The older generation or parents love children very much, but they don't use the right way to make it difficult for children to understand and receive such education.
They subconsciously follow the traditional thinking, regard the relationship between children and themselves as a superior-subordinate relationship, blindly defend their own dignity, copy and imitate the education model of the older generation "filial son under the stick" right or wrong, and pass on their anxiety to children by any means, and finally get the result of extremes meet.
They want to talk to you, but they never give you equal status.
They want to communicate with you, but as soon as they are questioned, they are swept by verbal violence.
They want you to be strong and confident, but in fact, you are obedient to them at home, obedient to Nuo Nuo, criticizing you in front of others and even cursing you.
You did something wrong. They want to blame you and all your actions, but they don't help you find a way. You did the right thing. They were ecstatic and dazzled everyone.
Show off the Excellence and success of your education, even if they just give you a bite to eat.
They are too impetuous to do good communication and patient companionship, which are two basic essentials of family education.
Uncovering the surface of impetuous anxiety, we can only see another similarity in their education, that is, controlling children with their own ideas.
Psychologically, the harm that controlling parents bring to their children is also difficult to cure.
A controlling mother generally has the following characteristics:
Highly neurotic, anxious and easily caused by trivial matters. After anxiety occurs, you need to bet on the outside world to relieve anxiety, lack of friends and lack of hobbies.
The relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, and I feel that my husband is incompetent. If parents often quarrel, they will hurt their children many times.
On the one hand, they strictly discipline their children, on the other hand, they love them very much and don't want them to go out independently. Generally speaking, they interfere and control their children by accusing, belittling and distrustful.
Characteristics of controlled children:
When I was a child, I was more clever and sensible, and my grades were not too bad. Willing to pay for others.
Junior high school grades decline (relative to primary school), if the decline is serious, it will generally be accompanied by isolation and bullying. If the grades are upstream. Generally more aloof. Strong ideals.
High school and middle school students have a serious decline, and their interpersonal relationships are sensitive. On the one hand, they are eager to socialize, on the other hand, they pay too much attention to themselves, which leads to poor friendship. Began to rebel against her mother, but depended on her.
Education is the process of casting swords for children, and these parents seem more willing to control the sword holders before they meet wild animals.
Children who don't have swords in their hands will be hindered by anything.