I quite agree with his point of view, because from talking more to talking less is the standard of a person's mental maturity. As Mr. Feng Youlan wrote in the last sentence of A Brief History of Chinese Philosophy: People often need to say a lot and then remain silent.
The advice left by our ancestors also tells us that silence is golden, and much talk troubles you. Why is talking more debilitating and annoying? Let's analyze it together!
Chinese medicine pays great attention to "qi and blood", and vitality is the "three treasures" of the human body. If one of them loses money, it will affect the overall vitality of people. Therefore, nourishing qi is very important for good health. For example, Mencius said that he was good at cultivating integrity.
Silence nourishes qi, indifferent to spirit, indifferent to essence. People can nourish the spirit by talking less, seeing less with their eyes and controlling their desires. People who usually talk a lot have a strong desire to express themselves, which makes them speak quickly for a while, but this hurts their vitality and is not conducive to their health.
Zeng Guofan talked a lot in his early years and was fond of joking. In fact, this is also a manifestation of impatience. He often participates in various social activities and dinners, and also has a long talk with his friends, often for one night. As a result, he was badly weakened and soon became seriously ill and bedridden.
After learning from these mistakes, he paid great attention to keeping in good health and nourishing qi, especially in "Twelve Rules of Self-cultivation":
If one day he talks too much, Zeng Guofan will write it down in his diary, and then remind himself to "don't talk too much" and make profound self-criticism. Finally, he will gradually get rid of the problem of talking too much and become stupid.
I ching said: lucky people talk less, impetuous people talk more, that is, people who are wise and blessed often talk less; People who have no patience and little happiness often talk a lot. It can be seen that talking less means nourishing qi and blood, nourishing spirit and accumulating blessings; On the other hand, if you keep talking, you will lose your vitality and eventually lose your happiness.
The ancients said that "the mouth is the door of the heart", and the mouth has two desires-eating and speaking. However, extremes meet, and eating too much and talking too much will also bring disaster to yourself. Therefore, the ancients said, "Eat seven points full, and everyone will only speak three points." They also warned the world that illness comes from the mouth and disaster comes from the mouth.
A person can control his mouth, get less sick and cause less trouble, which will reduce a lot of trouble. Therefore, Awakening the World warns everyone that the tongue is the source of benefit and the mouth is the door of misfortune.
This sentence left by our ancestors is even more serious: words account for eight points in life. That is: the disaster of family destruction and death, unintentional words are often the main disaster.
Is that so? Let's look through the history and know that Su Qin was eloquent and finally lost his life because of his eloquence; Han Xin boasted of his pride in front of Liu Bang and was finally eliminated by the three clans. Yang Xiu used to show off his cleverness and talk big in front of Cao Cao, and was finally killed, and so on.
Zeng Guofan loved reading history books all his life, and he came to a conclusion: since ancient times, there are probably two reasons for failure: one is long pride, and the other is wordiness. Unlike his father Yao, he is proud and treacherous, that is, talkative. Most prestigious dignitaries were killed because of these two aspects.
It can be seen that talkativeness is a hotbed of evil and a source of annoyance. There is a saying: "If you don't say it, no one will treat you as a mute", which is really a wise saying.
Without a word of arrogance, you will not be annoying. Talking a lot is the main manifestation of pride and impetuousness. Silent people cause a lot of trouble and are not annoying, so their silence is golden.
Laozi's Tao Te Ching: "It's better to keep the middle if you talk a lot and count the poor", that is, a country's numerous and changeable government decrees will waste people's money, but it will accelerate the decline of the country, so it's better to be quiet.
By the same token, the same is true for individuals: talking too much will hurt your vitality, and talking too much will cause trouble. You'd better keep quiet and keep your words in mind. Therefore, wise people should remember the advice of their ancestors: silence is golden, and talking too much will invite trouble! Do you think what our ancestors said is correct? Welcome to leave a message below to interact.