I said, can't you eat less for the sake of the children? She said no, children need to form good habits from an early age.
Most mothers think that children can't eat snacks. Eating snacks is not good for their health. There was once a big V in his own micro-headline about how to get children to quit snacks. Big V said: Children are addicted to snacks. If they want to stop eating snacks, her practice is to let them eat enough at a time until they vomit and feel scared when they see snacks.
It is incredible to see such a practice. In order to get children to quit snacks, it is necessary to make children hate snacks.
Whether children can eat snacks is really very different from children who don't eat snacks at all.
Snack is not only a snack, but also an ability to get happiness.
In the eyes of parents, snacks are not nutritious, harmful or even harmful to health, but in the eyes of children, snacks are not only snacks, but also a kind of happiness.
Li Ai, the host, once said in a variety show that when I was a child, my family was poor, but my mother would still generously prepare preserved apricots for herself. At that time, she didn't know what her mother's practice belonged to. Hero? But preserved apricots are the most preserved apricot memories in my childhood.
Children are satisfied and happy when they eat snacks. On the contrary, if children are restricted from eating snacks too strictly, their mothers may gain a child with inferiority or even out of control, but these consequences usually take longer to see.
One winter vacation, a friend took his son to Sanya. That day, when his son went swimming in the water, he asked his mother to buy himself a coconut. He went to play without a sip of wine. While friends were playing with their mobile phones, an unknown little girl picked up the coconut and drank it without saying a word. She was about to speak when the girl's mother ran over and scolded the girl for putting down the coconut. She took the little girl without apologizing and said, whose coconut you can drink, and no sugar at night. Let friends get messy in the wind.
Later, we discussed the child together. It may be that parents are extremely strict in the management of snacks. Children rarely have access to snacks, so they can't help seeing them.
Psychologically, this phenomenon is called: a sense of scarcity.
A netizen in Zhihu said that she was strict with her parents since childhood and seldom ate snacks. I especially like to buy snacks when I grow up, and sometimes I don't eat them when I buy them. She just likes to watch the snacks lying there quietly and feel satisfied.
The behavior of adults is to make up for the lack of childhood.
Children not only eat snacks, but also develop their abilities.
Eating snacks can help children master self-control.
After the child was 3 years old, he gradually began to eat snacks. In order to let her know how to choose, we will communicate in advance before each purchase, such as when to buy? What to buy? How many days do you need to eat? In this way, in the process of eating snacks, let her control herself, so that a pack of biscuits may be eaten by children for three or four days.
After a long time, my daughter will make a plan for herself, and what kind of snacks to eat in a few days, she will consciously implement it.
Because children have no desire in their hearts, they will not overeat because they can't get it. On the contrary, she knows how to do better in learning control.
Eating snacks can calm children's emotions.
In the program, Angel accidentally ate his son's top snack, which made his son lose his temper and cried and said to Angel, Don't you know that is my favorite snack? How can you eat it all?
We sometimes underestimate the status of snacks in children's minds, just like children cry when they are young, or they always habitually eat their hands when they are lonely, but
Snacks can also play a role in comforting children.
Especially for children's favorite snacks, when they are sad, angry or even unhappy, children's naive temperament may have forgotten those unhappiness after eating a few snacks.
This is actually the child's ability to resolve bad emotions.
As a mother, of course, I hope she has this ability and learns to digest emotions instead of suppressing herself.
It is mentioned in Child Psychology that the better children's emotional ability, the better their interpersonal relationship will be.
Eating snacks can improve children's communication skills.
People are social, and socialization is the need of people's survival. A person with strong social skills can often gain more recognition from society, which will also promote children to become better.
Interpersonal communication plays an important role in the early development of children.
Child Psychology mentioned that there are two ways to improve children's problem-solving ability. One is scaffolding parents, who give their children correct guidance when they need it. Another is to play with children who are better than themselves, and children will improve their abilities through imitation among their peers.
In the process of playing games together, children improve their cognition.
Therefore, proper snacks are actually more beneficial to children. Of course, the premise is that we need to know how children should eat snacks and let them know how to open snacks correctly.
How to make children eat snacks healthily
Give the correct range of snacks for children.
Parents worry that it is unhealthy for children to eat snacks, and the other is that children have no self-control to eat more. So at the beginning, parents should control the choice of snacks, make a list of snacks and control the scope of children's rights. This will keep the snacks healthy.
Control the frequency of eating snacks and let children learn self-control. What if the child eats too much at one time? You can specify the frequency of eating snacks, buy them once a week, finish them once, or divide them into five days on average. Parents can accompany their children to make plans at any time. If the child does well, she can be encouraged appropriately, such as expanding the range of choices, or eating some forbidden snacks occasionally, so that these small rewards can give her a sense of accomplishment after learning to control herself.
Expand children's choice and learn self-control
If we want to know how to love, we need to know what love is first, not learn how to love.
By the same token, we want children to learn self-control, and how to learn self-control when children don't know what choice is.
Therefore, in eating snacks, if children want to learn to control themselves, they should be given more choices. For example, the frequency and time of eating snacks are chosen by the children themselves, which will naturally bear the consequences. Children will naturally understand whether to eat it all at once or a little every day.
Parents don't let their children eat snacks because snacks are really harmful to health, or they are afraid that children will not listen to their mothers because they have tasted snacks, thus losing control of their children. In the process of raising children, it is the process that children gradually become independent from their mothers. What we need to learn is to gradually teach children the ability to be independent.