In ancient times, it was a patriarchal society, and men enjoyed absolute power in both society and family. As the pillar of the family, the authority of the father cannot be challenged. No matter what you say or do is right or wrong, children should not criticize or criticize.

There is a stipulation that "father is son" in the ancient "three cardinal guides and five permanent members". As a child, you must obey your father absolutely.

"Children don't talk about their father's mistakes. "Even if children know that their father's words and deeds are wrong, they should adopt an inclusive attitude. You can't argue with it, and you can't go to your house to preach.

The meaning of "women don't betray their mothers" is basically the same as that of "children don't criticize their fathers". The word "traitor" in the old saying means cunning, hypocrisy and treachery. The female here should refer to the daughter. Generally speaking, the daughter is the most intimate person of the mother, commonly known as the intimate "little cotton wool". Supposedly, based on mother-daughter affection, there should be nothing to say. However, under the shackles of feudal ethics, the daughter clearly knows that her mother is not a liar, but she can't say it.

"Children don't talk about their fathers, women don't talk about their mothers' rape" is the feudal rule that the ancients didn't commit crimes. It has seriously restricted people's right and wrong thinking. Blind obedience, only filial piety, without distinguishing between true and false, can only make people fall into the quagmire of mistakes and cannot extricate themselves. This statement has no progressive significance in terms of history or reality.

In today's words, it is most meaningless to say that it affects unity. It is the most meaningless thing to say that other people's shortcomings are different. Just say that you regard others as shortcomings, and it is not necessarily correct to compare your own views with those of some people. For example, a person is very frugal, and everyone regards him as a poor man. After a while, you find that the poor man is actually richer than the people who say him. Look at this.

You can't talk about other people's gossip, let alone your parents'. As parents, they have spent most of their lives. They have experienced too many worlds and have a unique view of the world. What my father did may be for family life. Even if he is a thief, he may have feelings that he can't say. As a son, he will take into account public opinion and the influence on his family and himself. But if it's not a big mistake or a sudden change, don't hold grudges. Even sanctions have time. As a son, he may not understand it when he was a child, but he should make a comprehensive analysis after he understands it. If others don't understand the discussion, they should be considerate or sympathetic, because no one is perfect, even if they make a big mistake, what's the point of being a son? Although some people say that being a son is tantamount to admitting that Laozi is an illegitimate child, it also means committing a crime and being unfilial. As the saying goes, "corrupt officials, bad fathers and bad weather" have no choice but to resign. If the interference is fruitless or causes more trouble, it is better not to say it.

People in the world always have worldly desires. Who can be heartless and careless? Although maternal love is great, it is born of family affection and self-satisfaction. This is a kind of thing that people want. What a person wants is to be bitter and tired again, even at the expense of himself. This kind of feeling can only be felt by yourself, and others can't feel it. A mother has been widowed for many years. In order to support one day, there is nothing wrong with a little love pillar.

For this kind of parents, children should use their brains, hint or beat about the bush to remind them that if they are outspoken, they will aggravate their feelings? Making the family hurt more seriously may be more serious than being a passer-by, because the deeper you love, the heavier the injury and the unimaginable consequences. I can't believe that Huang Wu is heaven, and there are so many derogatory things in historical unofficial history. How is Li Xian treated? How can ordinary people bear it when the royal family is so forbearing?

Some words summed up by the ancients are reasonable. Through practical experience, they have made in-depth exploration of human nature, social influence, emotional destination and the general direction of things development. If they go against the intention of proverbs, they will go in the opposite direction.

Understandably, a son can't discuss his father's fault. As a daughter, a "woman who is immoral to her mother" can't say that her mother is opportunistic. This proverb comes from the Book of Rites, which means never to say the fault of mother or father, nor should children say the fault of parents. This is based on the level of filial piety. Children say that their parents' mistakes are disrespectful, which is harmful to good news. This idea is suitable for many families at present.

In fact, we have been growing, growing and learning all our lives, and we can gradually distinguish right from wrong. In some things, if parents make mistakes, children can't point them out, and even relatives can't help them correct them. Let them continue to spread and grow, ignorant of loyalty and filial piety, and not good for people, especially families.

Just like my mother-in-law, if she doesn't like what she wants, she will think others are bad people. If she has no good intentions, she will start cursing others, and sometimes she will start cursing. My father-in-law can't stand it, and she can't help it. She can't say that if she listens, it will make her family very unhappy. Every child should learn the habit of scolding from the beginning, especially since she hasn't studied for several years. Swearing, especially for your own family, is even more unscrupulous. No one dares to say that my son has been scolded and cried many times, and there is no way to complain. He can only fight in a disobedient way. Although people dress in fashion, they feel uncomfortable with her.

Because of her mother-in-law's strange hobbies, the whole family has been very restless, from the older generation to her sister-in-law relatives to her children and grandchildren. Many times, when her son can't stand it, she will choose the right time and quietly and occasionally exhort a few words at home. Her mother-in-law suddenly changed her mind, and then she performed wildly and made a scene, attracting a group of people to watch. She saw the number of people getting more and more fierce, adding fuel to the fire. Many people have joined the team of criticism, saying that she is our elder and has a fair attitude. What the elders do and say is right, even if it is wrong, even if we have to die, we will die. I was shocked by what others said.

Many times, we are afraid. My mother-in-law is now enjoying all the enviable life in the village as a winner. She eats well, dresses well, lives well, uses well, has money to spend and plays mahjong every day. Sometimes the cards are too small, so she looks for young people to play big. 70-80-year-old rural old ladies have no income, and they all depend on their sons. What's so funny about this? Fortunately, young people are afraid of making trouble and avoid her.

Often when my mother-in-law is not satisfied at all, she will come to others to kidnap us, discipline us and make a lot of money. We are helpless and powerless. In fact, anyone else will be afraid. Fortunately, other people's old people are reasonable, talking and laughing, and their business is generous and harmonious. My mother-in-law's repeated persuasion failed, and we failed completely. Let nature take its course and try to satisfy her. No one can shake her worldview. When people mention her, they just laugh or shake their heads.

In fact, if parents think they are wrong, it is more appropriate to tell them their different opinions in front of their parents in their own homes, and never point out their mistakes in front of outsiders. At the same time, parents should also understand their children's kindness, and don't always think that they are parents, that they are heaven, that their words and deeds are right for their children, and that they are above them and cannot be disobeyed and violated. Throughout their lives, we are alive.

The times have been progressing, the concept is becoming more and more humanized, and the society is stable, harmonious and beautiful. So, there will be many changes. In some things, parents may ignore our feelings for us. Maybe they are doing something wrong, but we really shouldn't directly refute him, let alone scold him rudely. Explain it to them slowly, which will help promote family harmony.

In a word, to err is human. Everyone makes mistakes, so we need to treat them with a normal heart and know how to use the right method when admonishing our parents. Parents as elders, we should also give enough face, no matter when, we should not say our mistakes in front of others.

All men are created equal, and both adults and children have the responsibility to help each other correct their mistakes. Only in this way can we create a good family.

The proverb to be shared today is "sons don't criticize their fathers, and women don't rape their mothers". What does this mean? I answer from three aspects:

First, the son didn't say what his father meant. This proverb still smacks of feudal ethics. According to the rules of the three cardinal guides and the five permanent members, a father is a child, and it is required that a son must obey his father absolutely. Therefore, if a son doesn't say his father's fault, he asks his son not to say his father's fault. In other words, no matter what the father does is right or wrong, the son is not qualified to blame. Otherwise, you just don't understand the rules and have no quality performance. At any time, a son should unconditionally safeguard his father's authority and face and know what is big and what is small.

Second, women have no intention of raping their mothers. Women don't rape their mothers. Women here can be understood as children. Rape does not refer to treachery and adultery, but to being too frugal and stingy in life. According to feudal thought, men should go out to start businesses and work hard to earn money to support their families, while women must stay at home to respect the old and care for the young, and be thrifty, especially in rural areas in the past, where productivity was low and economic conditions were very limited. If housewives can't be thrifty, their family life will be difficult to maintain. Therefore, it is also true that in the past, women used to "buckle their fingers with a cloth". Therefore, children are not qualified to make irresponsible remarks about their mother's excessive frugality, because she is thinking of the whole family.

Third, it makes sense, but it's all in the past. As the saying goes, "children don't judge their fathers, and women don't rape their mothers", the general meaning still has some truth. In a family, it is natural to respect the old and love the young, honor the elders and educate their children. However, now is a new society, a new era, paternalism is out of date, and the atmosphere of family democracy is getting stronger and stronger. I want to teach the boy that if his parents make any mistakes, his children can also point them out and let them correct their words and deeds. Now that living conditions are good, there is no need to buckle cloth and suck your fingers in family life. However, no matter when it comes, the frugal family style should be maintained and passed down.

A son can't talk about his parents' faults and mistakes, and a daughter can't talk about her mother's indiscretions and others' indiscretions.

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Understandably, a son can't discuss his father's fault. As a daughter, a "woman who is immoral to her mother" can't say that her mother is opportunistic. This proverb comes from the Book of Rites, which means never to say the fault of mother or father, nor should children say the fault of parents. This is based on the level of filial piety. Children say that their parents' mistakes are disrespectful, which is harmful to good news.

The son hid the crime for his father.

Children don't talk about their fathers, and women don't talk about their mothers. In fact, this is a change of feudal ethics. It has certain negative significance, extending to the legal level, and the people can't sue the officials. The root of corruption arises from this. However, in terms of filial piety, parents are the ones who gave birth to you and raised you, and it is natural for you to be filial.

What can be passed down must be reasonable,

Does this question have to be asked? ! Unless someone drilled the horn! "Chen and his son"! Read it several times. Its significance is self-evident.