Life is shared by husband and wife. Many times, walking between husband and wife, leaving a person to support life.
Especially when people are old, if only one person is alive, that kind of desolation and hardship really makes people feel distressed.
The book says: when you are old, you have a wife to accompany you, an old man to support you, a nest to live in, a few old friends to accompany you, and a few hobbies to play. That old age is the best.
In this life, the only person who can accompany her all her life is her own pillow person. She knows your warmth and coldness, your hard work and your tiredness.
There used to be an old saying called "raising children to prevent old age". When people are old, they should follow their children to support the elderly. But today's society is "providing for the aged and preventing children". What is really reliable is the wife around you, whether it is the original match or the remarried partner.
Young couples always follow, but their children and grandchildren are not as good as half-way couples. What they say is that when people are old, they can still rely on their wives to accompany them.
I am 68 years old and remarried with my current wife. Together 10 years.
My ex-husband left me and my son in an accident when I was 40 years old. At that time, I felt that my world had collapsed and my family had no support from my ex-husband. I was really confused.
When my son went to college, he told me to find another partner when he met the right one, so that he could study abroad with peace of mind.
At that time, a kind person introduced me to someone, but I felt that my son was not married and everything had not been settled. Remarriage with your son is undoubtedly a trouble for others.
Lao Zhou is a quality engineer in our unit. His wife died of illness. After his daughter got married in a foreign country, he came to me and said that he would go with me for life.
At that time, I told him that although I thought he was a very good person and we knew him well, my son was not married and would spend too much money in the future. I'm afraid that many unnecessary things will happen after remarriage with him.
Lao Zhou said he was willing to accompany me to undertake my son's future family. In this way, the two of us remarried three years after I retired.
Lao Zhou's daughter and my son are very willing. The two children grew up on the same campus and knew each other well.
After remarriage for two years, my son wants to get married in other places and needs to buy a wedding room. I have taken out all my savings, which is not enough for my son's down payment. I want to sell my house and give a down payment to my son's wedding room.
At that time, Lao Zhou still had some opinions on selling houses. He felt that this matter could be discussed with his in-laws, and the two families made a down payment for their children together. But I was too strong. I think it's right for my son to make a down payment. It was our family that married a daughter-in-law. If the girl's family also pays, I always feel caught.
So, instead of listening to Lao Zhou, I sold the house and gave my son a down payment. Later, my son told me that he wanted a car so that it would be more convenient for them to come back and visit us.
I bought another car for my son, and I have no savings at all. Lao Zhou also comforted me. If I didn't, I wouldn't. Take a good exercise and hope not to get sick easily.
That's what people do. The more afraid they are, the more they will find you.
A few years ago, I suddenly fell ill and needed to be hospitalized immediately. Although there is medical insurance, you still have to pay for it yourself first. I called my son and asked him if he could withdraw the money. The son simply answered no, it is very difficult to repay the mortgage every month.
But I don't have much in my own hands. In recent years, I have only one pension in my hand. I still want to help my son every month and always give him some money from time to time. Really don't have that much money.
At this time, Lao Zhou stood up and borrowed some money from his daughter and himself to help me advance the hospitalization expenses.
My son came back from my hospitalization to discharge for three days, and went back on the grounds that he was too busy at work to take a long vacation.
Lao Zhou has been taking care of me. I always thought my son would take care of my pension. Even if I remarried with Lao Zhou, I still prefer my son in my heart, and I will consider giving it to my son when I am a little older. Who knows, in the end, my wife around me is my closest relative and my best support in my later years.
After I was discharged from the hospital for reimbursement, I returned Lao Zhou's money to him. I am very grateful to him for his contribution to me. Although I haven't paid in full, I won't help my son any more. Most of my retirement funds are left behind. I want to save some money for my future pension. I can't get old and have no money. That kind of old age is really hard.
I also focused on my old age with Lao Zhou, reducing some subsidies and unnecessary worries for my son. Slowly, I found that my relationship with Lao Zhou is getting better and better, and our feelings are much better than before.
In my heart, I have really married Lao Zhou, an old wife, instead of just living together as I thought at first. I can really accept it from the heart and make my own actions for it.
I secretly swear in my heart that no matter what happens in the future, Lao Zhou and I will be together. Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren. Let them fight for their own lives.
The focus of my old age is Lao Zhou. We should help each other through the rest of our lives and make the rest of our lives better.
As the old saying goes, young couples will always be partners, and children and grandchildren are not as good as half-way couples. Therefore, when you are old, you can accompany yourself or your partner. No one can replace your wife's dependence.
When I was young, I thought it was important to have children at home, especially women. Whenever the children are in my heart, as long as I have them, I will pay for them first. No matter what the situation, I am willing to suffer.
Really old, children fly out, have their own lives, have their own small families, and spend little time with themselves. The person who really accompanies them is the person who sleeps with them and the wife who has accompanied them for many years.
Please be kind to your wife. Being kind to your wife is also being kind to yourself and accumulating blessings for yourself.
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