How do parents entrust their children to the elderly after 1980s? Children's psychological growth, parents can not be absent. This problem is a headache for many parents. Problems in the process of growth can better cultivate children's ability and provide them with better study and life. How can post-80s parents entrust their children to the elderly to teach you how to educate their children?

How do parents entrust their children to the elderly after 1980s? How do parents entrust their children to the elderly after 1980s?

"Excuse me, do you bring your own children or do the elderly bring their children?" At the press conference of the national launch ceremony of the early education product "Growing Month Plan", Ms. Jia Jun, an early education expert, interacted with her parents: "The original intention of this early education product is to make more families contact early education more conveniently and simply. By providing professional early education methods and tools, we can make up for and solve the shortage of intergenerational education, help every family member become an' early education expert', and carry out professional early education at home to bring a healthy, happy and healthy baby.

Early education becomes "separation": no longer "doing bad things with good intentions"

According to the survey data, at present, 50% ~ 60% of children aged 0 ~ 6 in Shanghai belong to intergenerational education, accounting for about 50% in Guangzhou and as high as 70% in Beijing. This phenomenon is rare in other countries in the world. At present, the parents of the post-80s generation in China are under great work pressure, which leads to the phenomenon that children's daily life and educational growth are arranged by grandparents and other elderly people. On the one hand, the elderly have rich parenting experience, enough time and patience, which is the main reason why young parents give their children to the elderly. On the other hand, the old people's concept is relatively old, lacking scientific parenting concepts, methods and systematic knowledge, and it is easy to spoil their children by "doing bad things with good intentions", which will seriously lead to the alienation of parents' feelings and affect their personality development. Many old people find it difficult to understand their children's parents. For example, children's parents tell them not to give their children snacks, but their grandparents just don't listen and are afraid of starving their children. They often buy snacks for their children, which directly affects their physical development.

Insiders said: To solve these problems, the most important thing is to find a platform to achieve dynamic balance. Intergenerational education and parenting education are not "incompatible". In fact, they can jointly create a perfect educational environment. First of all, the parents of the elderly and children must reach an understanding and form a consistent educational concept in order to successfully carry out intergenerational education; Secondly, grandparents should also learn more scientific and systematic parenting concepts; In addition, young parents, no matter how busy they are at work, must take time to accompany their children, because the core position of parents is irreplaceable by anyone else. Children belong to parents and grandparents, but in the final analysis, they are still their own.

Early education products: "foster strengths and avoid weaknesses" with children

According to the Survey Report on Intergenerational Feeding in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou issued by authoritative organizations, 65% of young parents spend less than 3 hours with their children every day. This year, the All-China Women's Federation released the Questionnaire Report on Building a Harmonious Family in China, which showed that "children's family education consultation" ranked first in the most needy.

Experts said that due to the different educational concepts of the two generations and the extreme characteristics of intergenerational education, it is easy to cause family conflicts. The survey also confirmed that two-thirds of the families with intergenerational education have differences and even frictions in raising children. Poor care is too careless, and too thoughtful care is doting; If you don't "expect your child to succeed" and "expect your daughter to succeed", it will be too loose and too strict, and it will be suspected of obliterating your child's personality; Looking after children at home is easy to be bored, and frequent going out has security risks ... Many parents choose to buy various books, CDs, toys and so on. In order to let these "little teachers" and "little partners" play with children and teach them to grow up.

In this regard, Ms. Jia Jun, the founder of Hugging Bear, said: "This behavior of parents is understandable, but babies aged 0-3 have their own unique laws of physical and mental development. Parenting products should consider physiological, systematic, scientific, continuous and ethnic factors, otherwise it may have little effect or even be counterproductive. In fact, whether it is parenting education or intergenerational education, education should pay attention to the cultivation of five abilities of baby's big sports, fine movements, communication, cognition and social behavior. " In view of this, Baby Oriental, the largest early education institution in China, relies on nearly 12 years of professional early education experience and 1 10,000 cases to launch a bear hug early education product for infants aged 0-3 years, which is advanced in system, interactive in multimedia and most suitable for their growth. Its products last for three months and provide a set of products every month, including mother's books, baby's books, interactive toys, music game CDs, interactive video DVDs and development evaluation cards.

Simple and easy to learn, convenient and easy to use, cuddling bear early education products are increasingly becoming a good helper for the elderly to trust in parenting. On the one hand, she can let the elderly give full play to their rich parenting experience and other advantages. On the other hand, she can create a family education environment through multimedia interactive tools, provide professional early education methods and tools, help the elderly understand the monthly growth needs of 0-3-year-old babies, solve the puzzles encountered in the early education process, and make the effect of intergenerational education particularly good!

How do parents entrust their children to the elderly after 1980s? Some people say that the worst time in marriage is that no one helps you with your children. In fact, every family has a difficult experience. Even with the help of the elderly, it may be even worse if the old people's parenting concepts and methods are very different from their own!

It is true that there are many advantages for the elderly to take care of their children, but if your elderly people belong to the following types, you must be cautious and communicate with them more for their physical and mental health.

We are not targeting the elderly, but the behaviors of their children. Of course, if parents themselves have the following behaviors, please pay more attention.

1, afraid of children scouring, stay at home

I am too old to run, so watch TV and play with toys at home!

Consequences:

1, the child has been at home with the elderly for a long time, lacking physical exercise, and is weak and sick.

2, insufficient light and lack of vitamin D have a great impact.

Old people with poor hearing speak too loudly to their children. When watching TV, turn the volume too high, which will damage their hearing for a long time.

4. Always staying at home, lacking contact with outsiders, leading to shyness and introversion, and not knowing how to communicate with others when growing up.

2, afraid of children crying, give snacks satisfaction.

As long as you don't cry, I'll buy you anything you want!

Consequences:

1, giving children junk snacks is not only bad for their health, but also affects their brain development if they eat food with too many additives for a long time.

2, snacks are out of control, children have no appetite to eat, and refuse to eat normally when eating.

Once a child discovers that "he can eat delicious food when he cries", he will know how to threaten his parents by crying and losing his temper, thus satisfying his personal desires and becoming more willful.

3, afraid that the child is hungry, chasing and feeding.

Come on, come on, have another bite!

Consequences:

1, children eat too fast, which leads to insufficient chewing function and affects digestion and absorption.

2, overfeeding, may make the child's stomach swell, causing the child to be obese.

3. When breastfeeding, the child is always "disturbed", and the child's concentration is easily destroyed, and it is easy to become "inattentive" after school.

4. Children who are used to "feeding" have poor independence and are prone to dependence when they grow up.

4. I am afraid that my child will catch cold and wear too much.

Put on more clothes and don't catch a cold!

Consequences:

Baby's hands and feet are cold because of poor peripheral blood circulation, not because of cold, which is normal!

If you dress them too much, they will sweat once they are active, their skin and blood vessels will expand, and their clothes will not dry in time when they are still wet, but they will catch a cold more easily.

5. Encourage children and blame the innocent.

Does it hurt? Strangely, I will hit it and let's wrestle!

Consequences:

1, there are many reasons why children fall, but they blindly blame innocent objects (ground, table, etc. ) It will only send a very wrong message to children and let them learn to pass the buck.

2, the misleading of the elderly will make children not good at self-summary and correction, and it is easy to become self-deception when they grow up.

6, feudal superstition, do not listen to persuasion

The child is frightened, just drink some X water!

Consequences:

1, don't do anything that hurts children if you are just "playing tricks". If you let your baby drink "rich water" and use "earth", it will delay treatment and aggravate the condition.

2. If you do something unacceptable to your child, it will also endanger your child's mental health.

3. An old man heard that his grandson was short of gold and put a gold ring in his child's mouth, which almost killed him.