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When the leader pretends to care about you, how to answer is more appropriate?

Ding's Ordinary World

2020. 10.28 20: 13

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Xiaoxiao is my cousin. She just graduated from college last year and joined a private enterprise to do finance after graduation.

Although she is satisfied with the content of this job, Xiaoxiao doesn't like her leadership that much.

Why does she feel this way?

Xiaoxiao told me that her leader is a snobbish middle-aged woman, who is more protective of those employees who please her or have backgrounds in the department, but she doesn't care so much about new employees like Xiaoxiao, although she is diligent and efficient.

The end of the recent year is approaching, and the task of the department is heavy. The leader put a lot of work on Xiaoxiao, so the little girl worked overtime every day and got off work very late.

It may also be that Xiaoxiao pays more and gets less positive feedback. Recently, leaders often deliberately run to her desk to say hello to her.

For example, "Xiaoxiao, you have been working hard recently. Pay attention to work and rest! "

Although the words are nice, it is obvious that this attitude is hypocritical. The leader just wants Xiaoxiao to work more.

Facing the pretended concern of the leader, Xiaoxiao didn't know how to answer. So, she wants my advice.

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First of all, thank the leaders for their concern.

Some people may think that leaders pretend to care so much and don't need enthusiastic response.

Of course, from the heart, it is not surprising to feel this way. After all, you have seen through the intention of the leader.

But in any case, leadership is still leadership. As long as you are in this team for one day, you need to be under the management of the leader.

So if you don't give the leader a positive response, the other party will immediately have negative emotions.

Smart employees will not confide their true thoughts to their leaders, which will only destroy their relationship and make their future situation worse.

Nowadays, there are many post-95 newcomers in the workplace with obvious personality characteristics. They don't like the post-80 s and post-70 s leaders and think they are hypocritical and pretentious.

But newcomers need to understand a truth: the workplace and life are completely different. Please don't expect leaders to treat you as sincerely as brothers or friends.

The so-called professionalism is to be able to show high-quality people in various occasions in the workplace. Whether you pretend to care or really care, you should give some positive feedback to the leaders.

The most representative is the reply: "Thank you for your concern!"

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Second, thank the leaders for their concern and ask for resources by the way.

The leader cares about you, and you reply with words of thanks. This is just the most basic requirement that a person in the workplace should do.

And those employees with higher EQ will follow the leader's concern and ask the leader to give them more resources to help.

Take Xiaoxiao as an example. She didn't benefit much because of the pressure of work at ordinary times.

Then, when the leader "wants something from himself" and is very concerned about it, it is time to ask for it.

For example, I hope leaders can reduce their workload, or whether they can consider their performance in next year's salary increase and promotion opportunities.

Frankly speaking, leaders will care about you and must see the value in you. Either your work performance is particularly outstanding, or you need to rely on you to complete certain tasks in a special period.

The essence of any job is exchange relationship. When your exchange value is relatively high, I think you can ask the leader for some resources.

Let's learn more about what makes your exchange value high.

It is nothing more than two factors: first, resources, which Xiao Xiao obviously does not have; The second is ability, which is actually the core factor of a person's foothold in the workplace. Ability includes your physical strength, intelligence, skills, experience and so on.

Therefore, only when we fully realize our own advantages and values can we have the confidence to do it.

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Third, learn management art from leaders.

Leaders pretend to care about people, and some people will resist and reject such a situation; Others respond reluctantly and politely to such a situation; But there are still some people who don't feel negative about the behavior of leaders, but learn positive content from the style of leaders.

For example, the art of management, the adjustment of interpersonal strategies and so on.

Why do the third kind of people think so? That's because he has regarded himself as a future manager and even jumped out of the perspective of a third party to look at the behavior of leaders.

We can think about it. When you become a leader in the future, will you pretend to care about your employees? Especially for those employees who are capable but don't like it very much.

In this way, we have a two-way thinking, rather than simply criticizing leaders from the standpoint of employees.

From a psychological point of view, many behaviors in this world are not absolutely right or wrong. Today, we can criticize the hypocrisy of leaders, and perhaps it is another way of thinking to state this matter in the tone of leaders.

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