that "complaining about lack of money" and "being poor" are more of a public joke and are used for psychological relaxation. Parents don't necessarily expect you to make a fortune and lead them to take off, but they definitely don't want you to be in an unsatisfied state of "claiming to have less money and claiming to be poor".
Really, this society has economic requirements for everyone. There may be many people who don't pursue "more money", but there should be no parents who like "less money". If any child really laments that his income is low and poor in front of his parents, I think this family can't be happy. Of course, on the other hand, if any parents really think that their children's income is too low and worry about their children's poor living standards, they will not be so happy. )
What is the gift,
Gifts should have two levels. The first level is because you are "satisfied", you have the margin of caring for others and the vision of satisfying others. The second layer is to show your understanding and intention of the gift.
In front of family, the difficulty is never money. You try your best to buy. Parents feel relaxed when it is cheap, and happier when it is expensive.
What is difficult is long-term preparation.
As we all know, filial piety comes first, and the most beautiful thing in the world is: I grow up, but you are not old; I have the ability to repay you, and you are still healthy. "Just as all parents don't want to miss their children's growth, we shouldn't miss their aging." Love is not just talk.
I hope each of our children can try their best to stay with their parents. Love is not just talk. How can we pretend not to see their love for us?
When I can't take care of myself, I will go to a nursing home as a last resort.
Every old man's situation is different, and the way to choose old-age care is different. Generally speaking, there are the following types:
1 Home-based care for the elderly: When you are old, your house is very big, and your children and grandchildren live together. Your parents' home will always be your children's home. Children and grandchildren are surrounded by their knees, and their families are happy, and their blood ties protect each other. After you are disabled, you can have a caregiver to take care of you, and your children will be considerate and observe after work, and finally die with a smile. This is an ideal paradise for all the elderly. I wonder how many people can have this blessing. I think it may not be the majority.
2 or home-based care for the elderly, unlike 1, where the elderly live alone but have children in the same city. If something happens, a phone call will come soon. The children have you in their hearts, no problem. They take care of your old age. They are not afraid of being abused. Envy you.
3 old, no children around, they are far away from home and abroad, you are not short of money (living money, not big money) but lack of people, which is the status quo of many people. It is no problem to take care of yourself. The old couple live alone. Everything that can be solved online is bought online, and it is not a big problem to go to the hospital to spend money to find someone to accompany you. But this is not the best policy. You'd better find your children (people around 50 now) as soon as possible. If they ask you for help when giving birth, it's an opportunity. You must not push from pillar to post. You should go at once, go at once, go happily, talk less, work honestly, look at your face, do your best, and do everything according to their requirements to ensure their happiness (people don't need you, don't make a move). Get the children's affirmation, and when you are old, you will listen to their arrangements! At home or in a nursing home.
If you don't have the opportunity to see your children for various reasons and you can't take care of yourself, only the nursing home is you, me and the last stop of many similar old people's lives. You don't have to think too much. This is the inevitable way out. People live to a certain age, fall down and leave in a few days. Even with children, I don't have time to accompany you. How long can they stay with you? They have jobs and your grandchildren. Do you want the whole family not to live for you? At home, going to a nursing home, someone is in charge, no one is in charge, and it is not very important to manage it well. And now the nursing home is constantly improving and upgrading.
It is important to pay attention to your health and happy life now, extend the years of self-care and live happily every day.
The traditional way of providing for the aged in our country is to live with married children, and choose family pension, solitary pension or social pension.
At present, China also attaches great importance to the improvement and establishment of the social pension security system, and the way of providing for the aged will gradually develop in the direction of "social pension as the mainstay, family pension as the supplement, and self-pension".
In my environment, many people's ideas and concepts of providing for the aged are still stuck in the way of providing for the aged at home. Reluctant to leave home, I would rather die than go to a nursing home! This phenomenon also taught a warning lesson to me, a prospective old man.
I am an only child mother. By my side, many families usually have only one child.
When children grow up, get married and have their own families, young couples now have to face fierce competition in society and the workplace, take care of their parents and raise young children. If such an old man stubbornly chooses to support the elderly at home, it will only add trouble to his children.
Smart old people, considering their children's families and their own affordability, should not be a burden to their children when they are old, and voluntarily go to nursing homes for the elderly. This is a wise and happy choice.
Birth, aging, illness and death are the natural laws of a person's life journey from the beginning to the end, and we must accept and face them frankly.
If one day I am really old, I will go to a nursing home and give myself a relaxed and happy living environment for the sake of my children.
Thank you for inviting me. Must go. When I am old, the nursing home is the best destination in my life, and it is a post station for me to take care of myself and meet my death. There are several reasons why I choose to eventually belong to the nursing home: First, I often go to a medium-sized apartment for the aged near my home, with acceptable conditions and moderate prices. Professionals are responsible for daily life, especially all-weather medical care, so that the elderly, the sick and the disabled feel more secure. With the progress of the times, when I get old, the facilities will be more perfect and the management will be more humanized.
Secondly, no matter how filial my children are in the future, I don't want to disturb their lives. When people reach middle age, family and work are the burdens of life. No one can unload them and no one can escape. Only I can quit their world and lighten their burden. It is my last dedication to my children, my last care, my peace of mind, and my home everywhere.
When you are young, work hard and enjoy life seriously. When you are old, you can move easily, eat well and have a good time. When I am old, I will take my pension to a nursing home for the elderly. Because you don't ask for perfection, the lower your goal in life, the easier it is to be happy. Just a little humble opinion.
As far as the problem is concerned, my parents, including my wife's parents, will not be sent to a nursing home even if it is difficult! The difference between ordinary people's sanatoriums and senior leading cadres' sanatoriums is not general!
Yes, the nursing home, as the question asks, is terrible!
From the perspective of parents, 60% of the elderly who agreed to go felt that their children had no time to take care of themselves, and 30% were actually afraid of causing trouble to their children. You can imagine the ambivalence of the old man. On the one hand, they don't want to leave home. On the other hand, they don't want to disturb their children. The old man has worked hard for his children all his life.