After reading this book, I come to the conclusion that I am very cautious and make a request to myself: what I said has substance. ?
Personally, after nearly four years of study, industry research, industry operation and entanglement in this industry, I see that the psychological field has not fully grown up in terms of specialty and industry. At present, the psychological field is out of touch with the speed of social development: the speed of economic and technological development constantly stimulates spiritual activities. However, apart from reading, learning, culture and entertainment, the development of such knowledge popularization education projects and services in the field of spiritual activities is relatively weak in terms of acceptance and popularity. Including mental health care, compared with other medical fields, it also belongs to the primary development stage.
The first step is to combine with other fields, a branch of scene application field. For example, "coaching technology" that matches the economy (this belongs to a small branch of situational application in psychology); Brain development related to adolescent intelligence, etc.
Philosophy, life education and psychology are obviously lagging behind. The cognition and use of psychological service has just begun. Just as health care meant to most people at the beginning.
As we all know, there used to be psychological counseling notes written by Bi Shumin.
20 1 1 The story of the psychological counseling room is briefly presented in the form of narrative prose and professional posture for the first time. It's touching to have a glimpse. I have asked many people how they feel after reading it, either avoiding or reflecting. Feeling, that is the enlightenment of life education and psychological education service.
After that, it is more straightforward, in-depth, panoramic and professional, and can be presented in the form of stories from the perspective of psychological counseling, such as "Ask Your Heart" and various books by teacher Yalong. These are all textbook-level existence. It should be said that in the research in the field of psychology, the stories in the book are all used as classroom cases, taught by practical experts and repeatedly watched and refined by learners.
The only regret of those stories is the lack of local culture. "On Earth" has brought a strong * * * sound because of the profound insights of the local cultural department. For most people, the isolation of psychological career, the wonderful estimation of career will be missed, the story is the story, and the echo is estimated to be discounted. After all, the impact of literature and film and television works formed from the perspective of psychological counseling is incomparable with the storylines of heroes, science fiction and magic films.
English children's professionalism, top teachers in the field of psychology, such as Wu Zhihong and Xu Kaiwen, all evaluate professionalism in this way: truly professional works without serious injuries; The logical and emotional development of professional intervention is correct. In addition, what touches me most personally is: this is the story that is happening in this land and this water area where I live!
? Culture is a psychological major, and it must be combined with professional quality in practice. This is also psychology, as a scientific gene: the combination of sociology, philosophy and hard science. This is also the theme of the global psychology conference: what is the localization of psychotherapy, which is being discussed and explored by the global psychology community.
Because I have been on the road of professionalism and practice, and this time I am reading with a senior psychology teacher, from my major and my personal growth, my personal gains are full marks.
Senior psychological counselors and consultants in vocational schools and universities, including Zhang Bloom and Zhang Bloom, let me know about the growth of teenagers in the corresponding books. Teacher Yun Xin and Teacher Yan Zi, as senior psychological counseling experts in the community, have opened my eyes to social life, adolescent growth, family conflicts and other issues from various angles of real life.
The collision of different genders, different professional schools, different families and social roles makes this reading experience of great significance.
Full score recommendation, as a psychological professional and enthusiast, you can put down your works for in-depth reading and discussion. It can also help you feel and know what professional and serious psychological counseling is. This is the true voice in our own culture.
? There are mainly three cases on the open line, which are relatively independent, and the topics of interviews are from:
Intimate relationship, personal growth, adolescent internet addiction.
These three topics are common and deeply troubled life themes in the real world.
The consultation of three cases shows that since "Rome was not built in a day", the formation of the problem was not built in a day, and it is even more difficult to sort out the problem. Typical representative cases also mean great challenges for consultants. This description is not exaggerated at all.
The personality and individuality of the three cases require the consultant not only to have profound professional skills, but also to have a high degree of self-awareness and self-growth drive sensitivity and sharpness. Of course, the requirement of professional ethics is also an extreme challenge.
1) Senior visitors. Long consulting experience, at least 3 years of intermittent consulting experience.
2) Cognition of psychological knowledge, everyone likes to study and discuss the professional problems of consultation;
3) Collapse and crisis after looking directly at the truth;
4) In the process of consultation, you will experience the segment of returning to childhood;
5) During the consultation process, there are stages of anxiety, serious empathy and anti-communism;
6) After a superficial topic, the topic is the same as * * *,
"Childhood trauma; Relationship with parents; The influence of family members on children's growth; The growth of inner children "
It is the traces left by these problems that make the case owners, whether teenagers, youths or parents, experience serious self-conflict, self-distress and self-loss in adulthood. It has seriously affected their daily life, such as interpersonal communication, the establishment and maintenance of intimate relationship, the establishment of parent-child relationship, the choice and decision of career and life.
Actively seek support to help yourself cope with difficulties and confusion. Psychological counseling should be widely used in daily life. It should be: thirsty for a glass of water; Psychological counseling for mental fatigue.
Case 1: Hao Zui, the main topic of the visit is "intimate relationship". I can't bear it, I can't live without it, and it keeps appearing again and again.
She is the pride of the times defined by society and a typical female elite. Shopping malls have made great achievements, and the economic value has been harvested wave after wave. Excellent ability and talent, coupled with outstanding appearance and figure, the scene is both aura and light. But it can't be revealed that she sacrificed herself for a close relationship and constantly sought approval through flattery and abuse. In order to balance, at the same time, an ambiguous relationship that is quite different from the way of sacrifice is established, that is, being loved and being treated politely. The torn life scene is actually an internal situation that maintains the sense of meaning and existence through the tearing of external behavior and the checks and balances of internal and external forces.
It's not that Hao feels most comfortable from self-abuse, but that he is afraid because he can't find a way out.
She has a repressed volcano in her heart and has been saving since she was a child. Her Excellence has made her see too many possibilities that have never been seen before. At this time, either spontaneous combustion in self-abuse, or rebirth with the help of a force. Here, the consultant works with her * * *, which is strength. Hao's most depressing power is that he is too powerful. In the process of consultation, how the consultant handles his paddle well is also one of the highlights.
Case 2: Wang Chenglong. The theme of the visit is: Quit Internet addiction.
He, rich second generation, 16 years old. Father is an entrepreneur and mother is a mentor. He is a typical representative of teenagers' internet addiction. Experienced severe internet addiction rehabilitation camp, body electrotherapy, militarized management, etc. And I also experienced many consultations and finally came to the consultant in the book. He, an attack complaint consultant in Weibo, is a typical spokesman for children of this age. Disdain for authority and repression of oneself all indicate that some teenagers declared war in adolescence: I decided to hate the world! What can you do with me?
The challenge of psychological counselors here is that the relationship between parents in the family is a white-hot confrontation. A seemingly autocratic power, emphasizing the abuse of boys' growth; One seems to give infinite tolerance according to the law of adolescent growth and development.
Richness does not bring family harmony and mutual understanding. Everything in the middle is: you should! You should! You should!
Then two tore heart crack lung of adults, spare no effort to pull the children into their own team.
Fuck you! This is Wang Chenglong's crying to his parents, which eventually evolved into the view of "What is this boring life?" The children came to this conclusion through their limited life experience.
We can see that if parents and caregivers can't provide a suitable family environment today, growth will become a very small probability event. Nothing to do with knowledge. House decoration can be tossed over and over again. Does the opportunity for children to grow up really exist?
Counselor, the biggest challenge in this process is personal preferences, values and the alienation of parents in family therapy.
Case 3: Jing Xiaohui, visiting theme: Recurrence of depression (personal growth), she was neglected in a typical childhood.
Under the background of the times, we can't blame any parents. Work hard first, and the children will grow up by themselves. This is a view that many people accept very much. There is a logical mistake here: putting efforts and attaching importance to children's growth in opposition. Is to forcibly think that this is the relationship between fish and bear's paw.
In recent years, people have finally begun to pay attention to how to coordinate work and parenting, such as: research on the critical period of growth; Positive discipline, etc. Parents are not required to follow suit.
A good girl like Jing Xiaohui has taken kindness as the criterion of her work and is a wife and a mother. People can't cheat their hearts, so her depression is easily triggered by different events in the process of motherhood. Even almost led to the crisis after leaving the consulting room.
The challenge faced by consultants is deep fatigue: long-distance consultation, so many times of practice, consultants find the cognitive integration of visitors, repeatedly. It seems that the consulting room has solidified.
With professional acumen, patience and professional practice belief of putting visitors first, the consultant adjusted his pace.
This is the only case in this book that doesn't end in stages.
Hui Yu concluded: What I see is that both lack of motivation and excessive negative motivation put forward higher requirements for the work of consultants.
If the case of the open line is like a pearl, the story of the dark line is like a string of pearls. Its angle focuses on the real presentation of the consultant's work and growth.
The three cases of hidden line belong to the personal and professional growth of counselors, involving teacher-student relationship, peer supervision, personal childhood and so on. If there is a career that is directly related to the quality of life, besides education, it is estimated that psychological counseling is also one of them.
Through this book, I corrected one of my one-sided views. Many people, including myself, have questioned and expected that a consultant must have a perfect personality, perfect and mature. This book is objective and has a deeper understanding of the work content and competence of psychological counseling. Truthfulness, professionalism and respect for life are the most responsible professions for qualified consultants.
The role of counselors in the relationship between consultation and interview, their role orientation in life, and their thoughts and behaviors are not distorted. Very real. I am more calm through these. I especially hope that more people will know about it, so that there may be less unrealistic expectations, requirements and cognition for consultants. Perhaps, this is why I am only willing to get in touch with counseling on growth, communication, intimate relationship and career development, and avoid trauma and family therapy, because I will not be criticized too much.
Consulting this industry, the deeper you go, the more you realize why this is an irreplaceable profession.
In the process of reading, the reading teacher put forward many exploratory questions from different angles:
1, consulting settings, such as:
Whether the consultant should accept gifts from visitors;
Whether the consultant should contact visitors outside the consultation room;
Whether the consultant's views on things or people can be directly expressed;
How to deal with the confidential matters required by consultants for their families;
Whether the psychological counselor's empathy for his own eroticism will affect the work of the psychological counselor;
2, supervision settings
Does loose supervision help the growth of consultants?
Do consultants have to be constantly supervised?
3. Visit cases and topics experienced by consultants in life. Should the consultant recommend it?
I saw that all three cases responded to the counselor's own problems and also triggered the counselor's anti-empathy. The work of a consultant requires high professionalism and there is no room for arbitrariness. Once again, I feel that it is important and not easy to stick to the major.
My personal feelings about this book are the author's pursuit of perfection and his awe and respect for his profession. Among them, there are also some authors' explorations and doubts about professional innovation. For example, in consultation, you can express your views and attitudes, and the key is to look at the meaning to visitors. These explorations and attempts have also prompted me, as a professional today, to think deeply about the set attitude and application, treatment methods, consultation and interview.
It took the author seven years to revise several drafts. This insistence on my major is my reference to my own psychology major.
As a professional, I also began to expect the author to explore the self-growth of consultants. I hope the author will have the opportunity to explore this as a bright line. ?
? 1) We have made great progress in knowledge and skills. In the next century, we need to be more mature and mature in emotion and experience; ?
2) Life is a process of jumping into the mire and then jumping out. Just don't jump around in vain;
3) In the psychological consultation room, we can accept and understand others professionally, but in real life, it is very difficult to accept and allow;
About yingtong. It is not easy to balance stories and majors. The author entered the field of psychology interdisciplinary and worked hard for nearly 10 years. In this fast-paced era, people are deeply touched.
Life work really needs this kind of patience.
As for the wonderful reading during this period, I personally suggest that someone in the field of professional psychology must read together.
Just like watching an exhibition, watching the excitement is of course an experience; If you go deep, you need professional leadership. How many feasts are there in life? Now that we have gone in, there is no need to hurry.
Thanks to the study of the Alliance Support Office, and bring this book to us. Thanks to the sharing and professionalism of the teachers I read, I finished reading this book calmly in the guardian of the epidemic house, which benefited my psychological work a lot.
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