We should express our condolences to the dead. After all, it is sad to die young!
I just want to talk about my own thoughts on this matter. As many of my friends know, I never keep in good health or make up my face. I seldom open the health articles posted by my friends as long as there is the word health in the title. I always think that good health and longevity have nothing to do with health preservation.
I have quite a reason to say so.
A colleague of mine, my mother died at the age of 93. The old lady gave birth to 10 children, and finally only one colleague (son) was left. Some of the dead children died young, and some were paraplegic. They were born in a poor family. In the past, it was impossible to go to the hospital except Turku. Watching the children leave one by one, the old lady almost cried herself blind.
After graduating from medical school, my colleagues began to work in mines far away from home, and my parents stayed at home. Later, because my parents were old and nobody took care of them, I moved back to my hometown to work with me in the early 1980s. But their parents did not live with them in the county, but in the suburbs 3 miles away from the county.
After his father died (over 80 years old), his mother didn't want to come to the city to live with his son's daughter-in-law and grandson, and he still lived alone in the country, so his son had to go back to visit him often. The old lady is used to living in poverty and can't bear to part with anything. When her son comes back, he always leaves her something delicious. Colleagues said that every time he went back, he often smelled the smell of food as soon as he opened the cupboard. I scolded my mother for not dumping, and she said, "No, I even heard (dialect)", but my son refused to dump her.
Not only that, the old lady's generation mostly pickled pickles in jars, and the fresh vegetables they planted were reluctant to eat and sell. One year, at the invitation of a colleague, I took my mother to her home. The old lady was envious when she saw the clothes my mother was wearing. Because in our ordinary family, old people are too old to make new clothes. Still too poor, the concept will be outdated.
Under such conditions, the old lady didn't die until she was 93 years old, and she died in her hospital bed in less than a week, without dragging down future generations, and passed away peacefully. Is she healthy?
Tell me more about my 94-year-old mother. My mother is also the older generation who suffered a lot. She gave birth to eight children and outlived six of our sisters. Now the youngest is over 60 years old and still bathed in her mother's caress. Mom doesn't have all the conditions for a long life. Why do you say that?
Genes? None of my mother's family lives long. My grandparents died in their sixties, and my uncle died before his sixties. I only know that an uncle of my mother lived to be over 80 years old.
Personality? Mom is not a cheerful person, and she is sentimental all her life. Dad is older than mom 10 years old, but it is difficult for older women to enjoy her husband's tenderness. When dad was alive, we children were also influenced by mom, who took care of dad and ignored her. It was not until my father died that I suddenly woke up and lost my father. From then on, I turned all my love to my mother.
My mother has a bad sleep all her life, and her neurosis will accompany her all her life. When she was young, she often fell asleep by sleeping pills at night. My mother didn't talk about health care before. With six starving children, she had to do her best to save her children and husband. It's her turn not to talk about leftovers, but to make soup and water.
In the past 20 years, my mother has been able to take some health care products conditionally, but it is difficult for her to insist. She said she could eat. Mother's only health condition is that she can still eat and her digestive function is better. Now she can't move easily, but she has been "tossing" all day. She is hands-on and trusts no one. Worry is the "work" that she has never put down in her life.
I don't want to inherit my mother's longevity gene (if I can) because my mother has six children. Although I don't wait on my mother all the year round, my brothers and sisters are very filial and take care of my mother. But I don't have such conditions. Parents of the only child will not have sunny nights, and longevity may be a painful delay.
As the old saying goes, "Life is worse than death". China people always respect this old saying. Even if life is worse than death, many people still want to live. And I emphasized that "life is worse than death" many years ago, and now I hope so more strongly. Because we can't afford it, neither can our children. Longevity must be based on health and self-care.
So I want to say that there is no necessary connection between health preservation and longevity. There is nothing wrong with proper exercise. Excessive exercise is as harmful as overtreatment. Everyone lives according to their own wishes, no matter what they do, as long as they like it, they can be happy! Let us age as slowly as possible, and the later we get sick, the faster we die.