Among the people around me, I am the second most spoiled child, and no one dares to compete for the first place.

17-year-old daughter dropped out of school at home, ate, drank and spoke carefully, for fear of triggering her emotions and causing havoc in heaven.

He was defrauded to borrow more than 40 thousand, and ran away from home for fear of sin because he did not pay back the money. Running around in the middle of the night, it took four or five hours to find my frightened daughter hundreds of kilometers away. I can't scold and comfort her. Let her not blame herself and don't give up. My mother believes that she is still a good child.

Endless buy buy buys, 78,000 cats and a dog, and 3,000 bears are kept for two days and then given away.

I already have a mobile phone of more than 3,000, forcing my mother to buy more than 10,000 apples 12. Later, I bought more than 4,000 IPAD. I also bought more than 2,000 game accounts and more than 8,000 game equipment.

We agreed to go to Hainan for illness, rent a house for one year, stay for one and a half months, and then come back. Never mind the lost money.

I was tricked into taking her to travel to Guangzhou. It turns out that I met a male netizen for a few days.

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Talking too much is all tears.

My close relatives and friends asked me to be sent to the closed ward of the hospital to restrain my behavior and not to go out for life. Heartache: I am a woman who will never be free from suffering. Advise me that this sacrifice is not worth it, and I should live well for my own happiness for the rest of my life.

But this is my own flesh. How can I enjoy the stolen happiness and peace after giving up my daughter?

It's better to be a soldier, accumulate strength and courage, fight the big black dog and save my poor daughter from the devil's clutches. Only in this way can we live up to the rest of our lives and the fate of mother and daughter.

I really don't know how many parents can choose to continue to love in such a difficult situation.

I don't know how many people will point at my nose and scold me for killing my son.

However, my daughter is ill (severely depressed, and then a little dry). It is because of her lack of love and warmth and spiritual nutrition that she collapsed and became ill. Now many behaviors are just symptoms.

Therefore, as a single mother, I dry my tears, calm my anxious heart, study psychology every day, adjust my cognition, stabilize my mood, improve my nonviolent communication ability, speak well and cure myself.

It is said that the whole family is sick and the children take medicine. Parents are originals and children are copies.

Mothers should not be eager to change their children. First, they should devote themselves to adjusting their living conditions, enrich their happiness every day, and live an interesting, energetic and wonderful life. This is the best education and silent guidance for children.

Now, my daughter's state is much better. She is emotionally stable and reasonable. She has begun to care about the people around her, her mood has slowly recovered, she has spent rationally, and she has begun to calculate the balance of payments with a calculator. Her self-esteem has gradually improved and she has plans and actions for the future. I feel that smart, lively and hard-working little boy is back.

Therefore, a woman should never give up the person she gave birth to in her life. The less "good" children are, the more they need the love of their parents.

Especially for a sick child, when he is not "well", he is used to treating him, loving him, warming him, stabilizing his mood and protecting his safety. Slowly, time will heal his pain and everything will get better. We must have such faith and determination.

A recovered bipolar patient left a deep impression on me. He said that he was very grateful to his poor old father in the countryside. At the beginning, he raised money everywhere to meet the impulsive consumption during his son's illness. He has recovered now, and everything is fine.

Therefore, under special circumstances, if you get used to it, give your child a chance and give yourself a chance.

Life is long, don't panic, take your time and everything will turn around.

Happiness embraced after the robbery, and then it was just a nightmare and a farce.

If you are used to children, it should be Ma Sao in our park a long time ago.

In fact, Ma Sao is beautiful, white and clean, and tall. Her husband is ugly, but her husband Ma has a quick mind and is a good businessman. The couple did a good job in wholesale business, only one son was spoiled.

When Ma Xiao was a teenager, he had no worries about food and clothing. At that time, she didn't study hard at school and mixed with people in society all day. Ma Sao didn't even say. She thinks it's okay for her children not to study because she has money at home.

When I got home, I asked Ma Sao for money. When Ma Sao gave it, it was 5 1 10,000. Ma Lao was told that this was not good. The old horse thinks that there is only one child anyway, so let him go.

Ma Xiao learned to gamble when he was a little older. She stays out all night, and sometimes she runs out of money. She called Ma Sao, but Ma Sao even sent the money. At first, it was not a big bet. Later, someone saw Ma Sister-in-law spoil her children so much that she made a bet with Ma Xiao. Ma Xiao said that she had no money, so those people lent it to him. One night, Ma Xiao lost100000 yuan, so they brought Ma Xiao back to ask for money, and if they didn't give the money, they would cut off Ma Xiao's hand. Ma Sao was frightened and quickly gave the money.

Those people saw Ma Sister-in-law give money so readily that they all gambled with Ma Xiao. Anyway, every time they lose, Ma Sister-in-law pays the bill.

Later, when business was bad and Ma Sao's tens of millions of assets were lost by Ma Xiao, she suddenly realized that she was used to children. But by this time it was too late to sell several sets of doormen. As a last resort, she and Ma Lao took Ma Xiao to live in the north.

I once had a student, and his parents' love for him really shattered three views: a boy in the first grade of junior high school can get into his mother's arms and nurse in public; Eat mother feed, cut the fruits into small pieces and feed them into the mouth one by one; Chinese food is basically not eaten at school because you can't use chopsticks; Sleep in the same bed with my mother at night. This student was transferred from Huangshi in Grade One. His father works in engineering, so there is nothing to say about economic conditions. In order to take care of the children, the mother rented a house next to the children's school for three years, which is convenient for care.

When you come to our institution to choose a teacher, you watch your child as tall as your mother, but snuggle in her arms and talk. We all say that children have a good relationship with their mother.

Later, after much contact, I found that the mother waited with her children for two or four hours in class. So we slowly talked more and more with our mother, only to know that since the birth of the child, the mother has been raising the child full-time. Dad's business is getting bigger, and when conditions permit, he will transfer his children to Wuhan for the sixth grade.

Dragged a lot of connections, managed hundreds of thousands, and went to the best school in Wuhan. However, because of the difference in the knowledge framework between the two places, the child didn't adapt after a turn, and his grades were always behind, so my mother came to our side.

One day at noon, as usual, my mother was heating the children's meals. The children were so hungry that they threw themselves into her arms and lifted their clothes in our campus restaurant. The teacher next to him is still laughing and saying, "This boy is hungry and wants to eat milk."

It was a joke, but her mother replied, "Yes, our child is still nursing" and then whispered to the child that there are too many people now.

A boy of 1.6 meters is breastfeeding, which shocked our circle and ordinary people really can't accept it. Being able to lift my mother's clothes in public, without gender awareness and shame, is not acceptable to ordinary people.

As a child's consultant and planning teacher, I chatted with my mother all afternoon that day, trying to change my mother's concept of parenting. But in the process of chatting, I found that my mother graduated from college, has a complete parenting system, and knows a lot of knowledge in all aspects. But when it comes to her son, she can't.

She knows that it is unhealthy love to spoil children, but looking at her son, he can't stand it and can't refuse any of his demands. She just wants her son to eat well, sleep well, play well and study well. As for what means and methods to use, as long as her son can accept it.

So until the first day, mother and son still slept in the same bed. Even when dad was at home, the family of three slept in the same bed. No matter where she is at home, her bedroom is a bed 2 meters wide, because her son wants to sleep with them; When sleeping, the son has to eat milk to sleep, so until now, he has not been weaned;

Breakfast and dinner are eaten at home, and mom feeds them. When I was a child, I was afraid that my son would not eat well, so I chased after him. Now my son can't use chopsticks, and his hands are too dirty, so he has been feeding for more than ten years;

Chinese food is eaten at school, but the teacher can't feed it. My son either doesn't eat it or eats very little, so he rents a house next to the school. In this way, my son will have food after school, so that he will not be hungry enough to affect his physical development;

Fruits and so on, even bananas are cut by my mother and fed with a fork.

Every time I come to class, my mother always carries a big bag with her son's lunch, fruit, water and so on. During the break, the mother chased her son to drink water and eat fruit.

We looked at the mother and son and felt powerless. We want to solve it, but we can't change the parents' behavior. Many times, it is easy to change a child, but it is difficult to correct an adult's behavior. On the other hand, parents are children's first teachers. Children's three views, courtesy, honesty and shame, and cognitive enlightenment of things all come from their parents' energy. If the teacher's cognition and behavior are wrong, the child's future can be imagined. Even if the material is rich in the future, the spiritual energy is doomed to be barren! My first relative, the child is in the third grade, and my grandmother wants to feed him. Another relative gave birth to a granddaughter who used to get up in the morning to pee. In winter, her grandfather was afraid that she would catch cold, but let a child who was about to enter the fourth grade urinate in bed with a urinal. You don't like it.

I went back to my husband's house for the first time for the New Year and had dinner with his relatives. Everyone at the dinner table is sitting there eating, but the fourth aunt doesn't eat, chasing the grandson to feed.

Fourth Aunt's grandson is not a three-year-old child. He is over nine years old and can't even use chopsticks.

Mother-in-law said that every time she went to the dinner table, the child was only responsible for sitting in the back with her head in her hands and saying what she wanted to eat. Fourth Aunt took the dish and scooped up the soup to cool it before sending it to her mouth.

No one listened from the baby to the age of 9, fearing that the grandson was hungry, and the daughter-in-law made the child stand on her own feet and made the fourth aunt unhappy.

The son of Siyi's family was raised in this way. Fortunately, Mr. and Mrs. Sisi Lee work in a better place. They asked someone to find their son a leisure job in their hometown. My son is Ma Baonan, so I won't let my daughter-in-law interfere in my grandson's affairs.

A few years later, the daughter-in-law divorced her son, and Sisi Lee also blamed the daughter-in-law for being ungrateful. A rural girl is not satisfied with finding a son-in-law in the county.

It is estimated that as long as you are a little self-motivated, you can't spend your life with your husband and son.

This is the first time I have seen such a spoiled child.

10 years later, the son of the fourth aunt's family is still single. Apart from the last unrelated class, his monthly income is less than 2000 yuan. He just plays games to kill time and is always accused of abandoning him.

Her grandson also stayed at home, graduated from junior high school, and could no longer entrust others to find a job.

The fourth aunt is too old to protect herself, and she has to take care of her son and grandson. Cry at the mention.

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To be good to a child, we should first teach him to stand on his own feet and learn to adapt to the environment, instead of doing it for him everywhere.

Children will grow up sooner or later, and parents will be old. Instead of giving children superior living conditions, it is better to teach them survival skills as early as possible, so that they can step into society in no hurry and have the ability to support themselves.

To be good to children, we must learn to let go and let him grow up through trial and error.

A few days ago, I took my 4-year-old and 9-month-old son to swing on the playground of the community. One * * * has two swings, which are very popular. Children basically have to queue up to play.

It's finally our turn, and my son is very happy. But he had just played for 2 minutes when a boy wearing a school uniform came. According to visual inspection, he is in grade two or three.

This pupil, when he came over, said to my son, I want to play on the swing. On the other swing sat a big girl, and grandpa played with her. The son looked at him and dared not make any noise. He asked me for help.

I said, my little brother just played, and we have been in line for a long time. If you want to play, why don't you wait in line? I'll give it to you later.

The student left without queuing. As a result, soon came an aunt, the little boy's grandmother.

Aunt shouted when she came over, who won't let my grandson play on the swing?

I didn't speak.

Pupils pointed at me and said, just her, don't let me play.

Many people heard it on the playground.

I'm not used to being the center of attention. It was very depressing at that time. I'm just saying, line up if you want to play. We also lined up for 10 minutes, just in time for us to play.

But this aunt is not reasonable at all. She just said that I was as knowledgeable as a child and that I bullied her grandson.

I ignored her and continued to push my son to swing, because I felt that quarreling with her showed that I had no quality. But my son is obviously nervous. I comforted him and said, it doesn't matter, just keep playing. Mom didn't quarrel with others, just being reasonable.

My aunt thought I was scared when she saw that I didn't talk. Speak up, didn't you hear? My grandson wants to play on the swing. The swing is not yours either. Can't everyone take turns playing? Why can't you control it?

I took a deep breath and calmed down. I didn't want others to see the joke. So try to say calmly that we just played. You can queue up if you want to play. We won't play for long.

As a result, my aunt said that my grandson would go home to do his homework later. Let's play first.

I really couldn't hold back the fire at that time. I unconsciously raised my voice and said that I didn't have time to wait in line, or wait until I finished my homework. I've told you several times, if you want to play, go to the queue. Can't understand people?

My aunt is also angry. There is nothing my grandson wants that he can't get. Whether I do my homework or not, I have to give it to my grandson today.

Before I could speak, the little girl grandpa on the swing next to me couldn't stand it. Tell aunt that the swing is not yours, and we all line up to play. Your grandson wants to play with others. Why do you want to get out of the way?

Aunt said to uncle, what can I do for you? You can get out of the way My grandson has to play anyway.

Everyone around her is pointing at her, but she doesn't care, even a little proud. See how great I am? There is no defeat in the battle of Confucianism.

My son is scared. He said he didn't want to play. But I'm really at the top. I said, play, why not? I won't duck today and see what she can do.

Just then, my husband's phone called and said that he had arrived at the parking lot. My son vaguely heard his father's voice and suddenly cried, crying and shouting, Dad, I'm afraid someone will bully me and my mother and won't let me play on the swing.

My husband hung up the phone as soon as he heard it, and I knew he would arrive at the battlefield in about 10 seconds.

At this time, I calmed down. I said, aunt, you should go. My husband is coming. You spoil your grandson, and my husband treats his son like an eyeball, so he may not be able to come and argue.

Aunt obviously hesitated. At this time, the primary school students who caused the war were a little scared, pulling her grandmother and saying, let's go home, I won't play on the swing.

Aunt said as she walked, I tell you, I'm not afraid of you or your husband. How dare you hit an old lady like me? Now my grandson doesn't want to play, I still have to let you give it to me! She is not soft-lipped, but walks home honestly.

Before they left the playground, my husband came straight to us from the other side. By this time, my son had stopped crying. My husband came over and asked, where is he? Who bullied you?

I looked up at my aunt just now. She looked back at my husband who weighed more than 200 Jin and ran away with his grandson.

I said, people left and went home, but there was a little quarrel. No big deal. Let's go home too.

My husband took a look at the direction I was looking at, said nothing, and went home with his son in his arms.

Listen to other parents in the playground and say that this aunt is used to bullying. As long as her grandson wants to play, she never lines up and drives people directly. Someone always quarreled with her at first, but she was completely unreasonable. After a long time, everyone didn't want to be like her, but it encouraged her arrogance.

What kind of parents teach what kind of children, so the little boy is used to not waiting in line and getting what he wants by tough means.

I am used to children, but I can't lose the rules and principles. I'm afraid that I can't educate my children well, and others will help me educate them in the future, and the consequences may be beyond my or my children's ability.

Everyone has his own way of spoiling children. My sister spends all her money on food and clothing for her children. If you haven't graduated from high school, you can go to another city for a meal and spend thousands of dollars on a dress. And I never hit my child, and I almost never say "no" to my child. Bought four game consoles, ipad and laptops. Want to go to an amusement park? Go every week; Want to play football, drive her to practice playing games everywhere, and often go to other cities to play. She wanted to play badminton, so she hired a former world champion as a personal trainer and spent a lot of money. She wanted to experience the "Presidential Suite", so she booked her a room in Las Vegas for $65,438+05,000 a night, which was booked during working hours. Colleagues in China saw it and said with anger that the child was waiting for her at Starbucks, and a cup of coffee was reluctant to spend money for hours. People's morality has nothing to do with material enjoyment in life ... and then another colleague said that I really spoil children. I'm used to it when children become famous. However, the child is not used to being a vain or extravagant person. She must buy it if she thinks it is necessary. I want to buy her designer bags and clothes. If she doesn't think it is necessary, she insists on not buying it. Since I never go against her wishes, I will naturally not be strictly disciplined. She is unfilial and looks like an baiwenhang. Well, there is simply no baiwenhang that is too long.

My friend is very used to children. She said she wouldn't get an education until she was three years old. Is that everything depends on the children. But I haven't seen her since I was three years old. Now the child is only ten years old, fight with her. I wonder if this child will change when he grows up.

Most spoiled children are used by women. I'm not sexist or malicious, but what I hear and see around me are all women who are too used to it. Children still need their fathers to take care of them. It is a good thing that a father can't concentrate all his attention on his children when he takes care of them. What you and your children do is dominated by the father, not by the children. In addition, the principle for men to take care of their children is to live and not kill their adventurous and unknown exploration spirit. My children and mother are all kinds of works together. I look tired, but I am very obedient when I take them alone. He knew that if his father didn't agree with something, he wouldn't agree. It's no use touching and crying. This is good! !

As a kindergarten teacher, I have come into contact with all kinds of children. What shocked me most was a little boy over three years old. Let me tell you about the outrageous and immoral things that this little boy has done.

On the first day of entering the park, the little boy wore a famous brand and looked very handsome. His father came to see me off in a Land Rover with a big thick gold chain, which was very high-profile. I patiently communicated with his father about entering the park. The child and his father kept nodding, saying that they would listen to the teacher's arrangement. Seeing that the child had a good attitude, I accepted him without thinking too much. I didn't expect what the little boy did in the back directly ruined the three views.

Disrupting eating, talking loudly, pushing this down today, crying tomorrow, taking a nap without sleeping, and other children scratching their ankles while sleeping are all unbearable. What I can't stand most is that the little boy peeked at a little girl and lifted her skirt. After I found this problem, I communicated with his mother in time and wanted to educate the children together. Unexpectedly, her mother scolded our teacher for making trouble, wronged her son and ruined the child's reputation in the group. I told her in private.

After the director understands the situation, he directly withdraws from the park. On the day of withdrawing from the garden, the little boy and his father came to get the bedding. The child used the communication between the teacher and his father to pee in another child's locker. The reason is that they have had conflicts before, and they were shocked at that time. No one expected such a small child to behave so badly. After his father found out, he not only didn't discipline the child, but encouraged him to look at the child with pride. I'm sorry, no.

Later, the teachers held a meeting in the district. As soon as the teachers communicated, they found that all the kindergartens near the children had been there and were dismissed within two months. Now that the child is eight or nine years old, I heard that his parents can't control it, so I gave him a closed school.

It is the father's fault that the child doesn't teach. When children are young, parents don't care about teaching and don't make rules. When they grow up, they can't care. In the end, it is the children who suffer the most.